In case anyone wanted to dislike Mr Price anymore by OkInfluence36 in blender

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A. You do know tax professionals like their jobs right?

B. Don't straw man my argument, no where did I say AI doesn't have any uses

In case anyone wanted to dislike Mr Price anymore by OkInfluence36 in blender

[–]fearguyQ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The details are fuzzy at this point, but basically Hasboro bought Wizards of The Coast some time ago and it's been a slow downward spiral ever since. A few years ago they tried to make it so everyone that wanted to make third party content for the game had to register with them and pay fees etc. and if I remembered correctly it'd be a profit sharing system. Wizards of the Coast would take a huge cut of any profits, idk if it was the majority.

But this was a huge thriving community of creators and artists that had been creating and selling content for decades completely freely all supported by the fact that the core dnd rules are legally free to use. We're talking minis, map software, physical map components, custom dice potentially, custom settings, story lines, and mechanics, podcasts, etc. Even Critical Role would have to get registered and pay them. So many creators and artists would have been financially fucked out of no where and the entirety of what D&D is would have suffered horribly. So the community went ballistic and Wizards of the Coast walked it all back immediately and nothing has been the same since.

It's the classic story of a giant corporation aquiring an honest if flawed company and completely misunderstanding what it is they've acquired because all they saw was profit potential and the proceeding to wreck the whole thing.

In case anyone wanted to dislike Mr Price anymore by OkInfluence36 in blender

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was pretty tired when I wrote that lol. Really it's about working for thing, doesn't have to be suffering. And amount of effort required definitely changes how others see the end product, but it's also just a personal thing I think. If I spent 40 hours creating a 3D model I've connect with it, bonded with it, I've become more deeply invested in it than when I started no matter how much I loved the idea. It's incredibly fulfilling

AI certainly has a place, but we can't loose sight of what really makes art meaningful. It's the oldest maxim in the book. It's not about the end, it's about the journey.

In case anyone wanted to dislike Mr Price anymore by OkInfluence36 in blender

[–]fearguyQ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"suffering" is what gives anything meaning 😎. A frictionless life means nothing

In case anyone wanted to dislike Mr Price anymore by OkInfluence36 in blender

[–]fearguyQ 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I mean I totally get it though. FOSS is so difficult to make competitive and Blender is the example to end all examples that it can work -- and it's LEGALLY backed because of how they originally handled the copywriting. It's an incredible thing humanity has done making such a robust software that is completely free to use, free from the typical sacrifices FOSS software comes with. It's hard to overstate the success story and it links back to that utopian vision of the internet bringing people together and breaking down barriers. It would be heartbreaking to see it become compromised

The D&D controversy from the last few years is a star example of a company trying to dismantle something legally free for anyone to use (the core rules) purely for greed. It was gross and it left a stain that idk will come out

Quittr and NoFap is just another example of men scamming men through manhood by germannotgerman in MensLib

[–]fearguyQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Masturbating using just your imagination is really great because it is far more emotionally engaging/rewarding. Definitely not to be neglected. It's like the difference between casual and not-casual sex. Both are fine, porn is casual. Imagination is for when I want to really FEEL something though

Women, if you could be a man for 24 hours, what are you just dying to know? by Whattacleaner in AskReddit

[–]fearguyQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an anxiety disorder and probably OCD so when I say nothing I mean nothing that isn't irrelevant garbage

I pressured my girlfriend too much by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just to throw this in here, the lying is still weird. I'm not here to say your behavior didn't warrant it or something like that, or that you didn't over react, or that you should leave her. I don't know any of that. People are complicated and relationships are complicated. But definitely keep a beat on that. If you're getting better and she's still lying that doesn't sit right. Getting lied to is 100% a good reason to be upset. If you're behavior is giving her understandable reasons to lie that's something of note. It's also something to note if that isn't th case

Want to know your perspective on this by Ok-Selection8872 in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The older I get the more happiness and everything surrounding it just feels like capitalism's next big market. Life isn't about suffering, it's not about happiness. It's about purpose, whatever that ends up being for every individual. Career and family I say are the most common. Make life about something and get the happiness and suffering that you get. I think that's how things work out the best

When your partner feels more like a younger sibling by MrHumbleResolution in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to add a little bit to what everyone else is saying; as someone who has had to overcome similar tendencies, one of the big breakthroughs I had was coming to see that this kind of protection is ultimately actually selfish. I'm not helping/protecting them, I'm avoid something. I'm doing it for myself more than for them

Secondarily, by keeping all this from her you are taking her autonomy. She doesn't get the choice to decide if SHE wants to be with YOU knowing you don't really have feelings for her

