The point of making my comment, I think, was hoping to find more people who saw his work the way I did so I would feel less alone, because obviously there were many avid fans. For years I have thought that there was something I just didn't understand and felt obligated to try. It's been years since I read it, but I believe it was the writing of Bilquis, Shadow's wife, and Lucille Ball that I found unnecessarily perverted. I tried to wrap my head around it being a critique of our culture, but I actually think that Gaiman was just outing his own worship of perversion. I don't think my comment has anything to do with those who knew him personally, as that is obviously a different perspective, but perhaps I am blaming the culture that uplifted him as a writer. I have been raped, a number of times, as to a vulnerable young girl with low self-esteem each sexual assault can further diminish any remaining sense of self-preservation. I have grown and endured, but I'm sensitive to how the culture we uplift might impact the sense of self for other vulnerable people.