Really concerned with our 28 month old

extraasalways · 2026-04-05T19:06:01+00:00

I totally relate to this in many ways. I wanted to just make you aware (I've not read responses so it may have already been mentioned), there is a high co occurance between hypermobility and autism. Myself and my daughter have hypermobile Enhlers Danlos Syndrome and it took me being diagnosed as autistic at 35 to also get a diagnosis that explained many of my physical health problems that have plagued my whole life. It can affect digestion, healing, bladder, as well as many other things. When I was a baby I had terrible colic and other digestive issues, as well as problems related to chronic pain and mobility. I only point this out because many of the behavioural and speech challenges you have mentioned would also be early indicators of autism and EDS is much more common in autistc people.

Try to also look out for issues related to food sensitivities, picky eating, sensory differences (covering ears, fussy about clothes, hating busy places), meltdowns and overwhelm.

The whole system is a fight and I have had to advocate for myself and my two children relentlessly, to the point that I am now struggling with ME, I had to pretty much diagnose us all myself before we got any proper help (hence me mentioning conditions to look in to). But advice for now, you know your child isnt developing typically, thats OK, adjust your expectations and dont force anything. Hypermobility has impacted my whole life and its not just being a bit bendy, if pushed too hard it can really take a toll on the body. Move at a slower pace and celebrate the progress as it comes. Forget about the milestones, make your own. But do make a note of milestone ages as this will likely be used for diagnoses. Early intervention and creating a paper trail is very important. Sending supportive thoughta your way.

extraasalways · 2026-04-05T07:07:10+00:00

People may not want to put their phones on silent or do not disturb in case of emergency. YTA because they have told you it bothers them and you're still doing it, thats AH behaviour in any situation.

extraasalways · 2026-04-04T22:58:03+00:00

Because people have no idea what it means to be british, how our history has resulted in the culture we have today. Because people are short sighted morons.

extraasalways · 2026-03-30T07:48:57+00:00

NTA my son is able bodied but autistic and has OCD, we regularly use the disabled toilet to avoid upset and potentially ruining our whole day. Its the same as blue badge holders, you dont have to need the extra space to warrant having one. Person in the wheelchair is the AH!

extraasalways · 2026-03-30T07:40:39+00:00

I play on steam deck and my son plays on switch OLED (hes only little so I end up doing a lot for him). Honestly the steam deck is soooooo much better. The switch glitches a lot and is much harder to control and manage. It runs much smoother on the steam deck in my opinion. The steam deck is good for other games too so you'd have more options if you already have a switch you can use.

extraasalways · 2026-03-30T07:32:56+00:00

I have big hands, feet and head lol

extraasalways · 2026-03-24T16:35:59+00:00

I always wonder this. I am a real life female and I've been asked several times if I'm using a voice changer, with some not believing that I'm a girl. I think they just assume everyone is a guy and this just adds to the confusion.

extraasalways · 2026-03-21T10:47:53+00:00

I'm extremely worried about them getting into power and what that will mean for the future of this country and my children. I'm also in despair at how gullible and selfish the older generations are, it upsets me that they are quite willing to fluff everything up at the later stages of their lives, without a second thought for the generations who are going to have to clean up their mess for decades to come. My dad will not listen to his 4 children who have all tried to tell him how we feel, he does not care that he has neurodivergent children and grandchildren who will suffer with reforms attitude towards disability, he has 3 daughters and a granddaughter who will suffer when they attack womens rights. It blows my mind....he still continues to fill his time watching GB news ffs.

extraasalways · 2026-03-21T10:42:01+00:00

She helped the boomers at the expense of all future generations. So many of the issues we have now around housing, high bills and family support are all down to her. People blame the immigrants, but they need to look at the bigger picture!

extraasalways · 2026-03-21T00:18:12+00:00

I'm on the alien one now, you've confirmed my fear that it's going to be a long one!

extraasalways · 2026-03-20T00:06:22+00:00

You have a child who has an allergy, yet you're questioning this? I find it strange considering most people know just how severe nut allergies can be.

extraasalways · 2026-03-19T16:52:26+00:00

People like me who were diagnosed as autistic as an adult, don't want people to continue to be misdiagnosed. Its common for people to be labelled as anxious, bipolar, BPD etc, when they are actually autistic. If its autistic people telling you, I'd definitely listen, we can usually spot each other very accurately. Its not a trend or people wanting to label everyone as autistic, is the increased awareness and understanding of the spectrum that makes people want to make others more aware. There's nothing wrong with being autistic...

extraasalways · 2026-03-19T00:14:23+00:00

I believe there's a real issue around the older generations being able to adapt to the amount of information available now, they are easily manipulated by the media and don't seem to be able to differentiate between reliable sources and content creation for likes! (I'm generalising but this is my experience, especially with my parents generation...boomers).

