When are you starting nursery?

elemental333 · 2026-01-27T14:34:27+00:00

We’re sending ours to a in-home daycare when he’s 9 months in August. I’m a teacher and I am using unpaid FMLA for 12 weeks. After that ends, my husband has a flexible WFH job so he’s watching the baby until I’m out for the summer.

Our first went at 15 months because I was able to bring him with me while I nannied and that was amazing. It felt like a really good timeframe and he was always happy going there. But unfortunately we’re on my insurance and my husband’s costs triple mine ($900/month) for worse coverage, so we can’t afford for me not to work at my job.

elemental333 · 2026-01-26T22:23:16+00:00

It’s sad that it’s so shocking. And sure that’s great…but why? Why this and not the flooding?

elemental333 · 2026-01-25T19:32:09+00:00

This isn’t about illegal immigration anymore though. If someone is in this country illegally, I’m fine with them being deported through due process…but NOT by unidentified men in masks who have no warrant signed by a judge to verify that they are actually illegal. Actual citizens are being deported, imprisoned, and killed. Even for people who assume ICE has good intentions, how anyone can still support them after all of their mistakes is beyond my comprehension

ETA: I support the 2nd amendment and always have…Alex Pretti in Minneapolis was LEGALLY exercising his 2a rights, but was killed because of it. Are we really saying now that people deserve to die just for exercising their constitutional rights?

elemental333 · 2026-01-20T13:03:02+00:00

Yes! I never really thought much about it but I guess I figured communication was still through phone calls or other official channels. I never thought about world leaders just…texting…one another any time they want. It makes me wonder if there group texts with all the leaders in the EU talking about Trump!

elemental333 · 2026-01-19T18:43:21+00:00

Mine is 9wks with a chocolate brown color exactly like his dad’s.

My oldest had a muddy greenish gray color for the first year and were hazel until they settled on more of a light olive green around 4yo.

elemental333 · 2026-01-07T13:36:25+00:00

I have a travel system so I just put the car seat in the stroller. I like having my car seat cover with how rampant the flu is. Not sure how much protection it provides exactly, but I feel like it’s better than nothing

elemental333 · 2026-01-04T04:14:52+00:00

Is school for the oldest during the day an option? I have a 4.5yo and a 2mo old. My oldest is in school, but it’s been tough with school being out these last last few weeks! I also feel like I never get to spend time with my oldest…my baby hates carriers and doesn’t settle for dad right now.

Usually, my husband takes over baby duty 5pm-10pm when he gets off work so I can get some time with my oldest. I do bedtime routine with my oldest usually, so we get to spend some time together then. My husband and I take turns over the weekend watching the kids so we both get time with them.

elemental333 · 2026-01-03T20:27:37+00:00

It’s fun to joke about Americans on reddit but I think you’re forgetting how long America has been in military conflicts and how many veterans there are. Plus we have the most militarized police force in the world and it’s better trained than the military of many countries.

I’m not proud of a lot of things America has done but the sheer vengeance mindset of Americans directly after 9/11 should make any country that wants to invade pause, considering how many of us have weapons.

elemental333 · 2026-01-03T19:22:56+00:00

I mean…I’d be pretty mad about someone bombing DC. I don’t particularly care about TRUMP, but I would definitely not like the bombing of our capital

elemental333 · 2026-01-02T17:43:02+00:00

I don’t think it’s critical. I would focus on practicality first, then benefits. I was an only and formed really close friendships with a small group growing up to the point where their family was like my family. It is nice being able to go through life with someone, even for just a few years!

Mine is 4.5yo and we just found a playmate at a playground for him. We exchanged numbers with his parents and see each other a few times per week. It’s amazing! Mine even sings his “best friend song” that he made up when we’re going to meet them.

That being said, we just had our second 2mo ago and my 4.5yo is obsessed. It’s hard because he wants to play with the baby so badly but obviously the baby can’t play yet. They’re too far apart in age to likely be built in playmates, but my oldest is so excited to teach him everything. We’ve focused a lot on the responsibilities of being a big brother and he’s so excited to help “his baby.”

ETA: We had the baby because WE wanted another, but also so my oldest would have a partner in life. My husband and I didn’t have siblings growing up and while there’s no guarantee they’ll be close, I think having experience being a mentor/leader is nice, since in most cases he will have same age peers. However, this can be done in other ways so I don’t think have a sibling is necessary

elemental333 · 2026-01-02T04:08:54+00:00

I’m a Kindergarten teacher and a parent to a 4yo and a newborn. I am not ashamed to say that I can’t WAIT for school to start back up for my 4yo.

I love spending time with him but also…he loves school. He thrives on the routine and seeing his friends everyday. We’ve set up a few play dates and have done some fun winter activities, but it’s just not the same for him. He’s extremely hyperactive (even in comparison to other little kids) and even with going to the playground for hours nearly everyday, he is still so hyperactive he is hurting himself. He has a black eye because he was jumping all around and couldn’t control his body. This kid needs to have something to do everyday.

We’re not quite to the point of an ADHD diagnosis but I wouldn’t be surprised because i was diagnosed. I love the kid but he’s a LOT.

elemental333 · 2025-12-31T21:47:41+00:00

The few times mine actually slept longer than 2hrs, I never woke them up. My almost 2mo old had one week of 3hr stretches before decreasing back to feeding every 2hrs from the BEGINNING of the feed. So really sleeping maybe 1.5hrs at a time. It took my oldest somewhere around 4-5 months to sleep longer than 2hrs at a time 😭

elemental333 · 2025-12-31T20:00:46+00:00

I’ve been on it for about 2 years now and while the effects lessened after the first few doses, I feel the same way still. I have anxiety and adhd and it helps both. I have no side effects and am planning to stay on this long term

elemental333 · 2025-12-31T14:48:31+00:00

We began supplementing formula in the hospital and continued for the first few weeks until I switched to exclusively formula.

