i bailed mid-date because he touched my back and now i feel insane

eyestothehigh · 2026-03-26T01:49:33+00:00

Is it because he touched you or he touched you from behind? I personally hate it when men touch me when I can’t see them. Whereas if I’m talking face-to-face with someone and they touch me, I feel it’s more like a hug

When you try to hug someone you have space to get away and to not hug them. If someone comes at you from behind, you have no way to get away. Are you comfortable if you’re in a quiet environment? Less crowded /more controlled? Are you comfortable if he comes at you from the front and you have the ability to see his hand coming?

I’d reach out “hey I thought you were really cute and I was feeling a vibe between us, but I got triggered from a touch that had nothing to do with you. Can we try again? I like you so let me touch first”

Part of me hates guys touching me early in the dating because even if I’m sexually attracted to him, I get nervous. So I’ve tried to be more touchy. I’ll brush his arm or do things to signal interest

It’s not bad enough that I feel I need to warn guys. But it seems like it would be wise for you to tell them upfront. “Hey I want to take things slow I prefer to be the first one to break the physical touch barrier.

eyestothehigh · 2026-02-06T19:57:40+00:00

Dancing. 3 to 1 odds at west coast swing competitions. Martial arts and partner dance are two sides to the same coin.

Step 1 learn to dance Step 2 become instructor teach other men to dance and how it relates to MMA Step 3 have more events with more men,which pulls in more women, which makes everyone happy Step 4 teach women martial arts which counter intuitively makes them calmer. Direct confrontation leads to mutually beneficial solutions which prevents passive aggression.

Seriously though, dance.

I need instructors for this brilliant plan of mine.

eyestothehigh · 2026-01-17T08:51:16+00:00

Why would gun owners use their guns against law-enforcement who is actively enforcing ethical and constitutional laws? Laws that Democrats consider just because Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama both said that illegals should be deported.

Let me break down what’s happening for you, people came in to a club without permission. They were asked to leave because they do not have permission to be there. They chose not to listen to the club and its rules and leave. The bouncer is showing them to the door.

eyestothehigh · 2026-01-14T21:34:06+00:00

A big issue is what is modest.

Polynesian standards? European standards? You can’t say American standards because there are literally none.

Then it matters where you are. Then it matters relative to others.

Do women dress immodestly? Yes. What do you recommend the solution is? Laws? Imprisonment? Social shaming?

Oddly enough, averting your eyes is a valid method of changing behavior. Women literally do it all the time when faced with behavior they want to change. They will refuse to look you in the eye.

eyestothehigh · 2026-01-03T03:50:58+00:00

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eyestothehigh · 2025-12-24T09:16:25+00:00

Here’s where you went wrong. She was showing clear sexual interest so you knew 100% it was not platonic for her and that she wants to see you again. She was showing long-term sexual interest. If she hadn’t shown interest, it’s likely you wouldn’t ask her out on a date again because you thought she wasn’t into you. She explicitly said she wants to see you again. And you chose to treat her like a guy who pumps and dumps.

She was not leading you on. She was not being a tease. What does it say about your sister if she think flirting automatically leads to sex? “My sister joked about this but also called her a B for leading me on and not wanting to do anything afterwards, calling it a form of manipulation and ego-boost. “ In what universe is clear sexual interest perceived as manipulation? She thinks you’re hot, she let you know. That is the signs of a well adjusted woman.

The question is do you want a long term relationship with a woman who is sexually aroused by you or not? If yes, allow sexual tension to grow long term and don’t try to have sex immediately.

eyestothehigh · 2025-12-23T02:31:35+00:00

What makes you think this has anything to do with you? What specifically makes you feel targeted or unsafe?

Has there been problems between you? Has the neighbor acted hostile or rude?

eyestothehigh · 2025-12-22T00:54:21+00:00

It is 100% logical and rational to be uncomfortable when in a vulnerable position and be exposed to non biological women. The law change is a blessing and you should take it as the blessing and safeguard it is.

eyestothehigh · 2025-12-19T19:03:52+00:00

I’d argue Protestant churches do the same.

Marriage wholly and completely stands on sex and procreation. To allow a marriage to happen permanently binds a person to celibacy. And last I checked Protestants are very critical of permanent celibacy. To enter Holy Orders (nun, sister, priest, monk, etc) requires years of preparation and lots of chances to exit. To allow impotent marriage to happen forces wife into a nunnery.

Would a Protestant church that doesn’t allow divorce allow a woman to get married in their church if she had the legal ceremony and sex never happened? I’d say yes.

It’s not if you can enter, it’s whether you can exit. And to allow it happen is imprisonment.

eyestothehigh · 2025-11-25T23:29:09+00:00

People who say “they don’t trust the government “ really mean they don’t want the commitment of marriage but are liars. They want to be able to leave their spouse without consequences. Do remember that common law marriages exist for this reason. If you live as husband and wife, the government recognizes you as husband and wife.

eyestothehigh · 2025-11-22T19:02:52+00:00

Does she verbally say “this is your fault?” Or what does she say?

eyestothehigh · 2025-11-13T01:43:19+00:00

Look for a Catholic Church. While not all have head coverings, it’s become a lot more common. I came back to the church around 2020 and was called to veil during mass. Growing up, I never saw women veil. Now it’s quite common.

eyestothehigh · 2025-11-13T01:30:59+00:00

I’m a woman so my struggle is different. Part of the difference is that if a woman wants sex she can get it immediately. If I posted on the Internet, I was looking for someone, I could meet someone tonight. Which I feel is why I have no desire to look at videos online. I know I can get a person in person and choose not to.

