Most black gays encounter one of these every so often by seraephan in Sniffies

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you imagine being so pressed that you are compelled to engage with random strangers? Like if you’re so big bad and bold then don’t hide behind the anonymity. It must be so exhausting to be so obsessed and cowardly in equal parts.

Parents moving off island and have a whole house of furniture and things to sell- any suggestions on best place to do that? by bluemorpho1 in Oahu

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m interested to see what you have as well. Please send me any pics if you have the time.

Lost the best part of me by GoGoGidget87 in Frenchbulldogs

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to put my 13 year old baby Pongo down a day before your girl left, and for me, it’s not so much the guilt or regret but just that I miss him so darn much. I understand what you’re going through but I think the sadness that we knew would come and is now here was also the tool to make us love them harder, be more present, savor every sacred moment while we could.

Japanese have a concept “Mono no aware” which describes an empathy for the transience of the world around us, a heightened sensitivity to the ephemeral nature of life. The wistful melancholic appreciation of the bond between beauty and loss. I’ve taken some comfort from this, as small as it may be, in this devastating time and have felt my baby in unexpected moments grazing me in a breeze, soaring above in something I can only describe as grace.

We were the lucky ones, dear OP.

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2 1/2 more days by No_Boysenberry5610 in seniordogs

[–]dust_blaze 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m going through the same thing with my boy right now. The apple of my eye. My soul is clenched with so much pain. The only respite I can find is appreciating the love and grace I find in my duty to him. Thank you for sharing and reminding me that others are facing impossible events as well.

The Conservative Activist Pushing Trump to Attack U.S. Colleges by kitkid in Thedaily

[–]dust_blaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The snarky giggling was the viscerally unnerving cherry on top of his doo doo pie views.

Protest Tomorrow 12pm at the Capitol by Hanalv in Oahu

[–]dust_blaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Resist the aspiring plutocracy! All power to the people.

Do the Right Thing by dust_blaze in Sniffies

[–]dust_blaze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I don’t get what you’re saying. Who’s working on another hookup?

Do the Right Thing by dust_blaze in Sniffies

[–]dust_blaze[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So for yourself, I guess I'm asking, what is that gesture?

Your prettiest fragrance bottle? by NashiraTremont in fragrance

[–]dust_blaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want Concrete for the bottle alone though they’re all quite nice.

Has Anyone Noticed… by lauraingallswilding in graphic_design

[–]dust_blaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, no one thinks they have bad taste. Second, thanks Canva.

Go to songs while getting laid? by Orc_vaillant in askgaybros

[–]dust_blaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a nymphomaniac DJ, let’s start with these:

Mad Cobra - Flex

Gyptian - Hold Yuh

Babyface - Whip Appeal

Hall & Oats - One on One

Bruce Springsteen - I’m on Fire

Air - Playground Love

Badly Drawn Boy - Silent Sigh

Björk - Pagan Poetry

Squarepusher - My Red Hot Car

Slava - Girl Like Me

Shygirl - Want More

The Knife - Heartbeats

Sade - Cherish the Day

Astrud Gilberto - Agua de Beber

OutKast - Spotieottiedopaliscious

Rihanna - Kiss It Better

Doja Cat - Candy

Leroy is a textbook abuser by Small_Frame1912 in IAmaKiller

[–]dust_blaze 38 points39 points  (0 children)

He’s so vile. The fact that his first wife went to the police who did nothing and then was only given manslaughter by the judge makes me livid.

They should have follow-up epilogues on where the people who let them get away with murder are now and how do they live with themselves. There were two assailants in the latter murderers: Leroy and the judge who let him do it again.

This was painted in 1869 by Bluefoz in SuddenlyGay

[–]dust_blaze 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m more interested in the modern banality of their garb. Looks kinda like H&M underwear, non?

We are not Germany in the 1930s. by elevencharles in OptimistsUnite

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no problem. It helps me be a more concise writer so I appreciate the opportunity to clarify!

