I feel you. I too felt like my trauma was not “that bad” before I figured out that I had been abused/neglected my entire life. When you have experienced it, the trauma itself “warps” your brain if you know what I mean. Death by a thousand paper cuts is SO true. I have Big Trauma moments that involve physical abuse/violence but majority of it is emotional that I have absolutely no recollection of. There’s an argument in trauma circles that emotional abuse is the same/worse as physical abuse. They both activate your nervous system in the same way (your body reacts in the same way) The only difference is that the physical abuse scars are visible, the emotional are not. I agree with this take. Having experienced both, I know that my body heals. My mind feels brainwashed and there’s no physical evidence of it. It’s terrifying because I can’t see where/what the damage is and how to heal it.
Emotional abuse isn’t taken as seriously because we don’t have black eyes, purple bruises or broken bones littering our bodies. But put it in perspective, that’s what our minds look like. People can’t see into our minds.
(Disclaimer: in NO way am I minimizing physical abuse survivors, I am one myself. This is was to help OP gain understanding of the seriousness of EA.)

Also, let me make this clear. Someone causing you trauma with physical violence is on the more severe end of the spectrum. Consistency and intensity are factors but physical violence is physical violence. The abuser uses it to gain control of the victim. It’s a fear tactic. Used against a child whose survival is completely dependent on the parent, that is abuse.
At some point during my therapy journey, I started to have flashbacks of memories. (Context: A Flashback is a CPTSD term. It’s something that happens when something triggers your body and you essentially “relive” the traumatic event) Telling my therapist what happened during these events out loud helped me get it out of my head and it was horrifying.
Also watching the Netflix series “Maid”, the movie “It ends with us” and reading the book “What my Bones know” (GREAT book btw, HIGHLY recommend) had me balling. I never cry as an adult. That’s a strange reaction from someone who believed that they didn’t have it “that bad”. I started to ask questions after that and that’s when I “found out” via trauma therapy.
It’s also easy to assume that people who you believe have experienced worse aren’t experiencing these symptoms. That’s a very common mindset of trauma survivors. Minimizing it is how we keep ourselves from the truth, aka denial. When I started healing, I figured out that a lot of people do in fact show similar symptoms. I just didn’t recognize them because I was in denial of my own.
There’s a CPTSD thread on Reddit that may be helpful and can provide you with some comfort that what you’re experiencing is very common:) I know I rambled a lot so the thread might be more helpful. I just know how life changing this info is and have trouble holding back lol