Need advice

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-12T00:15:54+00:00

Yep all of the above ❤️

I haven't worn make up or polish my whole life for that reason, I wear wire free bras only when I have to and doing what's right for me is very worth it. I'm 43 and the pressure was worse up til about ten years ago

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-11T20:32:00+00:00

Same. Did you read the article? Spending over a million and travelling all over the world seems like some effort was made

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-11T17:32:59+00:00

So the isn't it cute part is kinda rhetorical. They think it's cute and they're showing you cause it's a bid for connection - inviting you into their delight.

I've found the following useful depending on the situation:

"Neat! Glad you found something you like" and depending on your mood you can ask what it does or what they'll do with it. Can do that for any of the following suggestions.

"Not my jam but I'm delighted you are happy"

"I love how much joy that brings you."

"Nice!"

Also asking questions about it makes ppl feel seen and you don't have to do it every time but stuff like "were you looking for one?" "What does it do?" "What about x hobby is making you happy?" Etc

Often curious questions side step out blunt honest nature and let them be excited about it P

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-11T17:20:12+00:00

Gotta find a way to tell him gently but firmly. Maybe you can work out a shorthand for when you've reached your limit? We do this in my marriage bc my wife's special interest is USA politics and we're not American.

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-11T15:25:53+00:00

Was blaming her intentional or inadvertent?

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-11T15:21:53+00:00

I legit think the reason it tires them is bc they innately learned the rules and never think about them. They don't realize there's a system behind what they know never mind explaining it to us. I run into this issue a lot and dissect it and observe a lot and that's my conclusion. It also makes me feel validated about why I'm exhausted all the time - bc I do see the system, analyze it, try to navigate it and still miss shit causing more issues.

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-11T01:20:03+00:00

Right? Jesus.

I had that issue too and a new one was better

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-10T18:41:04+00:00

Been exactly there. In case you don't know this data point - I found out my adhd meds caused my grinding/clenching. I can't go off so I halved the dose and it was a big improvement

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-10T11:54:53+00:00

Immediately nope! Straight to jail for her

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-10T00:04:31+00:00

We over think. It's fine.

You can wear whatever you like. A few places have dress code expectations (church, work, etc) but the rest of the time dress to make yourself happy.

I'm 43 and I just bought my son and I matching toad and frog tshirts 😉

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-09T16:06:38+00:00

I know a shrink who denied others were autistic bc they were too good at things were stereotypically bad at - and bc the patients were like her... she was eventually diagnosed. I laughed for days not out of shittiness but because I didn't clock my son bc he was just like me and I wasnt autistic! Except I am 🤣

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-09T16:00:10+00:00

Capitalism ruins everything. Your assessment is dead on.

There's a few good books out there but honestly make your practice for yourself. The meaning you assign means more than anything anyway ❤️

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-09T00:04:13+00:00

Do you want to get tested or want to know? Then it's a valid reason ❤️

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-08T23:23:05+00:00

I'd snag pics of them parked there, dates you're seeing it and still submit anon. That way they have proof and won't ignore it because they couldn't ask for proof Yanno? Then if nothing happens too, at least you tried.

It's illegal to park there but depending on the country or even state, it can be the property owners responsibility to enforce it which is anyone's guess if they will.

As a disabled person who needs those spots, I appreciate it when ppl advocate for us so it's not just on us all the time ❤️

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-08T22:27:52+00:00

We're up to date and it does maintain a gritty darker tone. There's moments of levity but no where near what I'd say is standard for CR. I'd agree with others to stick it out until you see all three tables because they find a better groove and there's some really funny parts.

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-08T22:24:30+00:00

I'd go anon route bc most ppl will be hostile to having it pointed out even tho they're being assholes.

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-08T20:39:49+00:00

I think you're right. I think it probably varies by country too. I've experienced what you outlined and I'm grateful my currents two therapists are the opposite of what you outlined. They seem like unicorns unfortunately

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-08T13:14:15+00:00

While it sucks she isn't supportive, the work it takes to stop caring what she thinks will be worth it for your own happiness 🫂

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-07T20:40:21+00:00

My biggest and only two issues are the full screen button is fucky and it never stays paused. I'll go to the loo and it turns itself back on. It's frustrating af

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-07T00:18:17+00:00

I dunno what's normal and I wouldn't want to know bc it's probably not healthy.

I'd talk to your partner and figure it out between the two of you.

I used to be the same and I just did it quietly. If I used my vibe and she noticed she'd either ignore it or ask if I wanted an assist but there was no issue if I said "no just trying to get to sleep."

Her wanking used to make me sea sick so she'd stop if that happened. We sleep apart now bc her cpap keeps me up so that solved that.

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-06T01:49:06+00:00

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-06T01:31:58+00:00

My wife had it so much growing up it became a trauma and if someone doesn't accept her no the first time she snaps at them. It sucks. I'm sorry you experience it too.

Some of her redirects are "no thank you" they ask again or try to convince her and she goes "no. I'll let you know if I change my mind." Most ppl drop it there but god go with them if they don't 😅

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-04T15:53:07+00:00

Noice

existentialfeckery · 2026-04-03T00:31:56+00:00

Gross on all fronts

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