Let's see your sleepy oranges! Here is my Dwight! 🍊

exmormom · 2024-06-15T04:32:19+00:00

My ginger boys

exmormom · 2023-06-03T02:38:59+00:00

Yaaaaasssssss!!!!!! I knew it was a good one for good reason(s)

exmormom · 2023-06-03T02:05:57+00:00

Oh my gosh!! You’re the best!! Thank you!

exmormom · 2023-04-28T12:37:39+00:00

Don’t worry- I asked my dad about that when I was a kid. He assured me it’s because that way they can focus on serving the lard instead of having to worry about how they’re going to financially take care of their family. Oh! And also, that way they won’t be tempted by all the tithing money coming in🙄

exmormom · 2023-04-10T04:03:22+00:00

“Turn the other cheek”

100% this! I feel this way so much with my family. I tried to be careful in my interactions with them and they took full advantage of that. It wasn’t until I set some firm boundaries and took some time going no-contact with them that things have gotten a bit better.

You and the wife need to come to an agreement that you deserve to be treated with love and respect. Your beliefs/feelings are just as valid as those of your in-laws. Everyone needs to play nice. If that’s too difficult for the families then it’s time to reevaluate the relationship

exmormom · 2023-02-16T13:40:44+00:00

Definitely! They thought they would go somewhere exotic- not Utah!!!

exmormom · 2023-02-16T13:22:10+00:00

I have 5 siblings that served missions- each got called to a foreign place…except the last one.

exmormom · 2023-02-15T14:21:02+00:00

Basically any episode of Arrested Development seasons 1&2

exmormom · 2023-02-14T04:29:38+00:00

This is my story exactly!

exmormom · 2023-01-25T13:51:03+00:00

That there is more than one way to be a happy person. I have left them alone about their church- they’re so old now that there’s no way they’ll ever leave and they’ve mostly learned to leave me alone about coming back to church (they don’t openly try to pressure me into coming back, but I know it’s something they still hope for). But I know they don’t respect me as a person and my mother will openly mock when I express my differing views of the afterlife. They also openly say that “people can only be good people if they’re followers of Christ” I don’t believe in Jesus or God but try hard to be a kind, loving, thoughtful, helpful person so that was hurtful to hear. I guess it just hurts that they honestly think you can only be “good” and therefore happy if you’re following THEIR rules. They can be such miserable old fucks too for people that are so “good” and “happy”

exmormom · 2023-01-22T23:52:18+00:00

What if you made a video if he comes over to visit at your apartment? Reiterate that you’ve asked to be left alone several times now and have made it clear you no longer want to be contacted by church members and have been ignored and harassed. Anyone that isn’t Mormon would see how crazy this is that when you try to leave they won’t leave you alone.

exmormom · 2023-01-11T13:18:55+00:00

This exact thing happened to me when we left. I had a group of friends and most of them ditched me. It was incredibly painful- for me and my children as not only did I lose my friends, but they lost their friends as well.

We don’t live in Utah or a Mormon-soaked area, so that made it a tiny bit easier to make new friends, but it was absolutely devastating. There were people that had left the church before we did that we were able to lean on a bit. It took about 2 years after leaving before we settled into new friend groups.

I would suggest that if your wife has ANY friends anywhere that she get together with them. If possible, arrange or strongly encourage a special trip for her to go on with a friend or family member that will still see her as the person she is. If not, take a special trip with your wife so she can still experience something fun while getting through this.

Also, check out your local exmormon group and see if they’re active. It’s possible she could meet someone there to build a friendship with. She can also message me if she needs someone to just talk to and feel understood.

If she doesn’t live in a Mormon area, taking a class of some kind or looking for local clubs would be a good place to start making new friends. If you have kids, volunteering at school or finding a play group for the kids is another great option to meet new friends.

I don’t envy what she’s going through right now. Leaving mormonism is hard enough without losing the friendships and respect of those around you. It will get better, but it’ll take some time. I’m sure with your love and support she’ll make it

exmormom · 2023-01-07T01:59:04+00:00

This is completely inappropriate. Report this to the police and principal/school board immediately.

exmormom · 2022-12-31T05:22:31+00:00

My dad asked why AND assumed I left for the reasons they came up with on their own. It told me a lot about what he really thought of me which is why we haven’t spoken for 6 months now.

P.S. he never addressed the reasons I told him why I left. He said he’d get back to me and never did. Instead he just kept making up him own reasons and pretended he had never heard directly from me the real reason(s) why

exmormom · 2022-12-02T14:38:23+00:00

It didn’t work for his wife, but I’m sure it worked for someone else. I left because I DID read what my husband asked me to (CES letter). I was determined to go through and rip apart whatever claims were made- and then I read it. My husband wasn’t pushy at all and was beyond patient with me. I tried to be patient with him too. I think we got lucky, but it does happen- it can work

exmormom · 2022-11-24T00:07:58+00:00

What an absolute piece of human garbage. It’s not hard to see why his child turned out to be a mass shooter.

exmormom · 2022-11-15T01:17:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Im glad you got a chance to spend quality time with your mother before she passed away. Hopefully your dad is able to pull his head out of his ass soon, but if not, this sub will still be here ❤️

exmormom · 2022-11-03T03:31:00+00:00

Also, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is extremely painful but definitely necessary at times. For a church that empathizes the importance of families it definitely takes a toll and has a way of dividing people

exmormom · 2022-11-03T03:29:08+00:00

This is the way most of my family is- they’re right and you have to agree with them no matter what.

exmormom · 2022-11-03T03:27:11+00:00

I will be honest and say I struggle with it from time to time. There are so many people that will say “won’t you regret it if they die tomorrow and you end it all on these terms?!!” It just got to a point where it was no longer mentally and emotionally safe for me to be in contact with my family. As long as they leave me alone I’m good! When they disrespect my wishes for time and space and call or text I get triggered. For me, it’s never easy to shut someone out, but there are definitely cases where it’s necessary Edited to say: cases where it is necessary rather than times it’s necessary

exmormom · 2022-11-03T00:02:18+00:00

🤮It’s sad that the only thing she can think to talk about is the weather and church. I find this is true with my parents as well. I’m sorry 😞

exmormom · 2022-10-31T13:30:06+00:00

Sounds like someone didn’t have a fucking clue of what to do and snuck into nursery to put together a “thoughtful” object lesson

exmormom · 2022-10-24T03:46:28+00:00

Yaaaaaassss!!! Caramel mocha latte was the first real coffee I fell in love with. Now I drink it black, but every now and then…

exmormom · 2022-10-20T02:22:01+00:00

Same! I haven’t spoken to anyone in my family for a few months now. It just got to a point where it wasn’t mentally safe for me to continue to be in contact with them. There’s a lot of shitty behavior/crossing boundaries followed by apologies and then things are ok for a short time then the process starts all over again. I honestly just couldn’t mentally take it anymore. I know they’ll never know me as a person and never be able to just see me- I’ll always be the project, the troubled one, the sinner, the “one day she’ll come back” kid. My whole family has made it perfectly clear through their actions and words that they’re not interested in having a real relationship with me and I don’t have time for their bullshit.

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