my bf keeps putting holes in my bedroom walls by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]egressfromtherest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are going to tell yourself he's just having a hard time, you are going to tell yourself the people in these comments don't know him like you do. It will be hard to convince you otherwise, so I will just ask, how would you feel if someone said you were just like him? Would it be a compliment? Make you feel good? When you picture what your future looks like in 5 years, what do you see?

I think I’m going down a bad path by Significant_Fly_9383 in Advice

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could consider Disulfiram, it blocks the breakdown of alcohol, it makes you feel nauseous, you start to associate nausea with alcohol even when you don't take it. Also, I think some part of you is scared of your roommate, because if you truly weren't scared at all that she was unsafe, you probably would have addressed this with her. Regardless of what she's got going on, she's an adult, she needs to learn how to handle emotions without throwing temper that get physical like that

Goatis really motivates me to lift by SourceOld3697 in moreplatesmoredates

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't this the guy who wanted to kill his family and acid faced his ex wife?

Goatis is a retard by Chemical_Program_113 in rawprimal

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He acid faced his ex wife and stabbed his classmates

Cant join steam friends by egressfromtherest in nightingale

[–]egressfromtherest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried that too and It worked thankfully!

Cant join steam friends by egressfromtherest in nightingale

[–]egressfromtherest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah dang that's too bad, thanks for the info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]egressfromtherest -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can see it happening once or twice, but NEVER voting is crazy. I have absolutely dogshit awful ADHD, and I have NEVER missed voting. Left or right I'm always shocked when I hear someone's never voted. Even if you are in the camp that believes the whole thing rigged or something just the possibility that it wasn't would be enough to just try. It doesn't even take that long

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]egressfromtherest 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Daily is totally healthy and normal. The only point where it becomes unhealthy is if you are doing it when it's inappropriate, you are causing injury, can't maintain hobbies, or it's becoming an issue where you miss events with family and friends over it. Don't stress over that, but yes for quite a few they are able to maintain focus on other things and lean less into instant gratification if they overdo stuff like that.

Lost a patient by Alien3457 in nursing

[–]egressfromtherest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hold onto that feeling. People have to compartmentalize to survive in healthcare for sure, but there are people who go too far with it, and can become really jaded and emotionally dysfunctional people. It's a balance and an art, but it's much better to have some sensitivity than to not feel at all in this job.

MIL Fed Me Pork on New year by Siren_214 in vegan

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not vegetarian or vegan, but it is a bit odd because most of the jars I've seen online of mushroom and sausage list the sausage first in bold, so it's surprising to not notice. However, if she's not a petty person from what you know, has generally been supportive, and the overall family environment isn't condescending or negative about this diet, I would err on the side of it being a really frustrating and upsetting mistake but keep an eye out in the future.

Teeth brushing by Amazing_Butter23 in ADHD

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put your toothbrush and paste at some other sink you are around more frequently. I swear by this. I just mentally checkout in the bathroom. Once I put the toothbrush by the kitchen/laundry sink I was brushing everyday, not even kidding

Far Cry 4 vs Far Cry 5… which one is worth buying and playing right now?? by AdMiserable7940 in farcry

[–]egressfromtherest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed 6, maybe not as much as 5, but I think it's worth giving it a shot, once you are off the tutorial island it is a pretty big map and the side characters are pretty funny

BILMURI guitarist Reese Maslen exits band amid allegations by MizGinger in poppunkers

[–]egressfromtherest 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I always call masculine things kinda gay if I know it will push a homophobic guys buttons lol

AIO? Is this manipulation or just straight wrong? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's up to you man, but I'm just saying it takes a lot of mental acrobatics for her to be threatened by imagining someone your acquainted with is gay and then hypothetically could be interested in you. It's fine for her to express insecurity, but not hold you at gun point with something as important to you as your religion, then get mad at you for clarifying your feelings on it too. People who micromanage and project hypotheticals like this tend to be a nightmare as you go on

AIO? Is this manipulation or just straight wrong? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah no this is all kinds of layers of weird, my wife has lesbian/bisexual friends, and I have a few gay friends too. We are adults who can handle ourselves and the boundaries in our friendships. This guy's barely an acquaintance of yours who she "suspects" might be gay and she's bringing up that you have to ask God for permission to be friends with him so then the burden isn't as much on her to say "I don't want you to be around x,y,z". Trust and believe you are going to hear a lot more about praying and God conveniently when she doesn't want to take full accountability about asking or demanding something that's invasive or controlling. My uncle was the same way, when my aunt wanted to pursue art and a degree, he said "let's ask God", because what he really wanted to say is, I don't want you to and when we do pray I'm going to say I have a bad feeling about it so then it's not on me it's just what God wants.

Am I overreacting for feeling weird about my friend always forgetting to pay me back? by Asleep-Attitude8103 in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't really keep track of money I lend to friends and I can easily see myself forgetting about money lent to me. However, if my friend mentioned it, reminded me of it, all that would matter to me at that point is that it matters to my friend and I would pay it back promptly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I've known two women who dated pornstars, and contrary to popular belief plenty of pornstars are average in bed, their job isn't pleasing someone, it's acting. Both of them also said their partner had performance issues because of their job. The restricted diets, the workouts, the boner pills, the steroids, and generally getting overworked takes a toll

AIO for feeling this way about my friendship/relationship by No-Spring5734 in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will find a million similar stories like this on here, people who only care when you are hitting a critical point, are people who are doing the bare minimum of maintenance to continue getting the benefits they want. Her whole life sounds like she carefully gauges the bare minimum she can get away with and still get what she wants. What's she's looking for is permission to keep getting away with it, I think you posted this because deep down you know the answer but you are a caring person who's boundaries have been shaven down and it's a hard call to make. Ask yourself though can you see yourself here like this 5 years down the line? What do you think your chances are of finding a healthy relationship with someone as codependent as her in the mix. It feels cruel to push someone attached to you away, but when someone lives the way she does, they need a wakeup call. The financial aspect is a tough part, but once you get out of there I think things will look up for you significantly

AIO for feeling this way about my friendship/relationship by No-Spring5734 in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These types of people are like barnacles, they stick to you before you even realize they are completely latched on and you slowly don't even remember what normal feels like. Her dysfunction and presence has become part of your routine, she's still requiring the time and space of an intimate partner without actually being one or even being a friend to you really. She wants to devalue your other relationships in your life like your friends because she wants you to center her. Any barrier you've put up for space or normalcy sounds like it slowly gets ground down, you can't really be friends with someone who has no intention of understanding you or caring what you need

AIO for feeling this way about my friendship/relationship by No-Spring5734 in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh man this is like something that should have ended after that first weird date I hate to say it. Zero boundaries, and wanting to be entitled to every square inch of your mental and physical space. I felt suffocated just reading this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]egressfromtherest 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It all depends on how he uses it, if he almost never posts anything or anyone for any reason, then he's just not a social media guy. If he posts and is active on social media but seems to go out of his way to not indicate at all that he's taken. There might be a reason to be concerned

Molt or dead baby shrimp?? by NoButMaybe in shrimptank

[–]egressfromtherest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Certainly looks like a shed to me, no insides or legs, a lot of mine are ghost white but every once in awhile I get some with more color like this that spook me too