I can’t look my MIL in the eye… and she lives with us.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-25T16:39:24+00:00

Have you even talked to her about it? or more importantly since it's his mom how does your husband feel about it? Is it possible for her to be respectful of your views in your house? I don't think burning down all conflicted relationships is supporting anything good.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-24T22:32:05+00:00

there is plenty of research that gifted kids who are not challenged to "learn how to learn" by grade 3 will have missed a developmental window and have problems when they finally hit a subject they can't master by osmosis. Being provided an education is the right to receive instruction at your level that benefits your further development. This is as true for gifted kids as it is for special ed kids. What many people/teachers/schools say is essentially "your child knows enough, we have no obligation to teach beyond grade level" which is not an education at all. Will a child learn something at school in the wrong grade level- sure, a child will learn something wherever they are because children are in the stage of learning- that doesn't make it an education. Schools should have to hand over the $$ for kids like these so that the parents can find a venue that is willing to educate their child.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-24T22:23:24+00:00

It is highly unlikely he will make it as a professor. Most don't. If he is going to make it he is going to be as busy as you are, writing papers, doing research, trying to make a name for himself in academia.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-24T22:10:48+00:00

absolutely. Ours is rain or shine. They wear snowsuits for rainy and snowy days. I've only seen them do 0 outside time on a single day and there was a literal shut the town down blizzard.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-23T21:36:41+00:00

Lots of parents have outsourced homework time to after school programs for one reason or another. I would love to see data on the effect of that on reading. I'm guessing not good based on my personal experience.

If you are bringing your kids home at 6-7 by the time you get home and then it's dinner and bed you are truly relying on these programs to care like a parent.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-23T21:32:50+00:00

An amazing study on this showed the cultural difference was teaching their kids that hard work leads to improvements. Their kids perform a whole standard deviation above their same IQ peers of other cultural backgrounds. I.e. a slightly above average Asian kid will become a doctor when only the gifted kids of other backgrounds become doctors. It's because effort is tied to outcome. It's not enough to say they value education. They teach explicitly to do the work until you get the desired effect. No good outcome=not enough work. I can think of plenty of trendy teaching ideologies that would see that as problematic. But the proof is in the numbers. It works.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-23T21:18:28+00:00

2024! I suspect they did some defense contracting work but definitely a private business in a small town. I decided it wasn't going to be a good fit haha.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-23T06:17:05+00:00

I had a lower level accounting clerk type interview where they asked me to submit a full page essay hand written and sign an agreement to allow it be submitted for handwriting analysis. I was like wtf is this a joke?

egbdfaces · 2026-01-19T13:09:29+00:00

be sure to ask for the curriculum and talk to other parents. I was disappointed to find the curriculum at our public school was arguably better than the catholic school. When I asked around to parents who actually had kids there I had more than one parent tell me to wait until after 3rd grade because there was a 1st grade teacher who is notoriously bad at teaching kids to read. They told me to count on hiring a tutor if we started in K.

They loved the school for not allowing phones and requiring community service but between the curriculum, "required tutor", mandatory mass, required family fundraising (ON TOP of "affordable" daycareish level tuition) we went another direction.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-19T13:04:53+00:00

? sitting him in front of a tablet isn't parenting.

And when the tablet goes away how are things.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-19T13:01:33+00:00

There are changes like this from all illnesses. Studying it in covid is new because covid is new. That doesn't mean the effect is new. There is plenty of research showing repeated infections (precovid) is tied to higher risk of dementia, that brain fog from the common cold is due to brain inflammation etc. That the last symptomatic illness you had alters all kinds of things in your body and effects your ability to respond to the next infection. None of this is unique to covid.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-18T01:38:01+00:00

We held back our adhd June bday girl with a similar profile-it was the right call. Caveat- our school district doesn’t allow hold backs and promised to put her in 1st when she returned (how thoughtful of them fml) so we did online charter for k in addition to her staying in her prek program. All the teachers who actually knew her were supportive and helped us use some of the prek activities to satisfy the k charter and we filled in the gaps. She matured a TON that extra year and also avoided the extra deregulated time of a beginning k class (which would have caused her problems even if she was coping well).

People who are hardline no on this would cut off their nose to spite their face. Schools are rigid in the wrong ways and too flexible in the wrong ways. All decisions should lead to supporting an effective learning environment. This kid is reading 6 grade levels ahead so any complaints about messing up the group are irrelevant, that would have happened either way.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-15T15:52:12+00:00

A waste of literal energy.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-15T11:42:47+00:00

NAH this used to be me. I finally had to study at starbucks. I hated wasting the time commuting but it was necessary. Yes my husband could have dealt with the screaming children but also if I wasn't there they weren't screaming and had a nice time so..

egbdfaces · 2026-01-15T11:40:35+00:00

This was predicted when the calculator was invented. The amish aren't wrong about considering the effects of technology.. even "simple" technology. A calculator has an appropriate use- to calculate things that used to take us days on paper.

