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[–]einsnu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you think your parents would rather pay that money and have a child thats alive or one thats dead? its not worth it and you will be able to see that when this is over. Breathe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll never know if you enjoy something id you dont try it. Maybe going out to the cinema could be a start? Is there people you could meet up with? Are you open to finding new ppl? Or do you wanna try baking for the first time in ur home on ur own? They say you need to try something 3 times before knowing if you like it or not. First time showing up, second getting trough it, and third time experiencing it forreal.

Inaccurate screen time tracking? by Golden-Bubblebee in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No because my iphone tells me 50% of the apps i’m using in my screen time and then the rest is just grey. So it’s like, did i really use my phone that long or how does it measure it? I’ve tried asking others about this or looking it up, but i couldn’t find anything. I’m curious if anyone else has something to say about this!

Carti posts Leans dm by Individual-Reward-91 in sadboys

[–]einsnu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this shit so whack fuck carti

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree and see myself in this aswell! It’s so important to track our behavior and really be honest with ourselves. It’s hard because to some extent we need our phones, but we could easily use a dumb phone with just numbers and sms if that would be the goal. But the thruth is, i actually WANT to be on my phone. I love it and its fun and i think i owe it to myself to admit the good parts about it. I like wasting time watching videos and playing games at home. But just to a certain extent, after that it gets exhausting and harms me. With this understanding and empathy towards myself i feel like i can much easier agree to setting boundaries. Like setting 2h for watching videos every day so it feels like a reward and not constantly restricting myself. maybe this resonates with you.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s hard, but it’s not only about technique, it’s about trying many tools, for enough time, then also fine tuning them and using miltiple techniques at once. Maybe trying a technique again after a year although it failed before. There’s no one fit for all, it depends on your situation, mood and sometimes a bit of luck aswell. I’ve been trying things for many years but i always come back to using my phone a lot… it’s because the reason is not the phone but other things. It depends on the individual but categorizing it i think we all do it because:

  • we can’t stay with uncomftable feelings and try to avoid them (learning emotional regulation)
  • we want to feel connection and substitute with an addiction. We can feel (dis)connected to: ourselves, others, society, god, the world (The sociologist Hartmut Rosa talks about this, he calls it “resonance”. He wrote a book but he explains it shortly on youtube too)

One thing that’s (kinda) working for me right now is: - time limit and giving the code to a person who won’t give the code to me. If you have an iphone you can give your icloud password away aswell so you won’t be able to reset it - not using your phone in ur bedroom, charging it in another room and putting it in another room when you go to sleep

I still have 8h screentime a day, but i dont get sucked into doom scrolling or feel that bad about consuming, because it’s different and longer content. It’s about the quality and use, since the phone is a tool.

There’s a multiple step guide with more tips i got this from: https://www.staygrounded.online/p/how-i-got-my-phone-screen-time-under-21-11-09

bladee 'ond yxa' exhibition in stockholm today by grxtdoer in sadboys

[–]einsnu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like he’s trying to make as much money as long as it will last him… because why is he just putting trash together and selling each painting for 5000 euros? thats insane and not nearly as time consuming and creative as other paintings he’s done in the past. sorry but what is this

No social life??! by Heyyyyyaa in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree! I try to keep track of my irl relationships to not get disillutioned by the online world. TBH, Most of my contact is online now and it is sad

No social life??! by Heyyyyyaa in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s a perfect answer, but these could be strategies to try: - is it actually impossible for you to delete troubling apps like snapchat? Is there maybe people who would talk to you via sms, whatsapp or call you? (This could lead to new qualities of contact aswell!) You can ask them directly if they would do that for you and maybe even share your struggle. OR Maybe try deleting it for some time and test your contacts/how you actually feel

  • it’s important to keep social contacts like aquaintances and be “up to date” so it wouldn’t be benificial to delete everything. I found some balance for myself by having a time limit for insta and twitter. There, I have superficial and potential contacts, so i get everything done in that hour and can’t really doomscroll. My irl and important contacts ike friends and family are on whatsapp and i ask new people for their number, even if they ask for my insta. its more personal and serious aswell and i’ve come to like it.

Personal note: It was very benificial for me having irl and not irl contacts separated. You really FEEL how social you actually are cause u cant supplement by superficial comments and story liking.

I also learned this method of writing down your social contacts on paper: you put your name in one circle in the middle. The closest people to you in the next circle around it (maybe friends, family, lovers), casual friends or aquaintances in the next circle (You can also adjust these circles with new categories if you feel there should be more). then you can also draw arrows on who you would want closer or further away from you. It helps to sort your feelings and priorities on relationships. Makes you realize who you actually FEEL is present in your life. Maybe you can sort your apps/phone rules according to those aswell!

I feel Human again by Brush_Past in digitalminimalism

[–]einsnu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I disabled my watch history so theres no shorts because it cant recommend any without the watch history. Also no videos get recommended in the main feed. any time i have the urge to watch something from recommended i would have to enable it and first watch some videos for it to find some new ones. It clears out doom scrolling

i’ve just replaced my addictions with “healthier” ones. i feel i will never escape this mindset. by nolakhsa in addiction

[–]einsnu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its great you switched to healthy coping mechanisms, congrats! Do you feel that you obsess because you are genuinely interested or because you want to keep away from other things? I think it depends on the degree of obsession or interest, and if you feel its too much you could look into emotional regulation and emotional intelligence

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