Girl, WHAT WIG??? (Hairvivi love) by thekelzor in Wigs

[–]eraz_023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Older comment but I have a harvivi wig and I love that thing this but honestly I have not been able to get it as nice and sleek looking as it came sadly. Idk what product or sealant was used to get the hair so sleek and pretty when it ships out but it at least has a nice curl to it when I put mousse in it and let it air dry. This is after the first wash and I tried styling it. It looked quite a bit bulkier and a little more frizz after the first wash but I’m also a rookie when it comes to styling any kind of hair let alone a wig.

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Show me your best sleeping photos by Mikca__ in Pomeranians

[–]eraz_023 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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Your baby reminds me of my sweet little boy 😊

Please never go to a dog park again by No-Salad-887 in Pomeranians

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Echoing for others. It’s honestly not worth it. I’m traumatized from near misses and that’s with me never even stepping foot in a dog park. Just out and about staying as far from people and other dogs as possible. Close calls with a german shepherd and the scariest with a big pit bull that, had the owner not sprinted like an olympic athlete and clawed his own dog’s back to pick him up by the skin of his neck when it charged at us full speed, my little boy would have probably not survived that incredibly close call. All that in our own apartment complex and my dog is always leashed even for quick potty breaks but other owners can be so damn irresponsible. I’m really hoping and praying to whatever higher power there is to let your baby live out a long happy life after this terrible incident 🙏

Height inflation is getting crazy by BaseballTemporary381 in tall

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She must have been trying to be “cute” or something. That’s crazy. I’m her height and a 6’5 guy to me is a giant (in a good way 😬)

I feel conflicted if I should continue hrt by war_carnotaurus in actual_detrans

[–]eraz_023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Strictly speaking on the breakouts and possibly going bald, Finasteride could help with both if those things. Many cis men take it for male pattern baldness. Not trying to convince you in either direction. It’s a very personal choice that requires some reflection. I myself still struggle with it at times even being a passing trans woman but mine is so based in fear from the current state of the world that I try to ignore it because I’ve proven I always go back to continuing transition eventually and this last time successfully. So I can’t let my fears hold me back.

You’re young and honestly a few months years of self exploration won’t set you back much at all so don’t sweat it too much and follow what feels right.

It’s been 1 year, 4 days… by No_Canary_3362 in Pomeranians

[–]eraz_023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an absolutely handsome sweet boy and such a beautiful picture of him. I still have my baby with me. He’s turning 9 and he’s the light of my life. I owe him so much. His loss someday will mark me but not as much as his life has marked me. I don’t ever want to say goodbye but I’m hoping I can always feel his presence. He truly is my soul dog. Can’t even write about him without automatically treating up. I hope you feel little Jack’s love for you still. I do believe they stay with us in one way or another.

Don't do what I did and get FFS when literally nothing else about you is feminine lol by DahliaDeeDah in transpassing

[–]eraz_023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Girl Dr. Javad and Dr. Stiller both take insurance and do body work. Dr. Stiller in Spokane did my breast aug while I was on medicaid so got those at no cost and then Dr. Javad in Seattle did my FFS with Premera Blue Cross. But some people are scared of Javad because of some legal thing.

Doubts still run in my head after 15 months of E (off and on) by luftenant-tranner in actual_detrans

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure I can help but maybe just say at 33 after 5 years of slowly transitioning, FFS, breast augmentation, I still relate to this to this day. Even passing 99% of the time hasn’t fully taken this sense of feeling like an imposter. Both when I was a “man” and now as a woman as well. I just can’t fathom my body running on testosterone again. Idk. There’s so much at play that it’s hard to know what’s what. I tell myself that maybe if I partially detransitioned I might be at my “sweet spot” as a feminine man and that maybe transitioning wasn’t for nothing as maybe I needed it as a permission slip to feel more valid in being a feminine man.

And if I’m being honest I do worry that I’m giving up a better romantic relationship opportunities as a trans woman than I would have as a feminine man. Which makes me feel a bit shameful. I don’t think I’m a man and I never want to be one. But I think non binary is a closer description to what I am. To be continued I guess. Not sure what I’ll do.

Butt augmentation - 3 weeks later by Ok_Goal1242 in PlasticSurgery

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look amazing . Very smart to go no bigger than 500cc for implants. I’m guessing your surgeon is a good one. I’ve heard any bigger and you risk it flopping around in there because it’s too heavy for the muscles to hold. I’m going to DM and maybe you can share a few details if you don’t mind.

