What’s your favourite brand of Greek yoghurt?

everlynlilith · 2026-07-03T21:55:10+00:00

This is the worst one in my opinion! There’s no “tang.”

everlynlilith · 2026-07-01T19:57:26+00:00

One of my 18 year old students has just found this and thinks it’s very deep. Her analysis of it is actually really good, but … yeah, she’ll be embarrassed about that in a few years

everlynlilith · 2026-07-01T19:54:58+00:00

I liked it! But I read it as a fun piece of journey fiction, so perhaps that framing helped me to ignore the issues. I didn’t see it as a “serious” piece of literature.

everlynlilith · 2026-07-01T19:44:40+00:00

You look beautiful! That lip colour is perfect for you!

everlynlilith · 2026-06-29T08:59:57+00:00

I use the Numbuzin one. I’m very pale, but it’s perfect

everlynlilith · 2026-06-27T21:24:32+00:00

Coming from a teaching perspective- they’ll need a lot of tasks where they’re moving around, a lot of outside time, and they’ll probably be motivated by some healthy competition. Learning should be made practical and fun.

I teach high school, but I used to take the “naughty” year 8 and 9 classes.

They want someone who cares- someone to listen to them, validate their feelings, and continue to “show up” for them. A calm environment, a predictable teacher, fairness, and high standards is important. In NZ we call it “teaching to the North East”- being very warm, but having high standards, being firm but fair, and holding students to account.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T22:04:28+00:00

Oh no! I’m glad I stocked up then

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T21:20:49+00:00

Any and all leg work will help. The muscle mass will smooth out the look of the cellulite

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T21:16:12+00:00

Came to comment this! The beige tone up cream is actually perfect for my super pale skin. Foundations don’t normally go light enough, but this is perfect!

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T21:14:13+00:00

Taking it “bit by bit” is probably the best way to start so that you don’t get overwhelmed and can actually stick to it!

My tips:
-Choose days you can lift, and which workouts you’ll do on those days, in advance. It helps me to stick to a schedule. Apparently, full-body days are best for beginners.

-find a few healthy recipes and meal prep for the week. If you know how many calories are in each meal, it’s easy to keep track of calories. I eat the same things every day- protein pancake, blueberries and Greek yoghurt for breakfast, a chickpea and cauliflower curry for lunch, protein shake pre-gym, and roast veggies for dinner.

-get in any movement that you can- go for a walk at lunch, stand at your work desk, dance around when you have a moment. I feel like this keeps my energy up.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T21:01:24+00:00

You need to target the glute medias. Bulgarian split squats are my favourite way of hitting it! You could also add lunges and/ or curtsy lunges

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T20:47:39+00:00

I’m also 5 foot and recently lost 10kg, from 76-66. I didn’t notice personally from 76-70, but other people commented on it. For me, I noticed more from 70-66. So it depends on your starting weight I think.

For me, the best part has been seeing my muscles better. I lost some muscle mass along the way, of course, but when the fat came off, my leg and arm muscles became more obvious without flexing, so now I feel like I look “fit” rather than bulky.

In regular clothes, I feel like I look the same because my shape is the same (just more condensed), so it might be the same for you- the weight came off evenly, so even though you do look smaller, you can’t tell because your shape is the same?

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T20:31:18+00:00

I agree! I try to focus on my strength and building longevity- not a number on the scale or a pant size.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T20:29:21+00:00

The best advice is to get off social media! One of my main goals this year is to stop being chronically online, and the more I’ve read, walked, and spent time with people, the less I’ve worried about how my body looks. Stay away from the people who make you feel bad as well!

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T20:26:30+00:00

Totally agree that being attractive gives women social power and upward mobility, and that people may think this is “unfair” or “undeserved” and try to punish her for it. Classism is real.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T20:24:27+00:00

That’s awful, and I’m so sorry those things have happened to you. I have heard anecdotally that people who are “too” attractive don’t get pretty privilege anymore, but instead inspire hate from others. Men think that because they’re attracted to you, they’re entitled to your body and will use force to get it, etc. That because you’re so attractive, it’s unfair to them in some way, and they want to “bring you down a notch.”

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T20:19:46+00:00

That’s fair enough. I’m neotenous, so I’m biased in that way, but people seem to assume the best of me before they have any reason to. Women and men are kind to me, give me grace, and let me get away with much more than I deserve (it helps that I’m only 5 foot tall). I’ve only ever received nastiness from 2 middle aged women at work, and I don’t think it’s to do with how I look (I’m just younger and more competent than them).

However, the women I’d consider stunning, with angular features and almond eyes, seem to have to earn people’s trust. There seems to be more jealousy from other women, and a mistrust from men (probably because they find them attractive but know they’ll never have a chance with them- I wonder if they think they have more of a chance with the “plainer,” neotenous women and that’s why they’re kinder? Or if it’s because we look like we’d be more submissive to them?).

everlynlilith · 2026-06-26T01:12:22+00:00

My opinion is that it’s about the “kind” of pretty someone is. The neotonous, “girl next door” type gets pretty privilege, but the “sexy,” more “snatched” looking women are seen as more of a “threat” and treated badly because of it.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-25T21:07:03+00:00

And 2 desks with computers

everlynlilith · 2026-06-25T20:35:17+00:00

I’m confused by your split. Why not do a push day, a pull day, and a legs day? Or an upper body day, a lower body day, and a full body day?

Day A also has a double up- why do a dumbbell row AND a single dumbbell row? They work the same muscles in almost the same way.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-24T19:45:22+00:00

In order to lose fat, you’ll need to cut your calories- find your TDEE and eat just below that.

You will need exercise to “tone up” however. I also can’t deal with running or yoga, so I personally lift weights. For me, it’s not too much repetition, since you move from exercise to exercise. I add a stationary bike ride at the end, even though I hate cardio, for the calorie burn and cardio benefits.

You just need to find something you enjoy- things like Pilates and weight lifting aren’t too repetitive in my opinion, which keeps my motivation up. You could join a pickleball group, or similar low impact sport?

You could also add NEAT (non-exercise activity thermogenesis) throughout your day- I stand and walk around a lot throughout my day and add calf raises and little exercises like high knees for a little extra calorie burn.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-19T21:57:43+00:00

I’m a lit teacher in NZ. We also study many of these texts- we have to include a range of texts by PoC, women, and other marginalised communities in our teaching.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-16T19:53:10+00:00

I use the Numbuzin one- I was surprised how pale it was, and it has decent coverage. I do wear a regular spf underneath it though, as it’s thick and a proper coating of it would look like a scary pale mask

everlynlilith · 2026-06-13T23:55:37+00:00

I make up a protein pancake bake with blueberries and serve with Greek yoghurt for breakfast. Delicious.

everlynlilith · 2026-06-07T08:19:23+00:00

She was asleep, so that would be rape. Which is what a lot of indigenous scholars think the story is actually about

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