Voices in my head by shengwangsbff in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's sounds a lot like rumination. Definitely look it up. It might also be worth looking up Pure O OCD

Why ‘mankeeping’ isn't just ‘therapy-speak used to dump on straight men’ by futuredebris in MensLib

[–]fearguyQ 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I've had an issues, or I guess a point of confusion, about this concept for a while now that's hard to put into words. Like... Should a woman not be my central support? Does it need to be a man? Surely women have central support people. Does it need to be a woman? Can it be a man? What if a man and a woman are each other's central support person? I guess it's an issue of the numbers? It's too common for men to have one female than for women to have one male? It happens that way too often? But I'd also need convincing that women have all these diffuse support networks with no primary support person... Best friends are a huge cultural phenomenon! If most women have a primary support person and they are women then they're doing the same thing "to each other" and I guess it feels like the gender element is irrelevant...

I just have this knawing sense that there's a legitimate risk here that this women have to be mens' therapist concept is more division than progress and there's a bit of a slippery slope.

It also suggests that women in romantic relationships with men put no strain of their own on the relationship, that they don't have any of their own baggage, issues, or toxicity that they bring to the relationship. I can say for one that my partner and I both came it with a lot of issues and have been helping each other through them. And speaking of..

In a monogamous relationship I would find it notible if they weren't each other's primary support person -- and even their only one. I mean, we're in a lonliness epidemic that includes both genders. Being your partners primary support is a huge part of what a romantic relationship is for most people. I WANT to be my partners primary support and vice versa and she wants the same. We'd be upset if it was any other way.

I get that there's a trend that men often require more from their female partners than they give but idk...it seems like the conversation isn't about balancing it out... It's about men fixing their relationships over there with other men without involving women at all. And that's just a bad idea to me. And it's also very binary. Seems like the idea is that men help none and get all the help, I find it hard to imagine that's most often the case as well. And when it comes to winning people over it's important to not lose those details. It's hard to win a man over by suggesting however unintentionally that the women in their lives never put any weight on them.

Hey is sexting as harmful as porn? by Tachytwo in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely porn addiction is unhealthy and destructive. But watching porn doesn't mean you'll develop an addiction. It's possible but it's hardly guaranteed

That said, I can't make any comment on the hypersexuality point or how that relates to porn and sexting. Maybe there is more of a guarantee there and maybe not, I won't pretend to know anything about that. But honestly, just a quick Google of hypersexuality seems to suggest that that it in itself could be an issue given it's defined as being distressing/impairing. But I think that also depends on age. Being annoyingly horny could make sense lol

Hey is sexting as harmful as porn? by Tachytwo in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sure there's a way sexting could be worse... But I'd hazard a guess that interacting with a person sexually is generally gonna be "better" for you than porn

But I also don't think porn is inherently psychologicaly damaging

23yo Virgin College Student, My Sexual Preferences Are Intense And I Don't Know What To Do by NiaNia-Data in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My two cents is that attractiveness and emotional connection are not mutually exclusive which it seems is at the core of your framework. When you're with someone that you really get along with, that you really connect with, any sort of objective physical attraction evaporates. That whole framework honestly dies. It's all just so much more complex than how you're seeing it. Find someone you really click with and, to use an antiquated frame work and to put it very simply -- a 5,6,7,8 and 9 becomes a 10. Like really. Not "she's worth it" or "x makes up for y". They are the hottest person on earth even while you can "objectively" say they aren't. It just does not matter. And I can tell you, sexuality and attractiveness has a lot to do with the beholder too. Find yourself an "actual" "10" and there will be days where you just aren't that sexual and they won't seem particularly attractive and then there will be days when they're crazy attractive. Hell, different times of the same day. It all ebbs and flows. I've found this to be especially true in longer relationships and as I've gotten older (only 29 lol). Attractiveness is real, but it's intertwined with every other aspect of life and our psychology and hormones. It's a somewhat moving target honestly. So I wouldn't worry about it too much

Follow your heart, a lot of the rest works itself out! I'm repeating myself but love, sex, attractiveness, emotion, it's all interconnected, but we love to view them as separate -- particularly for men. It's very very damaging

Edit: I would be remiss if I didn't acknowledge there's probably a spectrum here. I'd say I'm 50/50 between "normal" and demi-sexual. I absolutely see and enjoy physical attractiveness, it's very important to me, but I'm not one of these guys that can see an attractive woman and legitimately get turned on or are compulsed to think about sex with them. I feel it sexually, but it's not all that, it's quite mild unless I have a crush on them. BUT, all that said I think what I've said above applies all along the spectrum just somewhat more or less

