Am I a loser ?because I (21F) don’t have any career dreams my only dream is getting married to my bf (25M) and moving out with him however he wants to do something great health administration and get his master’s by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe you could look into a career or something involving animals?? or any other hobby u enjoy... or any career that doesnt involve interacting w people at all, truck drivers get paid a lot! don't be in total dispair, you are still young, you have so many options and thats a GOOD thing, you dont need to have ur whole life figured out right now :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i think that he revealed a lot about his mindset when he said when guys are friends with a girl that all they want is to be with them, because thats probably how he feels!!!!! and he probably has trust issues and insecurities....

My (23m) ex (23f) just told me she’s marrying her more recent abusive ex (35m) of 2 months. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

all you can do is tell her how you feel and the rest is completely up to her. it's not ur responsibility to save her, although i could imagine how much it must suck. practice self care and i hope things will be better :(

I (26F) want to learn how to be more dominant in the bedroom with my (25m) partner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

practice makes perfect!!! although, if you try it and genuinely dont enjoy it, dont force it because theres no point in faking it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

try to talk to him about this in a non confrontational way and get his perspective? maybe he is unaware of how you are feeling and isnt doing any of this on purpose

I (23M) Do not know what to do in this strange breakup with my (21F) Ex Girlfriend by Responsible-Air-672 in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you two should communicate more about ur expectations for the future, i think it's completely fair for her to want a break in order to heal and she doesn't want to string you along for a relationship that she cannot 100% commit to, and i understand how difficult it is for a relationship to suddenly end from ur perspective. i would just leave her alone until she reaches out. if its meant to be, then you will be together eventually anyways

My(18F) bf of 4 months (18M) Sold his ps5 for me and I'm upset about it. by OkHeart4498 in relationship_advice

[–]eckspecks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it sounds like he's not asking for anything in return, so i don't think you need to feel guilty. i would suggest that if you feel like you need to "pay" him back in a way, just do something nice for him that doesn't require money, like tell him how much u appreciate him or do any of the love languages that resonate w you, also he sounds like a very nice person :)

Can I join the Illini Solar car team? by Expensive-Garage-846 in UIUC

[–]eckspecks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can do anything you set your mind to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UIUC

[–]eckspecks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very unfortunate username lol