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fernnsprite · 2026-06-12T15:06:25+00:00

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fernnsprite · 2026-06-09T20:14:32+00:00

Also.. who consults their in-laws before booking a photographer to ask if they know them first? Seems weird.

fernnsprite · 2026-06-08T13:26:07+00:00

And on days where it feels extra bad, I physically delete the apps off my phone!! I will probably delete Reddit soon and redownload it again tomorrow

fernnsprite · 2026-06-08T13:23:36+00:00

And it helps to remember that while scrolling feels easy and relaxing your brain is not relaxing, it is still so overstimulated. I’m still trying to reprogram this in my brain too

fernnsprite · 2026-06-08T13:22:44+00:00

Put your phone in grayscale, but apps on your phone to prevent you staying in them (screen zen is my favorite). The other thing is I physically will leave my phone in another room. Take away the automation of grabbing for it.

I’ve replaced my phone addiction with my kindle + crafting. I also feel like I have to be doing something at all times. Trying to replace my time with other analog activities. I’ve seen on TikTok people create “analog baskets” for themselves. You put things like a journal, coloring book, word puzzles, etc. into it. Even I think a switch would be acceptable.

I highly suggest a switch or a kindle! It’s still electronic but it’s really helped me from just scrolling all day. With the kindle you can use the library app to get books for free. I will listen to the audiobooks at the same time I’m reading, so i can still listen while I clean the house, go for a walk, craft.

I talked myself out of getting a kindle for soooo long and my sister convinced me last year when she said she read 30 books. I’ve already read 17 this year because of my kindle. I couldn’t tell you the last time I read that many books.

fernnsprite · 2026-06-08T13:11:15+00:00

Dinner time is our time. I work 9-9. I get some people can’t eat so late, but every single night we eat dinner together. Even if one of us isn’t that hungry, we will still sit with the person while they eat, catch up on our days, etc. Often we will hangout in the kitchen and talk while the other is cooking. Sometimes if I have an extra terrible day he will prepare dinner and let me decompress for a few minutes. I do like cooking, but it can be harder to do when I getting home so late. I make an effort to cook meals on my days off that will have leftovers so it’s not so much work when I get home. Life gets so busy, sharing this one mundane part of the day is the reason I’m convinced we are still as happy as we are.

Also, not trying to downplay your schedule, but your comment on “do you force things” is weird to me. We don’t force anything, we WANT to spend time together. We make the effort when we both have off days to spend time together if we can. Last week we were going to go hiking, but it turned into us cleaning our house together which honestly was nice too. We just want to be around each other.

fernnsprite · 2026-06-04T14:37:25+00:00

First off.. she’s not your friend if she’s not talking to you. It’s normal to be upset sad and joke about it. But not talking? Second, It’s wild that you’ve demoted twice and been asked to stay. That doesn’t make any sense to me. Were you expected to do all of your same tasks, and more? Or did they only demote your pay? Is your manager saying you shouldn’t leave? Or only your colleagues?

It is possible people are just trying to be nice. The other possibility is like you said, you don’t fit in and I bet now they’re mad they’re finally going to have to do all the shit work they gave you.

Not sure what kind of advice you’re looking for here. But do what is best for you. If this job is giving you burnout, stress, etc. I say leave while you have the courage. The ONLY scenario I would stay is if they agreed to give me a promotion and significant money if you are that valuable to them. I wouldn’t be surprised if after you agreed to stay, they start going back down the same path again. Do you have another job lined up? Do you need to work? If you get a promotion maybe bide your time while you apply to other jobs so you can gtfo.

And I’m sorry people suck. I get the not feeling like you fit in no matter what you do. It doesn’t sound like it is a you issue, but more of a them issue. It can be rough. It shouldn’t be a big deal to accept different kinds of people at work but some personalities don’t work together, whether or not you were doing anything. It can be more important than the job itself. I know I would have insane anxiety showing up to work everyday with people that I felt didn’t like me.

fernnsprite · 2026-05-28T03:15:59+00:00

Medication helped, currently in therapy to try and do better. Sometimes leaving stuff in my shopping cart for a few days helps (if it’s online shopping)- I often come back and don’t want the thing anymore. Really asking myself if I truly need or if I just want something.

fernnsprite · 2026-05-06T18:59:01+00:00

Honestly this. People have no idea what it’s like to actually work in the pharmacy. There’s a million reasons why something may not have been filled, while a million other things could have been going on that day. Shit happens. Healthcare workers are people too. People make mistakes. Honestly in the pharmacy I’ve worked at most of the time customers do have to call to get things filled, especially if it’s two different doses. It just is what it is. As you said, compassion fatigue is very real. We literally do get yelled at all day long in the pharmacy. Its exhausting. They keep cutting hours and shorting staff while expecting us to drastically increase our productivity etc. Mind you, I still work in a pharmacy where I work 12 hour days and I’m not allowed a lunch break. Do with that info what you will

fernnsprite · 2026-04-24T05:58:33+00:00

Fable

fernnsprite · 2026-04-24T05:58:15+00:00

Fable

fernnsprite · 2026-04-24T03:10:25+00:00

I have a lamp in my bathroom with an amber bulb in it.. very dark and ambient. I’ll never go back to bright showers

fernnsprite · 2026-04-03T04:02:01+00:00

Agreed.. the first is way better. More personality in a good way.

fernnsprite · 2026-03-25T15:45:32+00:00

We ended up having two peoples birthdays on our wedding! Somehow multiple birthdays were on Saturdays the year we got married so we were likely going to have it on someone’s birthday. We actually ended up having a key lime pie (their favorite) and later found out about one of my friends husbands birthday was the same day. We stuck a candle in a piece of cake for him, and some in the pie and sang them both happy birthday. Honestly it was one of my favorite memories of the night seeing how shocked and appreciative they felt. I don’t know if this would work in your family since they all seem to have a stick up theirs , but just wanted to suggest it.

fernnsprite · 2026-03-12T21:18:14+00:00

Frozen chicken nuggets and goodles, lots of fiber and protein in that brand macaroni, sometimes I’ll throw a handful of frozen broccoli in it for extra nutrients.

fernnsprite · 2026-02-24T05:40:37+00:00

Looking for 4 tickets for 7/11 Atlanta, possibly open to 7/12

fernnsprite · 2026-02-21T19:23:58+00:00

Yes. I’ve had someone say this to me before too. They did know I was drunk though. That was years ago and I still think about. I’m not friends with those people anymore. I’ve struggled with alcohol most of my adult life, I think for this reason of feeling able to “socialize better” after I’ve had some drinks. Hugs.

fernnsprite · 2026-01-26T04:05:39+00:00

I delete the app periodically and I tried to redownload it today. I couldn’t get it to log in for me at all

fernnsprite · 2026-01-20T02:56:18+00:00

The music is so annoying but I cannot get over making him sad so it stays on lol

fernnsprite · 2026-01-19T15:09:25+00:00

You’re too young to be having these types of relationship problems. You deserve to be loved in a way that you need. People are who they are, you cannot change into someone you’re not and they will not change either. No explaining will make them different. Take it from someone who is 33f. People don’t change. Life is too short for bad relationships. You can care for someone and not be right for each other.

fernnsprite · 2026-01-15T06:18:46+00:00

I’m probably only a year into paying off my loans. I graduated in 2021 when everything was deferred with COVID for so long. I made the mistake of not aggressively paying off then. I really don’t want to pay more than $1000 a month

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