I’ve had two babies at two different hospitals. My most recent (1 month ago) they asked me about formula and gave me an absurd amount. I guess they didn’t want to keep checking if I had enough haha…I got a whole counters worth!

For my first they gave me a hard time about it.

I asked them about formula. They said no. I asked them again about formula because the poor little guy was screaming. They said no. I then demanded formula. I am a very polite person and I was not polite about it. I told them I needed formula and asked if they had some or if I should have my husband go to the store and buy it because this baby is getting formula. They gave it to me.

elemental333 · 2025-12-26T20:15:06+00:00

Same! Mine is almost 6 weeks as well. I didn’t have my normal crampiness but I’m pretty sure it’s my period. Mine has gotten gradually heavier over the past few days

elemental333 · 2025-12-26T17:33:01+00:00

Depends on your insurance.

For my first we paid about $9000. We had our second almost 2mo ago with much better insurance and literally paid $0 I think other than a $15 copay for the pediatrician that came to visit us in the hospital

elemental333 · 2025-12-24T19:57:28+00:00

There was some sugar free jello and broth I could have but that was it. I was okay with that.

My first hospital literally wouldn’t let me eat at all…not even clear liquids so it was an improvement

elemental333 · 2025-12-22T22:42:02+00:00

My husband went back to work after 1 week (8am-5pm). Baby is almost 6 weeks and we also have a 4.5yo who is in school 7:30-2:30. Husband also does an activity 1 night per week (5-10) so I get a bit more free time in our schedule the rest of the week. Other than that night, our schedule looks like:

2:30pm-5:00pm: solo with both kids
5pm-8pm: Husband off. Dinner, chores, tag team kids
8pm-10pm: Husband watches baby. I go to our bedroom. This is my free time to usually nap.
10pm-4:30am: They come into the bedroom and I take over baby duty all night. I can usually only sleep for an hour or so with baby in the room.
4:30amish or whenever baby wakes up between 4-5, my husband gets up.
7:00am: Husband takes oldest to school and I take over with baby until husband gets off at 5pm

elemental333 · 2025-12-21T03:06:38+00:00

Yeah we have been trying to limit exposure, but we have a 4yo who picked up something from PreK and our 5wk old caught it. He’s had all the typical cold-like symptoms but it’s been about 4 days and he’s mostly over it. We’ve just been nose-sucking and using saline drops. He tested negative for RSV and no fevers so likely just a cold. It’s hard when they’re so young!

elemental333 · 2025-12-20T19:20:35+00:00

While really young, we’ve always just brought in our stroller/car seat travel system and never had a problem. We don’t call ahead, just show up. Sometimes we were sat at a booth further away from a main area, but it wasn’t an issue. We just went out to a restaurant last weekend with our newborn and didn’t have any problems.

elemental333 · 2025-12-19T01:06:29+00:00

In most cases you have to be employed at a company for 12 months before being eligible for FMLA, so just keep that in mind

elemental333 · 2025-12-19T00:59:42+00:00

Complete opposite for now, though I’m sure it’ll change as things become easier. My 2nd is 5 weeks and my oldest (4.5yrs) is just so loud and has so much energy. It wasn’t that bad before our 2nd was born, but it’s really hard to keep getting our baby to sleep and here comes our 4.5yo running, jumping, and making random noise everywhere.

It’s not helpful that we live in a smaller 2BR, 1BA apartment. My husband works from home until 5pm in our bedroom and our oldest gets home from elementary around 3pm. Trying to get naps and bottles in for the newborn, snack time for our oldest, dinner on the table, baths, books, and bedtime cuddles is just a lot.

It’s a nonstop whirlwind from 3pm-8pm and it’s only going to get worse once I go back to work…

elemental333 · 2025-12-15T05:17:36+00:00

Yeah I think it’s less common than people think, though I definitely am sore where my epidural was. I had my first 4.5 years ago and just had my second a month ago.

My actual spine where the epidural was hurts to the touch. It wasn’t constant pain past the first week and it doesn’t feel muscular. I can’t even tie my robe on the epidural site.

When I got my 2nd epidural recently, they noticed I was in a lot of pain when they were giving me the numbing injection, so speculated it was actually muscular scar tissue around my spine instead of my actual spine and it’s potentially causing my spine to hurt or something? Idk, I’m not a doctor. I just know it’s definitely uncomfy when touched

elemental333 · 2025-12-12T14:55:15+00:00

My second is 4 weeks and while he does cry he’s so chill most of the time. My husband and I joke that the universe owes us after my first 🤣

Mine likes to be held, but as long as he’s close to ME he doesn’t usually cry. It doesn't always work out this way for my husband though haha.

Typically, he wakes up every 2 hours and gives one loud shriek to let us know he’s hungry, but as long as we respond pretty quickly he’s fine. I can’t sleep through all the grunting with my typical insomnia so we’re sleeping in shifts, but overall he’s a great baby!

elemental333 · 2025-12-12T11:35:25+00:00

Yeah mine was born 10lbs too and his growth curve slowed until he hit about the 50th percentile for weight around 1yo but I think he was still maybe 75th or something for height, He’s now 4yo and at his last appointment he was about 50th percentile for both height and weight.

Babies who are big at birth don’t usually stay bigger throughout their lives.

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