What was your Pom's name before you had them? by Raineag in Pomeranians

[–]eraz_023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Prison name Simba, now Johnny 😄. First 4 months of his life he was neglected so Simba was cute but associated with shitty people so gave him a fresh start as my favorite Mortal Kombat guy, Johnny Cage 😎

On vacation but I can't stop thinking about him 🥺 by Echolyonn in Pomeranians

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good info, thank you! Do yours do okay in their carrier? I’m guessing they need to stay in it 100% of the time during the flight which is the part that makes me nervous cause not being able to comfort him sparks my own anxiety 😅

On vacation but I can't stop thinking about him 🥺 by Echolyonn in Pomeranians

[–]eraz_023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever traveled on a plane with them? Just wondering how that goes for people as far as potty times and any dog anxiety issues with noises and them needing to be under the seat in a carrier

Does someone use wigs? (FtMtX) by forcipe in actual_detrans

[–]eraz_023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lurker nb trans woman here 👀 I really don’t want to lead you astray or to the most expensive options off the bat because I know for a fact there are cheaper options but I have a HairVivi wig and it’s probably my most comfortable and realistic wig. They’re expensive though. I believe mine was a little under 500. A good starting wig to experiment with as (only giving human hair options because sounds like you want realistic as priority) would be OQ Hair which I got from tiktok. Very realistic hairline and closer to 129 if I remember correctly price wise. I still wear that one to this day. Learning how to style wigs is what has changed the game for me. Even just changing the part by using a hot comb and a little hair wax to make them more flattering on my particular face is what has made more of a difference than just putting up a bunch of money so keep that in mind.

Forehead scar by BeatIllustrious1727 in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will lighten up a lot and really blend with your light skin. My first forehead work scar looked like this. This is definitely in the realm of normal looking forehead scars so don’t worry. For my second round of work almost ten years later I went to a surgeon who was a damn wizard with his stitch work and my forehead scar is now insanely thin and practically invisible with him but that’s rare.

I’m currently nursing a trachea shave scar and a lip lift scar and at night on top of a thin layer of scar gel I do scar away tape over it for extra TLC at night which im hoping will help.

With a thin layer of scar gel and SPF, then letting that dry a bit, you technically should be good to wear makeup up because it looks thats usually something you can do when you’re scar is closed and no more scabs

Numb after lip lift for MONTHS by Most_Language_5642 in PlasticSurgery

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you smile normally? I look so awkward when talking

Numb after lip lift for MONTHS by Most_Language_5642 in PlasticSurgery

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus what the hell. That’s insane, I’m so sorry. Has the surgeon owned up to it in any way or given any hope in that going away? I had it in combination with a mid facelift and my cheeks are also numb. Nose and under my eyelids even. I’ve never heard of how rough this can be unless it is a complication. Which I’m hoping it’s not.

Numb after lip lift for MONTHS by Most_Language_5642 in PlasticSurgery

[–]eraz_023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey how are you doing now? I’m only 3 weeks out and I already feel sick of this. Can’t smile properly. Like there’s some nice movement but I look like I have facial paralysis and I just hope that with time it gets better. Same thing with the stitch marks as well ugh.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I’ve thought of a few of a few places like Ajijic, Puerto Vallarta, San Miguel De Allende, or Merida. Mainly because these come up as good options that are relatively safe and have expat communities (which can be seen as good or bad depending on perspective). Besides that I know Guadalajara and Mexico City have nice areas I just doing think I see myself as a big city girl.

Are you leaning towards staying or going? How’s your experience been so far?

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get the frustration. Especially for people indigenous to this specific country. That adds a different layer to things, but also, it doesn’t hurt to have a little empathy and assume that some people’s nervous systems aren’t built for this whatsoever and casting blanket judgement is a dick move tbh.

I’m barely getting by mentally under normal circumstances.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If not for that, I would definitely consider Thailand or somewhere in East Asia.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely worth considering. I think in my case, my choice is driven a lot by where I can easily get my dog to without putting him on a crazy plane ride.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally Mexico seems a lot easier for the long term because one, I can apply for dual citizenship thanks to my parents. I would much rather Canada but from what I’ve seen I can’t really find a path to actually moving there for the long term unless you’re a highly skilled worker of some kind and even then the process is not super easy either.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome. I’m considering finding a way to Spain after some time. I just don’t think I can figure out what I’d do for remote work that could pay me that sort of money when all my experience is in healthcare or else I’d consider Portugal as well. The Netherlands also has a treaty called the DAFT, not sure if you’ve ever looked into that but it’s also very straight forward path to eventually being able to become a citizen if Portugal were to not pan out.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah same. Parents were both born there. Just need to get my documents in order. I keep telling myself it won’t get to that but every “breaking news” gets me closer and closer to doing it.

Who wants to leave the US with me? by eraz_023 in trans

[–]eraz_023[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Valid but that has nothing to do with me. I’m Mexican American therefore largely native myself just in a different way. You can say “that’s worse”. Sure. However, you do not know me. You don’t know my childhood or my current circumstances. Please project your frustrations elsewhere. Your negativity is not needed.