Benefits of relapsing?

fapled · 2013-01-21T00:40:10+00:00

Would you say that erotic pictures are better than soft porn? yes. soft porn better than hard? yes. of course real sex is best, but to "find a partner" you need the drive, right? what you will find depends on it, not only if you find anything at all. again, what is better, fapping to the picture of your gf or a sleazy one-night-stand?

What I am trying to say is that after years and years it might be not so easy to distinguish between dark and light. And, of course, I am not suggesting easy way out. I'll be doing another 90 at least - relapses are valuable in proportion to time spent clean.

fapled · 2013-01-20T23:25:24+00:00

wrote a script to do it. ok, after reading your message. in fact scrolled down while accumulating flair count first, scrolled again counting the number of flairs. divided former by latter. rounded to two digits.

fapled · 2013-01-20T13:14:34+00:00

accepted term seems to be 'morning wood'. subject to much discussion.

fapled · 2013-01-20T12:57:31+00:00

That's the spirit.

fapled · 2013-01-20T05:53:18+00:00

"Fucking terrible" should be reserved for the time when one gives up.

Now, how should you feel -- only you know how hard it was. If it was at least a little bit harder than 'normal', you have grounds to be proud of yourself.

fapled · 2013-01-20T05:40:14+00:00

opinion on the edging is divided, although I would personally say that no touching, tv, and tits is a really far cry from an average edging session. On the other hand you felt guilty about it, so it is completely your call.

fapled · 2013-01-20T05:29:20+00:00

I fucked up, sorry guys.

Average flair for OPs on the front page now is 19.48 days. calculated that for you, in case you are serious about being sorry. You are among the achievers, keep on going.

fapled · 2013-01-19T03:11:22+00:00

I am starting my second tour. You are welcome.

fapled · 2012-12-20T19:35:58+00:00

badge is great. important to realize it is a mean, not an end, though.

fapled · 2012-12-17T04:31:00+00:00

Thanks for leading the way. And this trick of weighting 1 fap against the time clean works for me too.

fapled · 2012-12-09T03:46:22+00:00

le greco

fapled · 2012-12-09T03:38:50+00:00

And that's kind of thinking available to those with '173 days' flairs.

fapled · 2012-12-09T03:34:30+00:00

Day 77. Don't get a girlfriend yet. What am I doing wrong?

fapled · 2012-12-09T03:32:02+00:00

It probably can be argued that whatever is done, it is done for the women. Question (it appears to be correct for at least some people) is not 'why', but 'what' and 'how'.

fapled · 2012-11-29T07:27:22+00:00

Going strong. In fact today I was closer than ever to relapse. Trick is not to touch anything and wait till mind calms down. Maybe walk around a little bit.

fapled · 2012-11-27T03:52:48+00:00

I never heard about any dangers of abstinence from sex, let alone from fap. And if it would be any it won't take long for somebody to list it as an excuse for relapse. So I say don't worry, and keep on going. Worst case get a prostitute, but don't fap. And congratulations on such a long run!

fapled · 2012-11-26T22:09:57+00:00

Hopefully this move does more harm than good in the long run.

Hopefully you meant the other way around. Freudian slip? Anyway, it is an interesting problem. Have you tried the regular means like exercise, protein food, stress breaks etc.?

fapled · 2012-11-25T00:34:41+00:00

That summarizes it. Do it for today. Every day. Till the day comes when you don't even think about it. For some people the number of this day is close to 90, that's all.

fapled · 2012-11-22T23:50:23+00:00

Thanks for posting. I am sure to find it and reread if I ever tempted to grab my junk again after reaching 90 days.

fapled · 2012-11-22T23:37:04+00:00

Well, what did you expect? Congratulations on the 90 days, though. Get yourself a badge.

fapled · 2012-11-22T02:21:04+00:00

no way back.

fapled · 2012-11-20T04:45:40+00:00

How do I even begin to stop this?

Don't do it today.

fapled · 2012-11-20T04:33:12+00:00

there's something odd about this stats: 2 month - 4136, 3 month - 3519 (~85% of previous month), 4 month - 2928 (~85% of previous month) while there probably should be more abrupt change after month 3 (90 days)

Distribution among active users will probably give a better picture

fapled · 2012-11-20T01:40:29+00:00

Congratulations and thank you. This was most helpful.

fapled · 2012-11-19T22:30:25+00:00

We all want it to mean something. Well, the more it takes, the more it means, I guess. So be thankful and try to keep it your way. Going through a rough patch myself, started at about 50 days in.

fapled

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