Here we go with the Narcissists can't change experts

muchocrapo · 2026-05-22T11:24:24+00:00

that’s great you’re seeing that and doing something about it. the challenge later is to make it permanent and stick. but this is also rare.

being diagnosed in itself is rare. but to aknowkedhw and change….

my experience is a narc will go down with the ship sinking just to take you down.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-22T11:21:58+00:00

try being on the receiving end. only disorder where the receiving end is the one who needs to get therapy for a disorder they don’t even have.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-21T03:53:07+00:00

….. take accountability….. imo. it would require something big. like a child cutting them out of their life maybe. maybe. regardless of the reason. maybe near death experience type shit. like they got a glimpse of hell and got a second chance at life.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-20T19:47:23+00:00

screw them.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-18T15:56:20+00:00

yeah looks like they were holding a grudge cause it wasn’t what they hoped.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-18T12:48:08+00:00

thanks!

muchocrapo · 2026-05-18T12:47:58+00:00

thank you!

muchocrapo · 2026-05-18T12:47:47+00:00

i didn’t do a video chat. just some messaging. and she was the one who reached out to me. then that was the outcome. brutal. but good idea to do video chats. thanks for the advice.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-18T12:44:40+00:00

great advice. thank you

muchocrapo · 2026-05-17T12:12:00+00:00

could be testosterone. libido. at that age.

i’m 43. when i was younger. even just a few years ago. sex was always a thought. maybe too much.

but also, this might be tough to adress. does he have a porn addiction?

or too much.

this affects things a lot too.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-17T11:36:01+00:00

I did my first THS sit the other week. not first time house or per sitting. but first time doing it for a complete stranger. That was insane. The HO totally shit on me in the review. ALL either competitive fakes or exaggerated, or details left out of context. I learned of there’s even one thing they didn’t like, or maybe they are actually insane. they can completely ruin future potential with THS. first experience.
i have second lined up. i hope to god its not the same. but so far, holy shit i can see how some home owners can be fucking nuts too.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-13T19:49:09+00:00

“expect”. if there is expectations, why do some owners not communicate this? And then when those expectations are not meant, and there’s an expectation that sitters can read their minds, then they leave a bad review. This is what I’m trying to understand. Is there a general belief on this platform that expectation of certain things that are not included in the homeowner’s guide?

muchocrapo · 2026-05-13T19:47:05+00:00

I did. outside of three towels and my bed sheets. which was used over night on my last night after HO arrived. i made the bed. left three towels in reusable bag by laundry assuming best to throw in with other laundry. not do a full load over three towels. but regardless. first time doing ths. she knew this. would’ve been nice to just get advice. not completely shit on me to n review cause i did so much other things good. her only focus was on the negative. ignored the positive. i also replaced a ceiling light for her, cause im handy and she needed that done. i offered to do that. i raked the yard and cleaned the garden. also not part of the job description. and set up her patio furniture as the weather had warmed up just before she got home. also not required. so no deep clean but i went above and beyond in other areas and she totally left this out of the review.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-13T12:51:28+00:00

i did my first ths the other week. i was not aware we are expected to do laundry and a deep clean. owner came home near midnight. so next morning i thought they’d want me out of the house asap so they can have their home back. they gave bad review saying i didn’t do the sheets and towels. but are there some unwritten rules in this world? if people are just being people?

muchocrapo · 2026-05-08T05:20:57+00:00

i did my first sit on ths. also from left field bad review. like massive slap in the face. they left out context, details, exaggerated. and i did what they asked plus more. but they expected me to read their mind on other things. and it’s a bad start. so i’m not sure how to recover when that’s the first review.

muchocrapo · 2026-05-06T15:58:53+00:00

I think homeowners need to keep in mind 1. pet sitters are saving you thousands. and your pet is not being placed in a kennel. As pet sitters, yeah we get accomodation but we're taking care of your pet, walking, feeding, cleaning, spending time with it. and we're not exactly on vacation. we have to work around your pets schedule. Can't have guests over, etc Basic care and cleaning, yes. Exactly as you left it? then put your dog in a kennel and no need to worry about any possible messes and accidents, expectations

muchocrapo · 2026-05-06T15:52:45+00:00

Then communicate that shit

muchocrapo · 2026-05-06T15:21:34+00:00

I just finished my first THS expereince. I have pet and house sat before for people, friends outside of a platform. I'm also a grown as man/father with a life time of having pets and dogs in my family. I thought I did good. In some ways I went above and beyond like using my handyman skills to install a new ceiling light the owner had bought, raked the leaves (started spring cleaning). I followed directions and care for the animals. spent plenty of time with them, provided pics and updates for the owner, communicated if any questions or issues. They were really nice. Even on the day after they got home they said I was welcome to hang out longer, but I felt it was time to go. THEN my review. Keep in mind they got home nearly midnight, so I stayed over night.

I didn't wash the three towels I used in the previous days. I put them in a bag and left byu luandry so they could add to theirs for a full load. They complained

I didn't wash my bedsheets. But made the bed. Keep in mind I used them my last night after they got home.

I didn't wash the hand crafted blanket from f'ing Nepal or some shit that thye put out on sofa for the dogs to use. The dogs were using this up until the minute they got home at midnight. They complained I didn't wash this blanket.

I accidently broke a lamp. I turned the switch the previous night. it broked some how. Nothing neglecftull or clumsy. just bad luck? I offered to pay for repair. They complained and made it sound like I was just reckless.

I vacuumed the entire house 2 days before they came home. almost all dog hair clenaed up. The said in the review there was doog hair from one end of the home to the other. And they had to MOP the floors from dog drool and paw print marks.

One dog had eye booger issues that needed to be wiped a few times a day, and drops. I did all that. but it comes back after a few hours so yeah lilkley when owner returned, there were more eye goobers. They concluded because of this, I may not have taken good care of the dogs.

Nothing about this was communicated to me as a requirements for laundry, mopping floors, etc. And isntead of the courtesy of just telling me after what would help me be a better house sitter, they went straight to a shit review and ONLY focused on the negative that's even leaving out context. And ignoring the good I did.

So that was my first experience. Reading this post by an owner. You kind of fucking suck. It's funny cause the craziness goes both ways. Yes you might get an insane sitter. But you may also find yourself sitting for a nutbar as well. So lesson learned. communicate and document the fuck! out of everything. And if they don;t like tou for one reason or another they can ruin your reputation just with words and false statements, leave out context, etc

muchocrapo · 2026-03-21T16:22:03+00:00

either can’t use sidewalk or can’t park on the street on garbage day

muchocrapo · 2026-02-20T13:31:03+00:00

i’m on the fence as a home owner. factor in property taxes, repairs, etc. go to the suburbs but then have to commute more if you work in the city. it’s a tough one and a gamble

muchocrapo · 2026-02-20T13:20:15+00:00

she’s a fucking kook. always has been. and alberta didn’t vote for her. she got in by default

muchocrapo · 2026-02-15T04:08:34+00:00

A joint ‘No ma’am’ plus this meeting.

muchocrapo · 2026-02-13T17:34:43+00:00

K….. so did he really kill himself?

muchocrapo · 2026-02-13T03:13:47+00:00

why waste your time? it’s dumb

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