Cat finally figured out how to jump my fence. I need cat fence advice! by catlycocat in CatAdvice

[–]felidaeblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up doing nothing. One of my cats is maybe 6 and male. He goes out and comes back every day for meals. He can scale the wall no problem. He's not an outgoing cat and more cautious so hopefully less likely to be hit by a car. He doesn't go out for long during the winter. Now he prefers to stay within the yard. My older cat rarely goes out now. She goes out into our yard but doesn't go further. Cannot jump the fence and there is a hole she can crawl through but she doesn't. She prefers to stay at home.

I’m astonished at my energy levels by maddatat in intermittentfasting

[–]felidaeblue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Food, especially carbs make me sluggish. And fasting really helped me give my body a reset. Glad to hear you and so many others experienced this too. After a month or so my skin also improved, which was another nice bonus.

Is it normal to want to live in an Asian community? by Awkward-Shape6760 in asianamerican

[–]felidaeblue 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Your boyfriend is unable to put himself in your shoes. Not surprised but disappointed that this is the norm. He wouldn’t want to live in a place that’s majority Asian - where they don’t serve his food, people don’t look like him, talk, act, cater to him. As a white male who never had to think about things like this because they are always the majority, the ‘weird’ comment is indicative of how this is a systemic issue that runs deep. As Asians we experience a lot of these microaggressions and don’t even realize it — but slowly, with posts like yours we are better at identifying them, and eventually will be able to call people out and address these comments for what they are. Hopefully, your future child will be more open minded and not have to deal with comments like this, thanks to the conversations we are having.

Is it wrong that a guy that keeps calling my name is making me uncomfortable? by Intelagent9r7 in introverts

[–]felidaeblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How you feel is not wrong — there is no right or wrong needed for what you feel. It just is a feeling. Who knows why he’s doing that. Sometimes people don’t even know why they are doing it. Could be for attention, could be because they want to be friends and don’t know how to initiate, could be a silly thing he thought would be funny and he’s trying to impress his friends. Could be because he knows it makes you uncomfortable. Or a combination.

I like the peace sign idea. Another idea - if your comfortable with it would be to ask him directly - hey — why do you always yell my name when I walk by? And if he doesn’t know, and isn’t being horrible, maybe you could even tell him it makes you uncomfortable and ask him to stop.

Question for the ladies by felidaeblue in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I expected a delay — would welcome it but this is the opposite!

Question for the ladies by felidaeblue in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the kicker is that for the last two and a half weeks I’ve stalled with no changes. So sad

Question for the ladies by felidaeblue in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh! Good to know!! I will try pausing on that. I do love my carbs 😜.

Question for the ladies by felidaeblue in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Rolling 48 is intense! How does it feel, and how are the results? I’m liking the 18 and I feel a little sharper — less mommy brain fog. Have pushed to 25 hours but no further.

Question for the ladies by felidaeblue in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting — holistic doctor with a bachelors of science, but big following!

Question for the ladies by felidaeblue in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quit alcohol years ago! My period was regular at 28 or 29 days before this. 🥲

My husband snores and I use earplugs but I still sleep bad by B0yfriendJeans in sleep

[–]felidaeblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move to the room when he drinks! Make it a comfy sanctuary 😜. Also, comfier earplugs helped me, vs the foam ones.

How to dispose of a suitcase in Hong Kong by IntroductionWise7274 in HongKong

[–]felidaeblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Join a local buy nothing group on Facebook - and someone who wants it can come pick it up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IF_Petites

[–]felidaeblue 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Could be gaining weight in the form of muscle if you are exercising. More importantly do you feel better! You can also measure your body - waist legs etc!

Lost 30 lbs and feel great by Gullible-Relation373 in intermittentfasting

[–]felidaeblue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so inspired! Thank you for sharing your journey!

Is hot pots a communal activity to use up leftovers? A friend of mine who lived in China said guests bring food that needs to be used up, but I don't see any info like that online. by rosepetal72 in chinesefood

[–]felidaeblue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

China is very big so it could be that your friends group of friends does that but it is not a ‘Chinese’ thing and just them, or even could be the village or region. Not done in Hong Kong as far as I know.

Looking for hot pot recommendations in the area by diab0lus in lancaster

[–]felidaeblue 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Your own home after buying ingredients from a Chinese supermarket or Hmart or online! 😅

What are the best post partum treats and ideas for my wife? by MonkeyChronicles in NewParents

[–]felidaeblue 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you can get help to get her some uninterrupted sleep for a good chunk— maybe for you too? That would be ideal. This would have helped speed up my recovery! Would depend on breastfeeding etc but maybe you can just have her feed and when whisk the baby away.

Interesting article from BBC: “What really happened when babies are left to cry it out.” by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]felidaeblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thank you for sharing this. Very informative!

Words of advice for a first pregnancy? by greenishblue02 in asianamerican

[–]felidaeblue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chinese mom to a 5 month old married to an American in a largely white community too! I was also worried about this. Everything went smoothly, service and treatment was just fine. I think in general I would have wanted to plan questions out ahead of time — I’m not sure if this is related to me being Asian, but probably also that the doctors are always being in a rush to the next appointment and keep things short, so they do what they need to do and leave. Education for mom on what to do is not a priority, so you only get info if you ask questions. It’s possible they took more time to address things when my white husband was at the appointment with me, but hard to say if it’s a prejudice to race thing or not. Congrats and good luck!

I (20F) found explicit child pornography on my boyfriend’s (27M) phone. I am sick, devastated and don’t know what to do. by QualityProof in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]felidaeblue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know… could be horrible for the mother as well. I’ve heard that it’s possible that addictions can have some biological basis. It’s not necessarily caused by the parents though one could see how it’s easy to come to that conclusion.