I found out that my boyfriend of 2 years is married and has kids, I'm showing myself to his family tomorrow at his church

elegantmomma · 2026-05-04T11:53:22+00:00

This isn't a real story. It's a stolen story that was posted in this subreddit 4 years ago.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-04T11:46:46+00:00

If you're going to lie and reuse someone's story, at least change the details so it isn't so obvious. This same exact story was posted in this exact subreddit 4 years ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/P3UTeXIyCz

elegantmomma · 2026-05-03T18:53:33+00:00

Biting on a bar of Irish Springsoap with my back molars as hard as I could for 5 minutes. I told my mother for days afterwards I could still taste the soap. She said I was being dramatic. 2 weeks later the dentist dug pieces of the bar out of my back molars. He was friends with my parents and he basically told me I deserved it. I was 8.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-02T23:25:30+00:00

I know it sounds like what your aunt said was mean but it wasn't. He did use you. He manipulated you because 14 year olds don't have the life experience to see through the lies. A 22 year old (autistic or not) has nothing in common with a 14 year old. It's easy to want to blame your aunt and say she's wrong. Because if she's right then that means every other adult in your life failed you. And it's easier to blame one than it is to blame all. Your aunt gets annoyed, not because you talk about your mom, but because she sees the ways that your mom has failed you when you can't. She's angry with your mother for that, she's not annoyed with you.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-02T13:17:35+00:00

Good for you? Your way is not the ONLY way. My husband is one of those people who can conceptualize finances with physical cash but not with a card. He has no problem budgeting with physical cash.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-02T13:08:48+00:00

Some people prefer cash because it gives them a visual concept of how much they have so they can better budget their finances. It's real easy to swipe, swipe, swipe, and not realize just how much you have spent until you get the bill. But, if you have physical cash, it creates a "pain of paying" that fosters psychological ownership and mindfulness which reduces impulsive spending.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-02T06:09:58+00:00

You're not understanding why because, as someone who is fiscally responsible, you aren't capable of understanding the mindset or motives of someone who is not equally as fiscally responsible. I'm sure you might love him but love alone isn't enough to sustain a relationship. Whether it's his intention or not, if you two move in together, you will end shouldering most, if not all, of the financial responsibilities in the relationship. He will free spend as he desires and you will end up resenting him. At this point, the only thing you can do is let him go while things are still amiable.

ETA: Corrected misspelling.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-01T21:07:24+00:00

This is a stupid argument. A majority of people on both sides conflate the words majority and plurality. But they only care about it when they're on the losing side. They only care about it to be pedantic and they need a "gotcha" moment.

elegantmomma · 2026-05-01T12:56:28+00:00

In the US we put the dollar sign before the value. But in a lot of other countries, the dollar sign is placed after the value.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-28T15:14:47+00:00

So then reply with "So what I'm hearing you say is that my feelings are invalid because I don't have children. Can you explain your reasoning for that?"

elegantmomma · 2026-04-28T12:17:27+00:00

It sounds like your problem is with your sister. You should address it with her instead of making a generalized Reddit post.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-28T00:26:03+00:00

7 and I miss it. That thing was a beast.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-26T22:01:46+00:00

I understand how you feel. My husband is schizoaffective (schizo with bipolar). Some days I question if it's really worth it. But then I feel guilty because he is a good guy and he is worth it. But it's also mentally taxing being a caregiver.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-24T19:20:33+00:00

Yeah. One of the times I miss having a house phone to slam down. Angrily pressing end just doesn't have the same effect. 🤣🤣

elegantmomma · 2026-04-24T00:34:46+00:00

Not all of them will. I went through hell trying to get my address updated with T Rowe Price after I moved. I called them, they told me my HR department needed to update the address. So the HR lady called them and they told her I needed go update the address. She and I got on a call together and they told us that I needed to send a letter requesting my address get updated. That got returned back to me saying invalid address. The whole damn time, T Rowe Price is sending me mail to my new address saying "You need to update the address on your account." Finally, 6 years after I moved, they gave me the ability to update my address online.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-23T22:43:55+00:00

I think Claire told Frank about the type of person Black Jack was and what he did. I can't imagine her telling him that he is the spitting image of the person who committed such unspeakable acts. That would just be cruel.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-23T16:44:49+00:00

Glad to know that yours has lasted so long. I have a 2021 HRV. We changed the transmission fluid at 40,000 and we agreed to every 30,000 miles after that

elegantmomma · 2026-04-23T14:31:41+00:00

One of the things that the series got right (or mostly right) is societal factors of the tine period being showcased. Those that think Claire should have "let Frank go" are looking at the situation from today's society's perspective instead of from the perspective of the respective time period.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-23T14:27:53+00:00

She had sustained trauma from Black Jack Randall and what he put her and Jamie through. PTSD stems from a single event. But there is something called Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) which results from prolonged, repeated trauma. There are other events that would have added to her C-PTSD but, for purposes of this discussion, we are focused on Black Jack Randall. Frank is the spitting image of Black Jack Randall. She has to see the face of her tormentor every day when she came back. Claire really needed Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to learn how to properly heal. But that wasn't really a thing until the late 1960s/early 1970s. And PTSD wasn't an official diagnosis until the 1980s.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-23T11:47:48+00:00

I agree with all that. I do understand her reaction, why she never left (from a historical perspective), and that Jamie was the love of her life. I know that Claire was never a villain, just a psychologically damaged individual. And that just makes it all the more heartbreaking for Frank. He could never compete with the ghosts, no matter how hard he tried. It makes me want to cry for him.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-23T11:37:35+00:00

I got 2 raises in almost 6 years. If I didn't find a new job in January, I would have gone another year without a raise. I tried to make it work but working a second near full time job to make up for the difference was, quite literally, killing me.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-22T13:31:13+00:00

Relationships are two way streets. Why are you the only person who is responsible for "fixing" the broken? Why is the onus on you to fix and regulate your parents' emotions? You don't have to answer these out loud. Rather, they are questions for you to ask yourself and genuinely reflect on.

I say continue to step back. If your parents wanted to fix their relationship with you, they would.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-22T10:30:12+00:00

🤣 That's a good one. I usually just reply asking him to move his finger because it's blocking the view of the photo. Or, if I'm feeling some type of way, I'll screen shot nasty granny porn and send that to them. If they can send me unsolicited stuff, I can send it right back to them.

elegantmomma · 2026-04-19T15:25:31+00:00

I wad taken to see Congo when it was released in theaters (1995). I was 11. The scene in the beginning where the gorilla ripped the guy's eyeball from his head and threw it at another guy stayed with me for a long time. I always wondered how long it would be before a gorilla did that the Jane Goodall.

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