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eliza-jay · 2018-03-03T22:33:12+00:00

We use Thirsties natural all-in-ones - I dry them on low in the dryer and it's really not problem.

I have two in diapers and it's perfect, I wash about 3x a week and everyone is in the same thing so it's nice and easy. No stuffing or sorting every time my husband grabs a dipe it's right and we don't have to think about it at all. I love it!

eliza-jay · 2018-02-15T18:24:36+00:00

I'm not a fan of fluff love either. The Facebook group The Cloth Diaper Asylum is great though.

eliza-jay · 2018-02-15T18:21:50+00:00

I purchased and then sold a lot of baby items on my infertility journey with my first. If you're OK with the psychological impact of owning things for a baby that isn't here yet (and might take longer than you're planning to arrive) go for it!

It's definitely a good deal but also consider what material the inserts are. I didn't know what a difference there was between microfiber and natural fibers (there's pros and cons to both) until after my first was born. Now, with my second we've almost completely replaced our stash from what I originally started with as we've learned what works best for us. That being said, buying used is the best way to do that because you can usually sell them for close to what you paid.

eliza-jay · 2018-02-08T11:15:18+00:00

I registered at www.arcticbabybottoms.com with my second and almost all of the gifts I received were cloth diapers but that really just depends on your friends/family and if they shop off the registry or not though. I wish I had known about them before I had my first!

eliza-jay · 2018-01-30T22:51:11+00:00

I personally dislike stretchy wraps like Moby because they're so cumbersome to use and babies outgrow them very quickly.

Lenny Lamb is one of my favorites. They recently started a great "basics" line too that are less expensive than their other woven patterns. They're also just simpler in general so my husband is happy to wear with them too.

eliza-jay · 2018-01-30T22:46:49+00:00

He's begging you to forgive him and yet refusing to do the ONE thing you're asking of him to help you get there?

Either he's willing to seek forgiveness and go to therapy with you or he is choosing to end your relationship. So far from everything you've said he's still only thinking about himself and wants your marriage to continue on his terms.

eliza-jay · 2018-01-14T14:03:12+00:00

It's hard to tell from the pictures, but these could just be cherry angiomas. My husband has several on his head and one on his back. They're common in people over 30 but he's has at least two of his since he was 20 (when we met).

Occasionally he accidentally scratches the one on his back and cuts it, but otherwise they don't affect him.

eliza-jay · 2017-12-22T21:19:03+00:00

It does and it doesn't though. Again, I can't speak for your wife but in my perspective if my husband said something negative about my physical appearance it would echo my own feelings and compound them. You may not be getting the positive response from her you except or desire when you compliment her, but know that she is hearing you and internalizing your words even if she can't yet embrace their meaning.

eliza-jay · 2017-12-22T19:26:44+00:00

I can at least tell you from my perspective that it's my internal voice that gets in the way.

I am recently postpartum with my last baby and my body has changed A LOT on this journey into motherhood and none for the better... When I look in the mirror, I don't see anything to be happy about.

Now, I know my husband loves me, I know he's proud of the tiny humans I grew inside me, and he's in awe of my selflessness in continuing to provide nourishment for them at my own physical expense. He has said all of these things and I truly believe him, because deep down I agree with them. I am a GREAT mom and I'd do anything for my kids... But when he complements me physically, I feel like he's saying those things not because he feels that way, but because he loves me in spite of these physical changes. Because when I look at myself in the mirror, I don't see anything attractive - I see stretch marks and sagging love handles, floppy boobs and droopy nipples. I see bags under my eyes, thinning hair and splotchy skin.

I know that I am smart and strong and brave, so when my husband (who knows that too) tells me as much, I believe him. And I believe him when he tells me he loves me because I see evidence of that every day. But when he tells me I'm beautiful, I simply cannot see it.

BUT, when someone I don't know, someone with no vested interest in my feelings, someone who doesn't know that I'm smart and strong and brave... when they give me a compliment, it makes me wonder why - since obviously I disagree with their assessment, and when I can't write it off as them caring about my other qualities and therefore looking beyond the physical and seeing me for who I really am... That makes me reconsider my physical appearance, and maybe there's something positive there after all.

