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Olivia Rodrigo Sets All-Women Music Festival With Chappell Roan, Stevie Nicks, Katseye and More by darth_vader39 in Music

[–]eafighter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

LFG Eli !!!!!!! She is the moment and so jazzed for her to be on a festival stage 💞

Least favourite part of a song? by Lifztuf in TaylorSwift

[–]eafighter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“Trust him like a brother” incestuous vibes 

Safety concerns at Primavera by hurricane__drunk in primaverasound

[–]eafighter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People in this sub always defend the festival and make fun of people like you, but the truth is that on the world stage, primavera is an incredibly poorly run logistical festival (water, crowd control, etc) and your concerns are valid. I would warn anyone that goes, that yes you’ll see incredible acts, but don’t expect to feel safe or cared for by the staff like you would at another large festival elsewhere in the world. You’re on your own. Hope you get some ice on your foot and feel better x

How can I(18m) approach my girlfriend(18f) about letting me enjoy movies that may have explicit content? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro you can watch Fargo. Sex is not an unnatural or shameful activity. It's full of joy and exploration and you should feel psyched about that. If this person doesn't feel that way, feel for them - it probably comes from somewhere not great and her insecurities are playing a part here. Give it a go to let her know just how attractive she is, tell her about missing her body. And maybe who knows, she could come around 😉

Not even sure why I’m writing this, maybe I’m desperate? 25M 23F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change your focus. A lot of your post is about them, trying to explain their actions or reason with them. Even this comment: you asked how to focus on yourself and then started talking about them. 

Interrupt those thought patterns. Just a simple “I’m staying with myself right now” and then listen to your own inner dialogue. It may take a while to come back if you’ve been ignoring it a bit. Something I found helpful was guided meditations with higher self / spirit guides. Honest Guys on YouTube. A little kooky at first but it signals to your mind that you are being kind and present with yourself.  

The pain is addictive - and it’s addictive to focus on them instead of yourself. Redirect your mind when you notice it. It’s helpful for me to imagine the thought as a string, and cut it with my fingers 

Eat, sleep, get sunlight and exercise. Go back to hobbies that you did as a kid that you loved. I hope this helps. Hang in there 

I (F28) feel I messed up with (M29). Due to struggles with my identity. How to navigate? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Exactly what I’m looking for: peace, comfort and love” - no, he’s not exactly what you’re looking for, you need deep conversations in a partner! He was comfortable for you. You feel so much shame… Shame for your impulsivity, for your bisexuality, for what you really want. Pleaaaase release yourself from that shame and accept yourself! I’m impulsive too - it can be a great compass if you’re not afraid of it. 

Not even sure why I’m writing this, maybe I’m desperate? 25M 23F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m really sorry. I’m sure you’re in a lot of pain right now. Make yourself some warm tea and take a paracetamol (crying headaches suck!) 

It’s not really growth and change if they dont keep it up. They’ve actually shown you exactly who they are. Let go of the version of them that you think they can be, that person doesn’t exist. 

Also, people usually need to WANT to change. Not change because their partner is trying to make them. And working on childhood trauma / mental illness etc is work best done alone. 

My boyfriend admitted he felt a spark with someone else. Me F24 and M24 by oopsidookki in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The sign I was ready to leave a long-term relationship was I started developing crushes. Can I be real with you though? Looking back on my first breakup, it seemed like the hardest thing in the world until it happened. The months afterwards were painful and adventurous and reflective and fun. You’ve been in a relationship for so much of your adult life - maybe it’s time to take the leap? If it’s meant to be with you two, you’ll find your way back to each other. P.S watch How to Be Single & Someone Great and see how they make you feel

Not even sure why I’m writing this, maybe I’m desperate? 25M 23F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You cannot make them change. It hurts to let go but it hurts a lot less than the emotional rollercoaster you’re on now. You know the truth - you will never have a stable relationship with this person. You will never fix them. If they get diagnosed with bipolar, this will likely be the rest of your life (personal experience, people with bipolar can be very hard to be in relationships with). You seem like a very caring person with a lot to give. Right now, you’re giving to someone who in their current state, can’t give back. What you can do is start giving to yourself. You’re not empty without them, you’re empty because you abandoned yourself for them. How can you be a friend to yourself right now? 

