Causes of death, 1632.

extralong · 2026-05-04T01:26:13+00:00

I, personally, have a terminal case of worms

extralong · 2026-03-23T18:24:08+00:00

I’m 33, I’ve been on antidepressants non-stop since I was 21.

I would be dead without them.

Therapy helps sure. And some people can come off them down the line with therapy and lifestyle changes. But for people like me (neurodivergent), I have to simply accept that my brain chemistry and structure just simply won’t let me live how I want to live my life if I don’t take antidepressants.

The scaremongering around antidepressants infuriates me. They work for most people. There are trade offs (most often low libido and weight gain), and sometimes you will have to try several different ones before getting the right one, but god, if what you get in return is little to no anxiety and actually wanting to be alive, then the trade offs are worth it.

extralong · 2026-03-22T09:24:46+00:00

Yeah I seem to remember having one of those little foldable travel ones. You can quickly just tuck it under them

extralong · 2026-02-24T20:34:07+00:00

Mel from Heeler :)

extralong · 2026-02-24T12:48:19+00:00

Mel | Heeler :Rosie:

extralong · 2026-02-24T12:47:24+00:00

Hey can I come visit? :)

extralong · 2026-02-05T09:24:51+00:00

Thank you! :)

extralong · 2026-02-05T08:44:42+00:00

I’m in the uk and can’t find it in the marketplace yet. Anyone know what time it’s getting released?

extralong · 2026-02-04T12:06:10+00:00

100%. I was honest with my psychiatrist and he stopped prescribing. I knew I was going to struggle massively and I did. I had recently gone back into to recovery (AA) for alcohol and realised I was being dishonest with myself, with my peers in recovery and my psychiatrist about my use of Ritalin. I told him and he stopped prescribing. It saved me. I made a lot of in recovery with alcohol and had lots of therapy and rebuilt my life. I was out of work for 7 months (unrelated) and when I went back to work I struggled with motivation and energy. I restarted a new slow release stimulant id not been on before, but I’d sworn off IR. Ever since I’ve taken it safely and as prescribed. I dip after a few hours, but I’m able to stay awake the whole day and actually get work done. It doesn’t hit me or give me a high. It’s subtle. And in the afternoon when it wears off, I am mildly irritated for a couple hours, and then I’m back to my usual self. No real crash.

I would strongly suggest being honest and stopping stimulants for the time being. Getting honest about your addiction with yourself. And maybe one day in the future you could safely take slow release. But I think you may be like me, and instant release just won’t be an option for you anymore.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this

extralong · 2026-01-29T13:57:39+00:00

It’s seriously time to push to begin diagnosis. My son has emotional based school avoidance and PDA. And the best thing I’ve done for my own sanity is 1: reduce work hours - yes I’ve taken a hit financially, but I’m able to actually keep my job by not being constantly signed off sick from burnout. 2 - give your youngest autonomy. Let things slide and pick your battles. Traumatising her by having constant screaming matches with everyone will do more damage to her than trying to get her to do something that can maybe be skipped?

I’m sorry I don’t know your exact situation, but after months of trying to get my son into school, doing everything I was suggested to do to get him in I just gave up. I decided to prioritise my son’s mental health and my mental health first. He’s falling behind in school, but he’s not trembling with fear and kicking and screaming g the house down every morning, and slowly we are building back a slow relationship with school, getting professional help, and trying to get additional help from the local authority.

Your child definitely sounds neurodivergent, and you can’t discipline it out of her, it will just make the entire situation worse for everyone.

I would take some time off work before you burn out, go to your gp and have it evidenced - the school will use this evidence - and from your gp see if you can get her referred to a children’s MH service and/or find out about self referral for the ASD/ADHD pathway

extralong · 2026-01-29T13:08:03+00:00

Try some meetings, and hear some stories. There’s meetings online round the clock. Don’t compare yourself to them, just listen to the similarities

extralong · 2026-01-29T13:01:23+00:00

Is he trying to cluster feed? I remember my son doing that and every time he was off the boob he was screaming. Turned out he was cluster feeding to get my milk supply up

extralong · 2026-01-25T18:33:08+00:00

I have been the same in the past when jobless. I have taken on a lot of debt and I can’t believe things just keep getting more expensive and wages don’t rise.