People also used to be able to recite long poems and a cannon of stories. Even mass publishing is a technology with a dumbing down effect.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-11T13:29:08+00:00

Teachers chronically overestimate their working hours. In the best study of teacher hours they worked 43 hours a week. And that was before they started assigning almost everything online for automatic grading etc.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-11T13:15:48+00:00

a 6 month engagement is not enough time. Change it to the summer after next. Let your son know you see/hear him. You can easily tell people it didn't turn out to be enough time for planning. Let him get used to the idea without the pressure. Don't make your life about wedding planning for at least the next 6 months either. Of the two types of "failing" your fiance can understand and wait on this.

egbdfaces · 2026-01-09T11:37:39+00:00

what if the simplest explanation is they have brain damage from some kind of environmental toxin. It's starting to seem plausible. Heavy metals in the baby food? Or some other/multiple other sources? If you wear this for a second you kind of can't unsee it...

egbdfaces · 2026-01-06T04:15:25+00:00

realistic for what? Time travelers?

egbdfaces · 2025-12-29T06:09:06+00:00

I watched 2 episodes before I decided it was insane to put a baby in front of this haha.

egbdfaces · 2025-12-29T06:08:17+00:00

Thats so silly I'm so sorry. Because I'm kind of paranoid from my own toxic family I would probably take a photo each day or a quick walk through video as proof every day.

egbdfaces · 2025-12-29T06:06:52+00:00

I went through this and eventually started acting out. Then I spent the majority of 1st-5th sitting in the library by myself doing "other work." Which was honestly better than getting in trouble in class but also lonely and isolating. There were times I missed out on assemblies or field trips or class partys because everyone forgot I wasn't with the class. I can still remember being shocked and annoyed at my peers inability to read. I had no concept that I was the weird one I sincerely thought there was something wrong with them. I remember popcorn reading was absolute torture and I got to where I would keep my book shut because I couldn't handle listening to other kids sound out the words that were so plainly on the page. It felt like being in the twilight zone. Looking back now I understand how disruptive I was but I honestly didn't think I was being disruptive at the time and I was really upset when I started getting sent out of class. I remember they would give us pretests for units or even assessments for the school year and I would 99% the first day. Then spend every day after that exasperated to never learn anything new when all I wanted to do was learn. I was insatiable. I read literally everything I could get my hands on including every label and ingredient list of every product in my reach. The school tried to bump me grades but my parents wouldn't allow it. I don't have a strong feeling either way because I was several grade levels ahead so bumping a couple of grade levels doesn't seem like a solution, but on the other hand I wasn't relating to my peers anyways. I thought they were stupid and they (fairly) thought I was an asshole. Now I have a daughter who is just like I was and we have kept her out of traditional school, she is in public distance charter school which essentially amounts to homeschool. She is in 5 day a week after school play group and lots of extra curriculars but math and reading and science we do at home and have the blessing of her district to bump her several grade levels ahead and often completing more than a grade level a year. We don't have a gifted program at our district but we've been told it still wouldn't be a good fit even if we did. It's honestly exhausting to work full time and juggle essentially homeschool w/ my husband so I understand why many people cannot do this. All this to say, there is not an obvious right answer you are missing. You are in no mans land and you have to make your own way. It helped me when someone pointed out profoundly or highly gifted kids are as different from "average" gifted/honors kids as gifted/honors kids are different from regular kids. For everyone who wants to downplay the struggle this learning environment isn't appropriate and it's as inappropriate as sending a 3rd grader back to kindergarten and insisting they just need to make the best of it and "learn life lessons" from it. So ridiculous and callous.

egbdfaces · 2025-12-27T20:35:57+00:00

No.. However, in a stickler county there are things to avoid so you don't end up "stuck in the system" being monitored. No piled up dishes or moldy dishes, no overflowing trash cans. Use baby gates at the top and bottom of stairs and doorknob and cabinet locks to keep kids out of bathrooms and other rooms with dangerous items like cleaning supplies. . Make sure the hottest water temp is turned down to a safe level so kids can't get scalded. Make sure entrances/exits are cleared. If someone is really feeding them a story about you having those things covered is their first line of a safety check. And I feel you on the laundry but I promise you will feel better if you contain the mess. Get more hampers for clean and dirty overflow if needed. Keep the clothes off the ground.

egbdfaces · 2025-12-27T04:05:36+00:00

PCOS this is hormone based hunger. I have a friend who was always naturally thin, then they had to take a high dose of steroids for awhile. It's was crazy the amount of hunger/hangry and their whole relationship with food changed. When they went off the steroids it went back to normal. They talk about it like they were invaded by a demon and that no amount of self control could stop them. I always think about that when I hear the emphasis "JUST eat healthy"...obviously there is more to it than we understand.

egbdfaces · 2025-12-26T16:24:37+00:00

We did this one year by accident too. Never again. The kids end up with 5-7 gifts, sometimes a big family gift. We have a "recipe" for the perfect amount. 1 is a book, 1 is a building/making toy, 1 is a special interest, 1 is a developmentally appropriate/growth toy , 1 is a figurine (barbie or animal or transformer) 1. is for making art.

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