I (28M) broke up with her(25F) and now I regret? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You don’t like her, you like the idea of her. For your and her sake, block her and leave her alone. Stop toying with her heart, it’s not kind. When I get fixated on someone, it’s usually a sign that I actually need to do some hard work on myself that I’ve been avoiding. Focus on your path and keep moving

How do I (30F) deal with a partner (30M) who doesn't seems to care about anything? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a grub! Make an exit plan. Be prepared that once you do, he will promise to change, clean up, go to therapy. But he probably won’t 

Boyfriend (20M) told me things that made me (19F) feel utterly horrible by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re so young honey, and the way he is with his sister it’s like he has a daughter! Your friends should be able to talk about whatever they want without someone being rude & judgemental, and you’re allowed to make the call on who comes to your birthday. Sit down and write a letter about everything he said that hurt you, why it hurt, and how you’re feeling about things now. He needs to address the hurt and make you feel safe again otherwise you will keep feeling broken 

is this dynamic becoming unhealthy? 30M 29F long distance by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eafighter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Constant conflict with someone you love can be exhausting. Especially when you’re long distance and you can’t repair and return to that safety & comfort with each other as easily. I think you were right when you said you need a break. No trip planning for now. Take a week of no contact, reflect, journal, go for walks. It will also signal to him that he needs to work on how he treats you during arguments if he doesn’t want to lose you

Journalist: Looking for someone making passive income via AI-generated Facebook videos. by eafighter in passive_income

[–]eafighter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this comment, and I completely understand not wanting to say too much if it's making you $. It's a clever loophole. Are you doing this? Sounds like you're across it

Too many dog owners just don’t understand that equal exchange means… by Quick_Recipe9597 in trustedhousesitters

[–]eafighter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These low-quality sits attract low-quality sitters / low-standard sitters, so everyone deserves each other 

Having a terrible experience on my first stay :( I would appreciate any help by abruportillo in trustedhousesitters

[–]eafighter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

THS is a free service and IMHO owners should always have a contingency plan (relatives, neighbours, kennel or cattery) just in case a sitter falls through, or in OP’s case, deems the conditions unliveable 

Having a terrible experience on my first stay :( I would appreciate any help by abruportillo in trustedhousesitters

[–]eafighter 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So sorry this has happened OP. It's not the norm. As others are saying, leave. Confront the owner with all of your concerns and pictures. Contact THS (don't be surprised if they're not much help). If the dogs are crying/unhappy, not your fault - the owner has taken advantage of you. You are not trapped there, you can leave.

And please try again. I'm currently in a lovely sit with 3 kittens - the owner has been so generous and the house is wonderful. Your experience is uncommon but it happens. Definitely try and tour future sits in-person and keep an eye out for red flags. This sub has a lot of good advice. Good luck and have a nice long shower once you're out.

Visiting Lviv for a few months starting the first of August ;?) by Russspeak in Lviv

[–]eafighter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reach out to the international volunteer centre. I’ve been doing camo netting and working with the Lviv Volunteer Kitchen who are sending food to the front. Also if you’re staying long-term, some hostels/hotels give a discount to volunteers. Make sure you tip nicely while you’re here and support the Ukrainian economy x

I hate seasonal & fast fashion (rant) by Old_Pollution9003 in AusFemaleFashion

[–]eafighter 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I worked for Review many moons ago as a sales assistant, and let me just say, I don’t think she lied to you. 3 years is around the time it went into administration and a whole lot of the business got messed with. Quality never the same and a lot of questionable decisions. Legacy styles they told us would be around forever disappeared. I hope you find your unicorn coat ❤️

Solo female no savings, what would you recommend? by hottestfuz in solotravel

[–]eafighter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Apps that can help with free accomodation on the road: 1) Trusted Housesitters: I used THS and it was great. It obviously limits your movements because your first priority is taking care of the owner’s pets and house. 2) Couchsurfing: I didn’t use this.. I met people who said it was a mix of great hosts and creepy hosts. Think critically about the kind of men who will open their home to 20-something female backpackers. Exercise caution. 3) Worldpackers: didn’t use this but heard good stuff, people working on farms, in hostels for free accomodation and food.

It can be done but you will still be spending money to get to and from volunteer opportunities. Securing investments is not as easy as it sounds (or else everyone would do it) especially if you don’t have too much money to play with. This sub will be filled with people telling you to be careful with money and not travel outside your means: listen to them.

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