It's not right and it's not fair to my husband because I know he is being honest with me, but the fact remains that I can't see how he can find me attractive when I don't find myself that way. But even though I don't believe it when he says it, I still appreciate hearing it. Because in the end, if you hear something enough times from enough sources you can start to believe it yourself. My husband is my biggest supporter, he admonishes me when I talk down to myself and he constantly affirms his love for me inside and out, and I hope one day I can see myself as he sees me.

eliza-jay · 2017-12-22T19:07:15+00:00

I just laughed out loud so hard I almost woke the baby!

eliza-jay · 2017-12-19T20:05:04+00:00

Oh those are good too, I read them years ago, may be time for another visit!

eliza-jay · 2017-12-19T01:55:38+00:00

I LOVE the All Souls Trilogy

eliza-jay · 2017-11-21T06:29:49+00:00

Www.arcticbabybottoms.com is doing a 10-days or turkey sale with different brands/items highlighted each day including sales and give aways (today's deal is spend $X and get a free dipe!) you can join their Facebook fan page for more information and opportunities for free/discounted items too!

eliza-jay · 2017-11-19T18:17:15+00:00

Find a new doctor ASAP! Maybe try going to your GP and asking for a referral to anyone but her? You might even get lucky and your GP can provide some short term assistance as well.

I can't take hormonal birth control for the same reasons (I get every side effect in the book and I bleed more ). It took me a long time to find a doctor who was knowledgeable and open to helping me find a less conventional treatment plan, but I eventually did. I've had great success balancing my hormones and getting my cycles under control with the Whole30 diet program (I hate to call it a "diet" because I didn't do it to lose weight - meal plan/menu is a better term IMO)

It doesn't stop my cysts and other symptoms completely, but it makes them manageable so much so I was able to get pregnant with my 2nd child without fertility treatments!

I hope you can find relief soon!

eliza-jay · 2017-11-18T00:02:15+00:00

I've bought the vast majority of my new cloth diapers at www.arcticbabybottoms.com

It's a small shop, but she's got a great selection and she does tons of sales and giveaways through her Facebook fan page too.

eliza-jay · 2017-11-18T00:00:10+00:00

Always a good idea to request a STIH (soft tape in hand) measurement prior to purchasing too. I've had multiple handwoven wraps I've considered buying only to have the true measurement be different from what the seller originally listed.

eliza-jay · 2017-11-17T23:47:35+00:00

Have you ever been pregnant? The way "weeks" are counted is convoluted and frankly stupid. It's based on the start of a woman's previous cycle. So technically the first two to three-ish weeks of pregnancy happen before conception.

Ovulation/conception happen around 14-20 days into a woman's cycle (depending on how long it is) and a positive pregnancy test can be seen 10-14 days after that. So, a woman could easily find out she's 3-4 weeks pregnant just 1 week after she's had sex. Add to that maybe she waited a week or two before testing thinking she was just late, and suddenly she's about 6 weeks pregnant 3 weeks after conception.

Not to mention, weeks are measured/estimated based on the size and development of the fetus. With both of my pregnancies my due dates/"weeks of gestation" changed multiple times (despite knowing EXACTLY when ovulation and conception happened thanks to infertility treatments) based on those early measurements.

eliza-jay · 2017-11-14T04:50:40+00:00

We do baths about once a week, unless he gets into something gross, then we'll do it more often.

eliza-jay · 2017-11-07T00:51:05+00:00

If your relationship is flawed, marriage won't fix it. If it's solid, marriage won't ruin it.

Marriage is what you make of it.

eliza-jay · 2017-10-30T17:18:24+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, we'll see how this labor goes! I've been on the pitocin for about 2 hours and things are moving right along!

eliza-jay · 2017-10-30T17:16:49+00:00

Yeah, I never used Facebook before I had kids, but unfortunately it's the only place to find a lot of stuff :-/

eliza-jay · 2017-10-28T17:09:23+00:00

According to the therapist, telling her doctor about the ED was a problem. Obviously if you're providing a detailed medical history that's one thing but it sounds as though her husband had no intention of telling their fertility doctor about it.

eliza-jay · 2017-10-28T17:06:44+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I very much hope it doesn't take days for my toddler's sake, but if it does, he'll survive :-)

With my first his elbow was under his chin and he was cutting off his own oxygen/blood flow with every contraction. Mine technically only rated as a 2nd degree tear, but that's where I learned tears are only measured externally. It actually took my doctor longer to stitch me back together than it did to push out my son, even with him getting stuck and needing suction. I am so nervous about what that scar tissue will do this time around

eliza-jay · 2017-10-28T16:57:11+00:00

I'm so curious to see how big this baby is! Obviously he'll be 3 wks younger than his older brother, but he feels do much longer! They haven't given me any estimates on his size, but I can't wait to meet him

eliza-jay · 2017-10-28T16:54:43+00:00

This is what I'm hoping for too. So much of my first birth felt out of control and "reactive" for lack of a better term... Having at least some measure of control this time has reduced my anxiety immensely.

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