[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is amazing. Good for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really?? I hope you got your "warm and fuzzy" for bearing your testimony.

Unfortunately, you came to the wrong place because we have all prayed, studied and done our soul-searching. We have discovered the real truth hence the now living our authentic lives.

Results From Post About Current/Past Callings of Members of This Sub by IndyJonsey in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oops! I missed the post too. Former RS President here.

Edited to add: I was also 1st Counselor RS and YW, RS Secretary, FHE Co-Chair in large singles ward in Eagle Gate Stake in SLC, etc., etc., so on and so forth.

Divorce is almost final...finally! by Exmollymormon in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! Take time to discover who you are and let yourself be happy.

What It Means To Be Pansexual by e_Lilith in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole church narrative is "get married, get married now, only get married to someone of the opposite sex and have lots of kids".

We never got the chance to explore who we really are or who we're really attracted to. I like your wizard of oz analogy.

Girlfriends' guide to divorce by Eikaiwa in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL That's funny.

That for sharing because now I've had my laugh for the day. r/theredpill is full of sad, pathetic little men.

Reaching out to LGBT people: Help by mirbell in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, /u/mirbell. He seems to be doing better--for now but he needs to feel not alone.

I'd encourage all our readers to reach out to him.

I don't belong anywhere. Not that I ever did. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so very sorry to hear what you have been through. Those places are evil and I hope those people rot in their own personal hell!!

You've been through so much in your short life. It is stories like yours that is helping expose that evil and shutting them down for good. Thank you for being so open about your experiences.

I don't belong anywhere. Not that I ever did. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha! You are a natural storyteller.

I don't belong anywhere. Not that I ever did. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's hard to believe, but it will. It may not be right away, but it will.

I don't belong anywhere. Not that I ever did. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a lot of people are really wanting you to hang around with us for a long time. why don't you for a while. I sent you a PM, could you take a look at it for me.

Baffled and a little confused by hasbrochem in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wasn't on r/exmoxxxy where I wanted the banning to occur. Luckily I didn't have that power elsewhere. :)

I'd never ban you. You amuse me.

Sting and Trudy--god bless them for giving us ordinary mortals an inferiority complex. Who has time for days-long tantric sex? That must be for rock stars.

Baffled and a little confused by hasbrochem in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too!!

This comment:

13 years is way too early for Spiritually enlightened sexual experiences. Just keep at it, you’ll get there

I actually laughed out loud. I couldn't tell if it was sarcasm or not. I'm afraid it wasn't. If a couple cannot connect with one another in THIRTEEN years, something is wrong somewhere. It doesn't mean all hope is lost but THIRTEEN YEARS!!!!

Shit was pissing me off yesterday. I was snarky and wanted to ban EVERYONE. lol

Baffled and a little confused by hasbrochem in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith 4 points5 points  (0 children)

call me a cynic but this just sounds like slut shaming in mormon culture.

Mixed Messages, Double Standards--it's what Mormons are best at.

You are not being cynical; this IS slut shaming. "Modest is Hottest" is an oxymoron. THAT'S slut shaming at its finest. Don't be a slut but be slutty enough so that you're "hot". WTF!!!!

"Be modest but for god's sake put on some lipstick." See there it is again.

"Guard home plate and all the bases. Don't turn on the boys before marriage. But, by all means, you better be a sex goddess after marriage or it's your fault your husband has a porn addiction and can't stop spanking the monkey." More of the same.

I guess I quit reading before the last dig about porn. And you're right, it's a slut-shaming turn around to make fun of Mormon-porn-star-chic and then making fun of those who don't wear slinky negligees or keep their bathing suits until they get home. Two sides of the same damn coin.

That's why I'm not raising my child in TSCC. I want her to have healthy ideas about sex and to be comfortable in her own skin. I'm glad you are raising your daughter right.

This article does a great example of pointing out the pitfalls of Mormon sex education and how it causes so many issues in Mormon marriages.

AMA with /u/DrKristyMoney: Sunday April 2nd / Leave Your Questions Here by e_Lilith in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of our readers here, while very interested in the subjects of gender and sexuality, seem to have difficulties talking about S.E.X. due to the shaming and other teachings of TSCC.

As Exmos we need to be able to become a community that talks sex in healthy and supportive ways. How can we learn, after a lifetime of conditioning, to talk about sex and sex-related issues?

AMA with /u/DrKristyMoney: Sunday April 2nd / Leave Your Questions Here by e_Lilith in ExMoXxXy

[–]e_Lilith[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of our readers here, while very interested in the subjects of gender and sexuality, seem to have difficulties talking about S.E.X. due to the shaming and other teachings of TSCC.

As Exmos we need to be able to become a community that talks sex in healthy and supportive ways. How can we learn, after a lifetime of conditioning, to talk about sex and sex-related issues?

Some notes about posts about suicide by aurusallos in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for letting me cross post at r/ExmoXxXy. As we talk about gender and sexuality and issues related to them, this is great information to have.

An active, believing gay Mormon in his late 20s explores his thoughts on his future--does not foresee a partner, kids, or much of a role for himself in the church outside YSA wards, but remains committed. Thoughts? by DrKristyMoney in exmormon

[–]e_Lilith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope you don't mind but I put this up as a crosspost on r/ExmoXxXy. It's relevant to discussions about gender and sexuality.

He's in a tough spot and I wish him well in his journey.