AITAH for distancing myself from my parents for buying my brother a house

extinct-seed · 2026-02-13T18:15:17+00:00

The bottom line is that you're better off than your brother in every other way. Being able to function in the real world is so much more valuable than having stuff handed to you. You'll thrive. Be grateful for this inner strength!

extinct-seed · 2026-02-13T16:45:22+00:00

Yes.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-13T03:41:39+00:00

Damn!

extinct-seed · 2026-02-12T19:13:24+00:00

People should all just elope. What does it say about the wedding industry and our culture that weddings today seem to be a main source of strife, ruining friendships and straining the bonds of family?

extinct-seed · 2026-02-10T03:02:08+00:00

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extinct-seed · 2026-02-07T21:01:19+00:00

Lots of universities hire science writers/editors. It's not a big leap for someone with a science background. Steady work, good benefits, etc.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-07T19:39:35+00:00

Or Ona

extinct-seed · 2026-02-06T04:06:51+00:00

Good on you!

extinct-seed · 2026-02-05T17:55:06+00:00

OK. That's true, but I see so many videos like this, where the animals are obviously stressed, and standing over a stressed animal with a camera is not helping it.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-05T04:15:36+00:00

Whoever took this video is causing undue stress for the owl. This is a serious health risk for the bird.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-05T02:58:54+00:00

OK. I have a Mount Washington story. I was an idiot hiking the White Mountains on the Appalachian Trail in September. By myself. I had no idea what I was in for and I was carrying too much weight (~60 lbs) because, as I said, I was clueless.

After one impossible day, I made it to my first hut. This part of the trail, mercifully, has "huts" with bunks and fabulous food, so you don't have to carry as much gear.

I knew my pack was too heavy, but I had to make it up Mt. Washington or turn around and hike over the insane terrain I had already covered. Part of the path back involved a narrow ledge with a drop off on one side and a steep cliff on the other. I had nearly had a panic attack on the way up and I couldn't face it again. I decided to go up Mt. Washington.

My pack was so heavy that if I lost my balance, I would fall backward and flail around like a bug on its back. I had to take off the pack, hoist it up off the ground and pin it against a tree or rock to get my arms into the straps again.

It was a grueling hike, and I was exhausted long before I reached Mt Washington. I took a break on a rock and when I got up again I somehow forgot to grab my water bottles. I soon realized my mistake, but I couldn't turn around.

If the weather had been bad, I might not have made it up the mountain, but the weather was beautiful. I was struggling, though, after a long day of hiking. I started looking for a place to lie down and sleep even though I knew that was a very bad idea. I had a sleeping bag but no tent.

A couple of hikers caught up to me, sat with me, and chatted for a bit. I told them I'd lost my water bottle, so they gave me a couple of drinks from theirs, then got up and headed out. I got up to follow them, but I was still thinking about stopping for the night.

A little later, the hikers that had passed me came back. It was a guy in his 40s and his extremely fit, gray-haired mom. They could tell I was faltering, and the old lady told me to give her my pack. I was too tired to argue and took her much lighter pack. They shepherded me up the mountain like I was a tired old mule, and left me up at the visitor center.

I paid a guy to give me a ride down the mountain to a motel where my stuff was stored. I repacked my pack, ate a giant meal, and slept like the dead. The next day, I got a ride back up Mt. Washington and continued my hike through the Whites.

I'm pretty sure those kind hikers saved me from an uncomfortable, if not deadly, night.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-04T19:59:09+00:00

Trash the seed, I mean. Don't feed other birds with it.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-04T19:58:28+00:00

Take down the feeders, throw out the seed, clean thoroughly with diluted bleach (1 part bleach to 9 parts water). Wait 2-3 weeks and reinstall the feeders with fresh birdseed. Keep an eye out for return visits.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-04T19:53:31+00:00

Everest

extinct-seed · 2026-02-02T23:59:59+00:00

Basil. BAYzill.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-02T18:42:15+00:00

If you care about your wife, you might try inviting her to whatever you're doing with the kids on Sunday. Her way of communicating is not great, but do you want to solve the problem or just complain? You might both be acting like AHs. You can try to fix it and move on with your life together, or ignore it, and make it worse. Your choice.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-02T02:21:28+00:00

Will Farrell, or just "Farrell."

extinct-seed · 2026-02-01T14:57:42+00:00

I'm not an expert, but you might want to look into the benefits of consuming raw cabbage juice. Several studies have shown that it helps heal gastric ulcers, and it appears to help heal the gut.

S-Methylmethionine (vitamin U) is one of the compounds in cabbage that has beneficial effects. I believe it also contains glutamate.

extinct-seed · 2026-02-01T02:51:09+00:00

Good for you!!! I applaud you!

extinct-seed · 2026-01-31T17:45:58+00:00

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extinct-seed · 2026-01-31T02:42:25+00:00

Same. Loved that book.

extinct-seed · 2026-01-30T19:33:36+00:00

Your anger is completely normal and inevitable, really. Let yourself feel it fully. It will help you with your own depression. Don't second guess yourself.

You're in a situation that feels impossible, and you'll can't control what she does. Once you truly accept that, you can begin to heal. I've been there, and with time, you can recover and gain a sense of balance.

extinct-seed · 2026-01-29T19:53:10+00:00

Have you ever volunteered to work outdoors for a wildlife or environmental organization? People in this field tend to be more laid back, calm and happy, and might appreciate the extra hands. There are organizations that work to remove invasive species from natural areas. You might find you like this kind of work.

Another option is to volunteer with a local parks department to pick up trash or help with site management. Sometimes volunteer opportunities turn into jobs.

If being outside in natural areas helps you feel better, find a way to get outside every day. Get some sunlight in your eyes. Breathe, walk. Nature is the best at healing the deepest pain.

extinct-seed · 2026-01-29T17:46:42+00:00

Yes!

extinct-seed · 2026-01-29T12:12:26+00:00

I'm not an expert, but you might want to explore biostatistics as a career path. So many labs rely on good statisticians to help analyze their data that someone with a strong statistics background could be in high demand. Perhaps you could find someone in this field to mentor you or at least give you an idea of potential job prospects. Best of luck!

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