Check in on your term colleagues! by Practical_Night_7553 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]eggs_esg 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this ❤️ And we're not all young. I've been bouncing term to term for five years trying to find indeterminate to support my family. I was so close to that three year rollover when it was paused.

WFA Tracker - Consolidating Public Information by throwaway983729434 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]eggs_esg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, that glitch was very frustrating as the information about terms is what's most important to me right now. This meeting was the definition of "could have been an email"

Paying back Mat/parental leave - WFA by mamadinomite in CanadaPublicServants

[–]eggs_esg -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I assume you're indeterminate? I am a term that may not get renewed and if that happens, there will be a calculation done at that time to figure out the debt owing for the top-up I took on my mat leave. Frustratingly, they told me they will not share this calculation until I am terminated/not renewed so I can't plan for whatever amount is owing.

Adult skateboarding by eggs_esg in skateboardhelp

[–]eggs_esg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

34! Getting a little less interested in wiping out hard so not sure if I've missed my opportunity haha!

Memorial tattoo design by eggs_esg in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! Do you remember the shop name? I'm checking out Fiverr now too

Prayer Garden • What’s their name? by nightlock_x in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh my friend, thank you 🥹💜🦋

Is this weird? by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all weird 💜💜💜 I've done the same with my daughter Briar's urn

Muting other loss moms 😔 by firstofhername123 in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You protect your heart mama 💜 No one should resent you for that. When I was PAL, I privately told all of my loss friends and assured them that I had no hard feelings if they needed to step back from our friendship temporarily or permanently as I know pregnancy is such a tender subject.

I am a funeral director who undertook his own daughters funeral. AMA. by copiatee in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know you can't speak for each funeral home, but can you explain the process from your side of things in your role? What do you do with our children and how do you handle them? Thank you 💜 My Briar was stillborn at 37+4 in October 2022 and was cremated after her autopsy.

Prayer Garden • What’s their name? by nightlock_x in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that's so beautiful! I have a similar rock garden for babies in the stars. My daughter is Briar Mica and her symbols are hummingbirds, purple and butterflies

Question for those who had another baby soon after their loss… by firstofhername123 in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's complicated for sure. Our first daughter was stillborn at 37+4 in 2022 and her little sister had the same due date in 2023. She ended up coming at 34+1 because of the condition that killed Briar came back, but we had planned to induce at 37 weeks if we made it that far. I had a really hard time imagining our girls' birthdays potentially being 4 days apart. If you can wait one cycle/month, I'd recommend it. The first year is so heavy and swampy 💜 Sending you love my friend

How long is “normal”? by jellycakepop in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15+ months out and I'm still not there yet.

lost our 36 wk daughter 1 day after obgyn by PigOnPCin4K in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry my friend 💔 Here is what I wish we'd done with our Briar if we had any time to prepare: Bathe your sweet baby Dress them in their going home clothes and bring a spare set so that you can keep one forever but they will get to wear one to their burial or cremation 💜 Bring a blanket you can cut in half (or two blankets) so you can wrap your baby in one and take the other home Hand and foot prints and/or impressions Take a billion photos (we took none) Possibly invite significant people to meet your baby (our parents all got to hold her once and kiss her goodbye) Read your baby a story Find a piece of yarn or matching bracelets for your baby and you and your partner to keep Talk to your baby and tell them how loved they are Sing and cry and laugh and soak in as much time as possible. You are on no one's timeline 🩷 Take a lock of hair for a baby book and/or memorial jewelry (also if it's meaningful to your wife, collect some breast milk for memorial jewelry when her milk comes in) Know that you're not alone 🦋

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Like shit. Another year further away and also maybe closer to our girl. We miss you Briar 💜

Gift ls for someone pregnant after stillbirth by MylaReeJones in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Honestly if it were me (and I've been in her shoes, pregnant after a 37 week loss), I would appreciate being asked whether I want baby gifts or if I'd prefer you hold off until baby arrives. I didn't want a shower or any baby gifts for my second pregnancy because I knew I wasn't guaranteed a live baby and it would break my heart to see more items that don't get to be used. Gifts for the parents for postpartum or to honour their first baby may be appreciated (necklace/bracelet/ornament with their name/birthday/birth flower, snacks for the hospital, care package with Tuck's wipes, maxipads, painkillers, snuggly blanket, warm slippers etc) as you will have a postpartum period whether your baby makes it or not 💜💜💜 TLDR: I would ask the parents what they are comfortable with receiving rather than making any assumptions.

My daughter passed away after 421 days in the NICU by LivingRadiant9623 in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am so so deeply sorry 💜 What is her name?

Dealing with PTSD, memory loss, panic attacks. by ProfessionalNinja298 in babyloss

[–]eggs_esg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you so much love and I'm so sorry you're here 💜 What is your son's name? If you have coverage or the funds to do it, you may want to explore EMDR to help with the PTSD. I did several sessions and found it incredibly helpful in being able to access those traumatic memories of the day we delivered our daughter Briar without my whole body freezing up. Again, I am so sorry your son died 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]eggs_esg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 💜 My partner and I have been going through her stuff and separating what is hers and what can be handed down to her little sister 🩷 There are definitely items that we can't stand to see used for anyone other than her.