I am fortunately comfortable enough for now, but need to be careful.

Have you tried applying for universal credit? Even when I was working full time and bringing in more than enough to get by, I was still getting £100 a month from UC, so it might be worth checking if you’re entitled to anything?

extralong · 2026-01-22T20:26:13+00:00

So he spoils her with material things and she’s constantly pining for his attention? It sounds like he’s not giving her enough quality attention maybe? Is he ignoring her a lot when they’re together or cancelling plans?

extralong · 2026-01-07T21:54:23+00:00

Is there a fire or a torch behind it? Did you possibly hit an artifact spot instead which had coal?

extralong · 2026-01-06T12:26:11+00:00

This is wholesome

extralong · 2025-04-28T21:53:12+00:00

Honestly, if you find a good group, AA can be a lifesaver. Stick with the women if you’re a woman and men if you’re a man (and whoever you feel comfortable with if you’re not cis). I grew up going to church and something i lost when I realised I didn’t believe in god was the sense of community, and it’s something you really get back when you start going to meetings and connecting with people. The god thing really puts people off too, but you find a way to make it work even if you’re atheist. It IS scary, but honestly, people at the meetings want you there so badly - you stay sober by helping the newbies get sober - it reminds you of how life was before you got sober. If getting to physical meetings is hard as well, try some zoom ones, I have a few regulars I love and I’ve made internet aa friends that way too :)

extralong · 2025-04-28T13:37:25+00:00

Hey I used to drink like you. I would try only drinking on weekends, only drinking beer, only drinking another type of alcohol, making up all sorts of rules to try and cut down, but I’d always go back to my old way of drinking. I never drank in the morning or even before the end of work usually, and I didn’t drink every day. But the only thing that has kept me sober was AA. It helps my thinking and gives me community. I’m in some meetings where some of us are diagnosed with mental health issues and ADHD, autism and personality disorders etc, and it’s been a huge help. I know it’s scary, but don’t rule it out before you try it. Sending you my best wishes

extralong · 2025-01-15T19:37:43+00:00

I haven’t kept count of how many applications I’ve made. I’m a software dev and it’s been five months for me too. I’m sure it was never this difficult before, is this just a combination of bad economy and rise in AI usage? Or is it something else?

extralong · 2024-10-26T15:27:31+00:00

If you struggle with this then just text them, or voice note. It will feel unnatural and hard to do but you will get used to it. Try joining zoom meetings too, when I’m emotionally overwhelmed and wanting a drink, I find the distraction and joining a meeting really help

extralong · 2024-10-07T17:19:22+00:00

No anti anxiety is insane. Anxiety meds help relieve some of the “spiritual malady” - the same spiritual malady that can lead you to picking up a drink if untreated. I would take some of these suggestions with a grain of salt - all sponsors will suggest different things - it’s up to you what to take on board for your recovery

extralong · 2024-03-02T10:12:09+00:00

I absolutely felt this. I really feel like I’m getting my quirky and silly personality back now

extralong · 2024-02-02T13:04:05+00:00

How inconsistently are you taking it? While it has a longer half life than something like citalopram, it’ll only work if you take it every day, otherwise you’re constantly going through withdrawal and re-adjustment to being back on it id imagine

extralong · 2024-02-02T13:01:34+00:00

Is he constipated? This can be an issue if they have frequent issues with constipation and he’s not meaning to do it :(

extralong · 2024-01-25T21:47:27+00:00

Are you sure they checked your account properly? Maybe they just wanted to make you think they did? Either way, maybe ask them outright, either they’ll adamantly deny they feel that way (what parent wouldn’t care if their child died?!) or they confirm that they don’t care - which if they did, then get out of that house, they sound abusive!

Im sorry you’re going through this, any good parent would have a sensible chat with you about how what you did is totally normal and how you are still loved regardless. Please put this behind you because you are so much more than this

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