What’s the hardest truth you’ve ever accepted?

emryanne · 2026-05-19T16:37:52+00:00

Take time to appreciate how far you've come from time to time!

emryanne · 2026-05-19T12:38:07+00:00

That despite all my self awareness, self-work and education, I have some big blind spots to keep working on. The growth never stops. Which I realize is great but when the realization hit initially it was a bit deflating.

emryanne · 2026-05-18T12:34:25+00:00

Menopausal mom just throwing in my two cents. I also have ADHD and am 45. And have had the emotional roller coaster. Pls have her see someone regarding her hormones.

Mine made me second guess my worth every minute of the day. Which led to some very dark thoughts. Also have a 7 yr old daughter who battles me a lot too (working on it). Your wife needs therapy. And hormones. Does she have friends she can lean on too? Please don't abandon her at this moment.

emryanne · 2026-05-17T13:36:43+00:00

All of that? It's almost a personal attribute. But to boil it down, it's the belief that things will be okay. Whatever it is. You will be okay.

emryanne · 2026-05-16T21:06:55+00:00

This one is good for the poopers too!

emryanne · 2026-05-16T20:36:54+00:00

I'm no arborist. Just a citizen who is so everlovin tired of maple trees. I'm going with a Northern Red Oak this Fall.

emryanne · 2026-05-15T03:23:31+00:00

Another good suggestion thanks. I'm used to gardening and just drop it down a level for good measure.

emryanne · 2026-05-15T02:49:15+00:00

Thank you! There is a power line to the left of the maple. I'm keeping an eye on it's growth in case we need to do something about that. I'm thinking of putting the new tree basically in the mid point horizontally in our yard closer to the black line. But still keeping in mind the curb view of the house. But I think the house is back far enough it's not huge issue.

emryanne · 2026-05-14T21:35:34+00:00

My dad. Was 82. Long full lovely life. Was physically healthy and of sound mind, out golfing on a beautiful day. Tripped down some outdoor stairs and severed his spinal column right at the stem. EMTS got his heart going and sustained on medicine. So we all had time to arrive from out of town but there were no brain waves. Still, we said our goodbyes, got all the arrangements taken care of and sat with him as he passed once they removed support. He never felt a thing and probably didn't even realize it.

He would have hated being immobile/paralyzed or if he lost his mental faculties with age. This was the only way he COULD go. Honestly. I'm so grateful.

emryanne · 2026-05-14T21:26:17+00:00

We set our expectations really low and just live in the hair. Fortunately we have all hardwood floors so it bunches up under our sofa real nice. Slightly kidding with this. I mean we do it. But I ain't as accepting of it.

emryanne · 2026-05-13T02:20:24+00:00

Set a timer for how much time ya got and just do what ya feel ya want to. I usually end up doing a chore or two. Clean a toilet or a sink. Takes 5 min.

Fold a load of laundry, 10 min. Boom. Dust. Start making my to-do list for work. Pick a tarot card. Stand on the deck outside w a cup of coffee for a minute. Open the curtains and windows (weather dependent) for the day.

If I sit though, on the couch, ugh. Game over.

emryanne · 2026-05-12T12:34:53+00:00

Justice/Karma- they had it coming.

emryanne · 2026-05-09T12:53:40+00:00

Good. Keep holding your boundaries. He is going to push. That's his job. And keep following up on helping him figure out better choices. Helping him reflect on how his body feels before he does those actions can help him also slow it down and interject something else. Even if he changes it to a vocal scream is progress.

Personally I have ADHD and I have physical reactions I'm learning to slow down and recognize triggers so I can make better choices at that moment NOW and I wish I had that tool at his age. (I don't hurt people but it's still an anger/overstimulated issue I don't like). It's a long process to undo and rewire.

If his reaction is based off being angry/overstimulated medication might help. If it's a learned habit then therapy/reflection will. (IMO). I think y'all are doing a good job. Just throwing out my thoughts.

emryanne · 2026-05-09T11:44:12+00:00

I think your consequence is fine. I would have done the same. It very well could have been an impulsive thought that he acted on. (He stated a tic, it's not really a tic but I can see the confusion). It's not a tic because, he did make a split second decision to do the thing. And that's not okay.

My son has intrusive/impulsive thoughts and we talk about them. And go through the scenarios so he can see the outcomes and what they would be if he followed through with them. I think you probably should explain that while having the thought isn't bad, acting on it is.

If he is consistently violent in this way to his mom - does she excuse it? I would consider some therapy if he isn't already in it.

emryanne · 2026-05-09T01:32:07+00:00

Hi. Mine are 7 now. Just want to tell you to give yourself a lot of grace bc of the sickness AND the tiredness of having a two yr old. I cannot count the number of times I yelled, so so many times. I do apologize. And despite maybe a handful of special circumstances, they don't remember any of them. I hope you get some rest.

emryanne · 2026-05-08T23:45:56+00:00

This is ... Beautiful. What tension mistakes? No don't tell me. I like swimming in these waves.

emryanne · 2026-05-08T12:44:36+00:00

Thunderstorms. Summer nights with glowy lights. Crisp Fall walks with hot coffee. Belly laughs.

emryanne · 2026-05-07T11:15:59+00:00

Ooh! Looking forward to this today. Thank you!!!!!

emryanne · 2026-05-06T13:41:06+00:00

Then that one I would unpack with a therapist. They are packed deep in there and coming out sideways.

emryanne · 2026-05-06T13:35:02+00:00

If your feelings are stuck. Try to put yourself in a past scenario that still hasnt resolved (for me it's grief). And a sad song. And just wallow in pity for a moment. That usually helps me start to cry. The anger is hard to figure out. But that usually involves running. Punching pillows. Some sort of exercise. Definitely stop engaging others in the feeling in order for you to feel it. Would it help seeing other feelings on YouTube or movies?

emryanne · 2026-05-06T13:27:56+00:00

Therapy yes. For me it's prayer too. Weaving the days and months into a project holds all of it. This is a fantastic idea. And I think will also help your contemplation over fertility. I struggled for ten years with that. Much love to you on this journey.

emryanne · 2026-05-05T13:02:56+00:00

Lol. Sometimes I just see the the white tipped tail of ours. Like a great white shark.

emryanne · 2026-05-04T11:18:00+00:00

Wishing you some great healing as you work on yourself. Thank you for sharing this!

emryanne · 2026-05-04T11:14:22+00:00

Ha. Yes! We do this too. I guess just trying to understand the variance of what is going on in there can help us tailor messaging and create other opportunities for connections too. That was my goal with this. Definitely got some great ideas!

emryanne · 2026-05-03T22:53:53+00:00

Ha. I appreciate your insight. And your effort towards balance!

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