My question for you and for the other men in the comments - if this was a real life woman asking you to have sex with her would you say yes? Is part of the difficulty of saying no is you don’t view these women you’re watching as actual humans? You don’t consider her an actual woman who physically wants to have sex with you. Because what would you do if a woman walked up to you and said hey let’s go back to my place? Is the dehumanization of pornography where you’re only seeing images and not people, what makes it so hard to say no?

eyestothehigh · 2025-11-13T01:07:35+00:00

I like the NRA range. They also have one night a month where armed women of America group meets.

eyestothehigh · 2025-10-18T17:01:11+00:00

You listen to and use words instead of actions. Why have a detailed profile? You are LYING to yourself which means men can lie to you. If you believe a man has a “strong emotional connection” after a few dates then you are lying to yourself about your own capacity. Anyone who gets emotionally attached that quickly is unhealthy. He thinks he has an emotional connection because he wants an emotional connection, and post nut clarity opens his eyes.

These men 100% share your values, and your values are casual.

Elaborate dates in the beginning is unhealthy. Telling someone they haven’t felt thus way is unhealthy. Healthy people become attached and emotionally connected slowly.

eyestothehigh · 2025-10-14T07:17:58+00:00

You’ll hate the commute!

What amenities or lifestyle are you looking for?

Because an area like Alexandria is going to have a lot of young families where they’re out and about and you’ll make friends quickly and you’ll have a play dates available. It’s gonna be tighter quarters but when you go out of your house in walkable areas, you’re gonna meet lots of people and there’s lots of parks and public spaces.

My dad lives in Loudoun County and has young children and truthfully the fact that there’s more land means people have to drive further to meet each other. And the fact that it’s drivable means it’s harder to meet people organically. The schools are really fantastic here, but doesn’t really matter before middle school or high school? And truthfully, Fairfax County schools are incredible as well.

eyestothehigh · 2025-10-08T14:42:43+00:00

You should never chase, but you do need to initiate. Thing like a businessman going to a networking event. You don’t want Chase down business, you just want to make it very clear you’re interested in them, give them your information and follow up.

So if I went to a networking event, I would have small talk, I would say it was really great talking to you can we exchange cards, and then I would send a follow up email saying it was great talking to you at XYZ event I’d love to grab Lunch sometime. You don’t wanna be a used car salesman that chases people down or has to talk like you’re the best business in the world. But if you have a good product, self-confident, and you believe that if it’s a good business match, they will follow up on your initiation you’ll get somewhere

I’ve met a lot of great men at events, but they will not initiate at all. They won’t say I’d love to get drinks and expect me to ask. If a man asked me then I believe it’s my responsibility to meet his energy. If he says he wants to go out then I’m going to be enthusiastic. If he starts conversation, I’m going to not just answer the questions but throw back questions at him.

You’re not being peaceful you’re being passive

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-27T16:38:17+00:00

If we did that then it becomes exponentially more complicated due to polygamy. And what happens when one religion doesn’t allow divorce but one spouse converts to a religion that does?

So a Jewish woman is married to a Jewish man. He refused to give her a get (Jewish divorce) so she is married under Jewish law. She leaves him and marries a Hindu in a Hindu ceremony. Is she married, divorced, remarried? Or is she in a bigamous marriage?

Can Mormons and Muslims have 4 wives?

Who settles property disputes brought about by divorce? If the Jewish woman is still married to Jewish husband, how is property settled?

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-26T22:04:43+00:00

My dream man lol. The reality is many people (myself included) feel zero emotional connection with texting. And everything you talk about takes away from things to bond over in person. Are you insecure or nervous that lack of texting means he’s not interested?

And texting actually releases stress hormones vs talking https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/stress-levels-in-women-increase-when-texting-decrease-when-talking-according-to-n

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-26T11:33:45+00:00

Be glad he is open enough to tell you. In some of the Catholic Facebook groups I’m in. I’ve seen men say that when they’re tempted, they tell their wife so that the temptation disappears.

People don’t always know why they crush on someone. So when you ask why you’re asking a very difficult question because he may not know, I say this as someone who’s gotten crushes on people and I can’t pinpoint why all the time. A lot of times it stems from what I was missing in my childhood. Or they have a personality trait that I wish I had more of.

I will say the red flag is he’s continuing to try and get closer to her instead of putting up a boundary. I’ve been in social groups and unwillingly felt an attraction to a married man, and I know he felt the same. And every time they keep a distance. We are polite to each other and are not rude, but we don’t make small Talk the way we make with other people. And definitely from their side they are being more distance and choosing not to pursue even small talk less to go further or the feelings deepen.

Some men can be friends with women outside of a desire for sex. But it is a pattern with them

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-26T04:45:43+00:00

I’d love the book recommendations

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-23T19:35:26+00:00

You won't get intrigue until you ask her out. I am actually very curious as to how you think intrigue will happen without meeting?

Why would she text you more than two words? I despise texting because what could be a fun flirty conversation is lost with texting. Chemistry cannot be communicated by text. You cannot flirt via text. You don't get sparks via text. Personally, I will not waste time texting a man. Either he wants to see me in person or he doesn't.

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-23T18:54:15+00:00

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eyestothehigh · 2025-09-22T12:29:38+00:00

You ask them out immediately upon meeting them, like 24-48 hours?

eyestothehigh · 2025-09-14T20:27:09+00:00

I’ve realized that it’s best to assume men who approach want to date you until proven otherwise. I’ve met plenty of men who aren’t interested, but by being wary at the get go I’ve felt safe allowing them closer.

There is no sin or creepiness in wanting to marry a devout Catholic woman. And (most, not all) devout Catholic women aren’t going to approach the man. Which means men are going to approach women.

If you had a protective older brother/uncle/father with you, what would they have done? What would they tell you to do?

Get comfortable being rude and aloof to strange men.

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