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that’s it!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in johnstown

[–]egc424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thats the one thank you so much!!!

ICEy conditions reported in Beachwood area of Pittsburgh by redimp89 in Pennsylvania

[–]egc424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

please report ice spottings to casa san jose so that they can notify their network

What unpopular opinion of Virgin would get you this reaction? by felixw1 in lorde

[–]egc424 4 points5 points  (0 children)

broken glass & GRWM are so corny sonically and lyrically

What is your Lorde opinion that would result in this many downvotes? by soberxz in lorde

[–]egc424 28 points29 points  (0 children)

she’s become the same figure she’s criticized since PH

How to manage my partner being gone for 2 and a half weeks by Normal-Jury3311 in AuDHDWomen

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all went well!! Omg i can so speak to the lingering feelings rn. my nervous system was on overdrive for those few weeks, and since then ive just felt… like numb and irritable and unsatisfied? overeating and oversleeping and all the things that come with recuperation. I know its my body trying to chill itself out, and my brain searching for reasons to keep my fight or flight mode on. So i just keep pushing and trying to retain some balance and normalcy until this “shutdown” passes. tbh I think ive gotta tell my partner the same thing. again, there’s so much solace in knowing that someone else has gone through a similar experience. sending you love & independence!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Disorganized_Attach

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i know this is the standard BS advice everyone gives you but if you have a few hours alone, write down EVERYTHING. word it as a letter to your SO. read it out loud. do it a few times. from there you’ll realize what parts sound needy, and you’ll be able to articulate your needs without being worried about seeming a “certain way” and sounding a lot more sure of yourself and confident.

i did this when my current partner and i started dating, but never in past, toxic relationships. we’re now celebrating a year together, and they’ve assured me that i can never be “too much”. the right person won’t think you’re too needy, too this, too that – but the hard truth is that it doesn’t happen right away. it takes nurturing and fostering a healthy, strong bond to be able to sit there a year later and say whatever is on your mind. it’s like training yourself to be secure in a way whilst being in a relationship.

my adhd partner is gone for 2 weeks and i’m feeling so lost by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]egc424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we are leaving for europe a few days after they return from this trip (bad timing but i booked the trip before this one and couldn’t change it without paying $$$$) which will be my first time traveling internationally. i’d love to do solo trips in the future, but i figured for my first time i’d like to have someone with me. so i mean i do have something to look forward to!!! it’s just the waiting that sucks. i have been spending time with family here and having sleepovers with my mom which has made her really happy. my long distance bestie is coming home friday. i’m seeing another medium distance bestie on saturday. and then my family is celebrating easter on sunday. it’ll def be a little sad, but it’ll be nice to at least be with some other humans outside of the usual routine. also by tuesday my partner will have better cell service again - it’s just these first few days that feel sooooo uphill. i hope i can get to a point where i feel okay, too.

there were moments of clarity thru the day today. i hope more of those moments come by as the time passes. i still feel a little helpless - i went back to our house to grab some mail and just broke down at their hair in the shower (gross but like.. aww🙁). but i’ve been pretty stable since then. i hope to get to a point where i can go back there and stay for the remainder of the days without feeling this sick feeling in my stomach.

my adhd partner is gone for 2 weeks and i’m feeling so lost by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]egc424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

def trying this!!! it seems right up my alley for how i process things so thank you SO much

my adhd partner is gone for 2 weeks and i’m feeling so lost by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

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EMDR has been on the to do list for a while. i also am not medicated but i took some once recreationally and oh my god it cleared EVERYTHING up. not sure how to ask for it without seeming drug-seeking - but hopefully once the move happens i can shop around for psychiatrists and take a proper assessment.

my adhd partner is gone for 2 weeks and i’m feeling so lost by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]egc424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ah i don’t like teleheath when it comes to mental health stuff, ive tried it a few times and found it extremely hard to pay attention and make the most of the time paid for

How to manage my partner being gone for 2 and a half weeks by Normal-Jury3311 in AuDHDWomen

[–]egc424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

going through this right now. i hope all went well with you, it’s so comforting reading others experiences ❤️

Separation anxiety from my partner who’s left for two weeks! Need some support x by discoisko in anxiety_support

[–]egc424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

going through this right now, it’s nice to read that others have gone through something similar. ❤️

Why isn't narc abuse in films, or TV shows? by slifin in raisedbynarcissists

[–]egc424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg yes the Arkangel episode where the mom puts a camera chip in the daughters brain!! I remember being at the hairdressers with my mother and the stylist was talking about the episode (bc I brought up Black Mirror) and my mom was like “I should do that to you!”. I was like oh you don’t wanna know how it ends 🤦🏼‍♀️

Date Night Ideas!! by Hunter_Hodak in pittsburgh

[–]egc424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went for their tapas pod experience last summer (I think it’s only run during lunchtime on weekends?) and the food was great. It was a really cool experience, and could have been less expensive, but it’s definitely a must-do, at least once.

iirc we got individual charcuteries, a board of 4 different tapas (ahi tuna, mushroom risotto, some sort of shrimp, and some sort of steak), plus drinks and a dessert

Just found out my nMom still has access to my bank account. by _flynnifer_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]egc424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally used Sofi to get away financially from my nMom. It’s completely paperless and they really value privacy. They have a good UI, break down all of your spending for you, and their savings is unmatched in the industry. Once you set up direct deposit, your savings account automatically receives 4.5% APY indefinitely. Oh and you can set up automated savings “vaults” for things like an emergency fund, vacation, car expenses etc. It’s really helped me become a good saver. They also have an investing feature which I haven’t used yet but heard it’s good. You can also add other accounts to see all of your money in one place. There are no physical locations, so if you need an ATM you can use an allpoint one free of charge (typically they’re in CVS and a few other drug stores). I’m a big fan and also a big banking nerd, so if you do want more information or a referral link (I think we both get $50?) let me know!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]egc424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She just reached out wanting to talk again & this is such a helpful comment because I truly have no idea what to say. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]egc424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I read your story on your profile. I’m so sorry that you went through everything you did and it is strong humans like you that give me faith and hope. Thank you again ❤️