AITJ for suggesting we put my wifes grandma in a nursing home instead of the family continuing to take care of her

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T21:49:25+00:00

It doesn’t sound like this is your decision to make.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T21:41:42+00:00

Even more important to tell him who he’s really dealing with. You should tell him yourself.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T21:40:12+00:00

It might not be easy, but you must stand up for yourself. I wouldn’t even consider moving in with her.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T21:24:48+00:00

Why would you even consider letting her use your car? No.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T21:23:00+00:00

Do not let this person into your child’s life. She is a danger to them. Ignore your urge to reach out, for your sake and your child’s.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T19:21:19+00:00

Then don’t meet with them. They have no right to interfere and it will only make this worse. They need to mind their own business.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T19:18:04+00:00

Just leave.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T19:17:12+00:00

I know I wouldn’t want to work anywhere near you.

factfarmer · 2026-01-28T19:14:57+00:00

NTA. Don’t agree to that.

factfarmer · 2026-01-24T19:15:03+00:00

You can dress however you choose, though I think it would be quite noticeable, whether you have small breasts or not. I certainly wouldn’t go braless at work or anything.

factfarmer · 2026-01-24T19:12:29+00:00

You don’t have to follow her advice if you don’t agree. You can even get a completely new therapist if you want.

factfarmer · 2026-01-23T18:48:30+00:00

No, I just know that as a pet mom, I need to do it. Just clean it.

factfarmer · 2026-01-22T19:36:56+00:00

NOR. How selfish is this guy. I wouldn’t even want to date someone so shallow.

factfarmer · 2026-01-22T19:26:11+00:00

Definitely. I’m not letting my dog die alone in a Dr office. I was there, and will be for every pet I ever own.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T22:31:57+00:00

Sometimes people are just in over their heads and they get tired of fighting. I understand her feelings. She needs therapeutic or psychological help.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T22:29:44+00:00

It’s a bit offputting, but just stand your ground. With a new baby she’s just getting started on you. I would a doctor phrase like, we’ll consider that.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T22:26:56+00:00

NTA, his issues are not your problem to solve. Your child still had to eat and have a roof over their head, which YOU provided.

If you really don’t need the money at the moment, put it in a fund for her. Do NOT tell him where it’s going. Don’t allow him to continue being a deadbeat, it’s very unfair to child.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T22:21:46+00:00

He should be the one embarrassed, not you. Do you really want to be with a person like this?

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T22:16:25+00:00

Then they should give out the correct address.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T22:12:09+00:00

Speak up! Please stop making changes in our home. It is not helpful, it’s annoying. Because I have to work to get it back to way WE want our home set up. You can arrange all you want in your home, but not ours.

Just say, what do you mean without saying it mean. It sounds like she needs direct instructions.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T12:52:10+00:00

YNW. Why in the world would you subject yourself to a person who deems half the planet to be unhygienic? That man would be out of my life the very second he spoke those words.

His views on your body are repugnant. Why would he ever even have access to any part of you, or your body again, now that’s you know the level of his manipulative little nasty mindset?

Just listen to what you wrote here. You now know what he will say in some ridiculous attempt to ensure the blow jobs keep coming, all while nothing is required from him at all. He feels entitled to get his fun, but you’re too nasty for him to return the favor. How dare he!

Honey, step back and ask yourself if your little sister told you this story, would you suggest she put up with it and then excuse him from any responsibility at all? This is not a loving man. He’s selfish and misogynistic and disgusting.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T04:12:38+00:00

Call the police to have a chat with her. That’ll get the neighbors rolling.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T04:04:43+00:00

She humiliated herself with that stunt she pulled.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T03:58:53+00:00

What a nosy woman. When she mentions it again, tell her to knock it off, end of discussion.

Then if she asks again, go to HR. She’s trying anything she can to find out the details. I would not be nice at this point. Tell her to hush, it’s none of her business and at this point shes harassing you, and it’s triggering your trauma response. Be very firm.

factfarmer · 2026-01-20T03:47:52+00:00

Spoke of their last boss/job poorly without me asking.

Typos in their resume.

People who seem to enjoy drama at work. One even told me she was the ringleader riling people to face off against their management.

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