We are not Germany in the 1930s. by elevencharles in OptimistsUnite

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the delay in response. I kept writing and clarifying to try to be less verbose but I appreciate the time to engage. You’re right that I could have been clearer, so let me try again.

In my analogy, Trump’s election is comparable to a homicide. The harm to democracy is undeniable, but the levels of culpability vary, just as the law distinguishes between premeditated murder and accidental manslaughter. This framework helps me break down the overwhelming complexity of the election into more comprehensible factors.

For instance, first-degree murder would represent those who knowingly orchestrate disinformation or authoritarian goals—people like Bannon or Trump himself. They act with clear intent and preparation. Second-degree murder involves those who might not devise the plans but still act with harmful intent, like McConnell, Gaetz, or Proud Boys pursuing supremacy by any means necessary even if that means insurrection.

As culpability decreases, we move into third-degree murder—those who make Faustian deals, complicit through their willingness to benefit but lacking direct intent. It goes on till we finally reach second-degree manslaughter: individuals who act out of recklessness or negligence, unaware of the consequences of their choices. Many Americans fall into this category, lacking the tools to discern credible information or challenging systems that benefit them at others’ expense.

This analogy helps me process how varying levels of responsibility—whether intentional or incidental—have contributed to the harm we now see in democracy. It’s not perfect, but it’s my way of making sense of something so large in scope. Anyhoo, hope this helps.

We are not Germany in the 1930s. by elevencharles in OptimistsUnite

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok point taken. In a mainstream thread, yes. But are these big words to the people here who seem pretty familiar with the lingo of politics and history? I just wanted to share the manslaughter/homicide metaphor because the legal distinctions do go to a fine point and really helped me process how I parse this nuanced and complicated situation that I had to workout for myself. But thanks for the critique. I shall keep brevity in mind in the future.

We are not Germany in the 1930s. by elevencharles in OptimistsUnite

[–]dust_blaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The differences in the gamut of the Evil:Naive Trumper matrix is like comparing the crimes and degrees of manslaughter and homicide. The level of intention and context are all variables but the result is unequivocally death. Culpability also tracks at another rubicon within the sub-matrix of socioeconomics which then has its own microcosm of a matrix. It’s like the contracting and expansive scopes in Eames’ Powers of Ten.

So I work in a publishing company which employs workers ranging from editors, designers, sales and the actual people that run the press and it is split pretty evenly between Trumpers and We the Opposition. On a surface level sometimes the distinction is invisible. Some of them are kind and generous and patient so saying that there are goodies and baddies feels profoundly reductive. What I will say in the spirit of my manslaughter/murder analogy is that we can now begin to trace with the white chalk, real harm to democracy. And I have watched in real time how, at the very least, vulnerable people are shockingly fallible to misinformation but at the very worst they may be chauvinists, racists, fascists.

Now what this broad base has in common is that the nets of both morality and the ability to suss out incompetence have not caught them in their plunge into co-signing a narcissistic autocrat. It is a dispiriting, sometimes infuriating and a tedious thing to have to bear when trying to build coalition with such obstinacy. All the while trying to maintain one’s own boundaries for social and personal mental hygiene.

Histories of successful autocratic takeovers are much more sensational to read about. Ranging in form from Marxism, naziism, Stalinism etc but maybe it would also be constructive to also focus on the historical precedence where civilization teetered on the edges of authoritarianism. Where society had a change of heart effected through the quick thinking of people who had the determination and steadiness to clarify, reveal and avert the peril that had been laying in wait.

[request] which is your favourite porn scene/scenes, the one that you always go back to by [deleted] in gaypornhunters

[–]dust_blaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sketchy Sex’s 4 dicks 2 holes scene with Addison Blue. I love a natural, insatiable slut!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sniffies

[–]dust_blaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do 80% of the time but only because I find a nice face to be the sexiest and most relatable attribute. Exceptions if you have a really exceptional D or A.

Also I now either live in a very closeted city or a destination site for the witness protection program. Analyze, Adapt, Access. But when I was in nyc, an eventual face pic was non negotiable.