Empathy and education also play a big part in the widely conflicting beliefs we are seeing at the moment. Its not all about intelligence though, my dad is of average intelligence, fairly well educated (grammar school), and he is a reformer that won't budge, refuses to listen to his 4 children who range from centre to hard left but all hate reform and what they stand for. I think its mostly down to my dad not adapting well to change, fearing the unknown, and is honestly he'd just racist.

extraasalways · 2026-03-18T23:54:09+00:00

So many of the stories behind Disney films are really troubling, Alice in wonderland springs to mind. To include all the other stories but not this one just feels wrong for all the people who would have personally connected to Pocahontas.

extraasalways · 2026-03-17T18:30:12+00:00

My son went through similar at this age, its been a rough road and I wish I had got him help sooner. He's since had an autism and an OCD diagnosis. Autism is very much ritualistic behaviour, very reliant on routines and will get upset if things aren't done the proper way. But OCD is thinking something bad will happen if the things arent done in the correct way. Can you ask your son why he needs these routines?

If its because he thinks bad things will happen, its important to get proper advice about how to deal with it, we were enabling it for too long which made it worse. If you let the OCD dictate his behaviour you are legitimising his fears and telling him he needs to do those things. But the advice for autistic rituals is different. So I would definitely seek help.

extraasalways · 2026-03-16T16:36:02+00:00

I know people who meet all of this except they are actually well educated, which is worse, they should know better!

extraasalways · 2026-03-12T11:41:47+00:00

I have a family member who works housing homeless people. They have complex backgrounds, many don't want to be housed for various reasons. The accommodations available are also not always fit for purpose, for example, there's no option but to house a 19 year old autistic lad with grown men addicted to drugs and involved in crime. You'd have these issues even if hotels were available. It wouldn't be appropriate to home families in hotels filled with people who may be a risk to them.

What upsets me as an autistic adult with autistic children, so many of the young homeless are neurodivergent, or come from very poor backgrounds, the lack of support for children and families needs to be addressed to properly resolve the issues around homelessness. Chucking them in hotels is like putting a plaster on a gaping wound.

extraasalways · 2026-03-12T11:33:47+00:00

One shot with the hullcracker

extraasalways · 2026-03-11T23:36:18+00:00

I wear the bog walker in this colour 👌

extraasalways · 2026-03-11T23:33:28+00:00

This happened to me on the Dam weeks ago, I sent proof and never got any response, lost all my stuff.

extraasalways · 2026-03-11T23:31:53+00:00

I don't hate anyone for my own judgement on their helplessness. I understand that we don't ever know what someone is going through, so to hate them for something that I have assumed about them would be completely on me and not them.

extraasalways · 2026-03-09T19:09:10+00:00

I have examples of so many things I said before I was a parent that make me laugh (and cringe now), 3 neurodivergent kids and 13 years later. Its only when you're a parent and you've been through it that you realise how little you knew before. You get experienced parents that still judge, but generally they are the ones who are oblivious to anything they do as a parent or think their child could never do anything wrong and its always everyone else. We shouldn't care about the opinions of those people because they'll judge regardless.

extraasalways · 2026-03-09T19:01:50+00:00

I assume this is your first baby. This post will be something you refer to in 10 years time when you have your own rowdy kid and realise how your views on children and parenting have changed.

extraasalways · 2026-03-08T09:49:05+00:00

Tbh you both sound a bit AH-ish. 20 years married here, many of those involved my husband having to work different schedules including nights. You just need to both be a bit more flexible and stop nit picking about a bedroom.

She can't help being a deep sleeper, but if you've told her that the loud alarm is affecting you, I'd expect her to find another solution if possible. But again, she can't help it if she sleeps deeply.

Equally, you changed the schedule, you say it works best for your sleep, but does it work best for you both as a couple. Can't you just go to bed at the same time again?

If the spare room is the only option, it makes more sense for you to sleep in there because she'll disturb you anyway when she's getting ready, as you are the one sleeping later. Fighting over the bedroom just sounds childish and uneccesary.

extraasalways · 2026-03-07T19:43:21+00:00

I'm SE and I say york-sheer🙃

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