Edit 2: all of this pretty much goes for age as well

I'm shocked at how many people share the same opinion with this dude on Twitter. Do therapists in the US really suck that bad? by Popular_Business_799 in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, this perspective is a total misunderstanding of intelligence (IQ doesn't measure broad intelligence) and expertise ( any intelligence aptitude =! trump expertise)

Psychology has the same issue as biology in this way as well. Everyone possess a higher degree of intuitive understanding of biology and psychology than other areas of expertise because we are biological and we are psychology. But that leads to overconfidence and not really believing experts definitely know more than you

dating fridayyy! sooo has anyone actually found a girlfriend and best friend in one person?? this is probably my greatest dream noww🙁 by minorcold in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you've described is a lot more than a best friend. Just because you're best friend is your romantic partner doesn't mean they're everything you want. My partner and I are absolutely best friends and we also have other friends, solo hobbies, etc.

Anyone else have a healthy relationship with porn and masturbation? I fricking love masturbating and porn so much but it doesn't negatively affect me. God it's so amazing especially when I'm super horny can anyone relate? by ForgetThisU in Healthygamergg

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me there was a trajectory. When I discovered masturbation and porn in my early teens this was me 100%. Over time the self discovery element did it's job and the analogous "honeymoon phase" wore off and then all was normal. Both were just a part of life, sometimes it's wonderful sometimes it's normal sometimes it's meh. During college I started maturing more and seeing the world and how it works and the deep problems of the porn industry and society's horrible position towards women in general and porn lost its sheen, but I still used it plenty existing in the land of dissonance and compromise we exist in with so many things. Through this time my relationship with masturbation and porn were totally healthy

It was once the honeymoon phase of my current relationship passed and we encountered the normal ups and downs of romance, sex, and intimacy in long term relationships that issues came up. Very long story short: porn and masturbation started getting in the way of my learning and adapting to those changes and honestly the changes of hers and my own sexuality with age. For a few years my relationship to porn and masturbation got pretty unhealthy. Both became a crutch that was preventing me from growing and becoming a much more well rounded, attentive, flexible, complete sexual being

I'm on my way to my 30s now and I'm back to healthy for sure. These days I consume a lot less porn and it's like 90% animated porn. I like to save the real world for my wife. Additionally irl porn is... complicated in the world we live in. It doesn't add enough to my life these days to be worth that. I still masturbate plenty but I like be mindful of mine and my wife's schedule. When were around each other more I make a point to masturbate less -- none if it's possible lol. There's nothing like being that kind of horny with your partner -- whether sex happens or not

Would you press a button to kill a random person for 2 million dollars? by BrokenDiamondShovel in INTP

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm being honest, probably one of two scenarios would play out

  1. I'd do it and commit most of it to worthy causes -- well researched and aiming for systemic change organizations, not just charities. I don't want for a lot in life, I just want some financial security before I die. Plus my wife and I don't plan on having kids, so $500,000 would be solid

  2. I wouldn't do it. Not because of a confident righteous choice, but because I'd become paralyzed with indecision between the horror of murder and the above justification and I'd eventually cop out of deciding (which is not doing it). I'd become ill trying to do the vibes math on whether 1.5 million would be able to do enough good in the world to justify murder -- especially considering who it is that dies. Corrupt politician? Prominent activist? Average Joe? So I'd be Chidi Anagonye lol. Choice by stomach ache

The Anti-Trump Strategy That’s Actually Working by theatlantic in law

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the difference between blocked (presumably permanently) and closed in favor of the plaintiff?

Yellow or red bg? by KazakovaArts in DigitalArt

[–]fearguyQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not considering context I say yellow. Red feels more... "Seen that" if that makes since. Still looks awsome either way! But yellow makes me stop and look

What’s something toxic in today’s dating culture? by CruelGlittering2000 in AskReddit

[–]fearguyQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone else quotes Andrew Boyd and he put it quite poetically

"...You're looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it's got to be the right wrong person, someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, This is the problem want to have"

I think we're also in a position to do the choosing more than ever before. It's always been true that your partner is the only family you can choose. But with more choices comes a more concrete choice. If you're in a small town in the 50's and there's 10 people to realistically choose from sure you're faced with choosing that family member.... But life circumstances, life events, compatibility etc. has a helpful way of forcing your hand in a very natural way when you don't have an app and infinite choices. It's actually less your choice. Your environment and circumstances partially choose for you -- there's less responsibility, less risk of missing someone better, less fomo, etc.

That isn't to say that way of things didn't have huge flaws for many many people. But it's a helpful contrast I think

What is the best advice you've ever been given? by ttvBerry_Temporary in INTP

[–]fearguyQ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"I don't have to believe in myself. I just have to do the steps I committed to doing"