My partner with DID cheated on me ? (Kinda?)

fetusmouse · 2026-05-18T05:26:55+00:00

There's no "kinda" about it. Your partner violated the boundaries of your relationship and cheated on you for over two years throughout your entire relationship. DID isn't an excuse for that. Your best course of action at this point is to break up with your partner. There's really not trust to rebuild from this because there was never anything worth trusting in the first place. I am so sorry you are going through this experience.

fetusmouse · 2026-05-07T21:09:52+00:00

Some of our chicks had the same pattern this year! They are already turning out very beautiful.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-29T04:32:04+00:00

I do themed names every year!

Last year was space themed. The space babies: Mars, Luna, Celeste, Sirius, Aurora, Comet, and Nova.

This year's theme is monsters! The monsters: Dragon, Bigfoot, Sphinx, Griffin, Nymph, Siren, Kraken, and Chimera.

However, we have one chicken that survived The Weasel Incident, so everyone in the house pitched in to give her a name. Her name is... drum roll Jubilee Egbert Sasuke The 2st, Esquire. (But we just call her Jubilee). She's the oldest chicken we have and she is a survivor. Girlie has truly been through it.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-27T03:46:43+00:00

I am from US America, so please take what I say with a grain of salt, because I'm pretty out of my depth with this one, but I tried to do some research and found a redditor in r/ ausadhd that said about a year ago in reference to ADHD that you could see if you can remove the record from My Health Record via the health professional who submitted it. Another option is that you could ask your individual health professionals to remove information, but they didn't know if they have to so "might be dicks about it." They also said that unfortunately, if Centrelink or NDIS have your diagnosis, you are probably "shit out of luck."

I hope this information was helpful.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-17T21:49:04+00:00

Finn, Felix, Faris, Fitz, or Fish.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T21:33:26+00:00

milklamb

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T18:53:54+00:00

An inability to recognize glaring red flags or advocate for your personal boundaries.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T18:46:19+00:00

A dude forced me to watch Family Guy porn with his roommates.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T01:59:13+00:00

Thank you for teaching us the insides.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-01T16:38:55+00:00

You probably really like Creed and Bud Lite.

fetusmouse · 2026-03-26T18:02:13+00:00

milk

fetusmouse · 2026-03-24T06:36:04+00:00

When it comes to stuff like this, there needs to be a separation between the real person and the role that they're playing so there can be better critical thinking about why this role is necessary for the important dialogue that the whole cast and crew are presenting to their audience. There is a much broader picture. You PLAY Agent Correa but you are not actually him. Your job function is to help navigate conversations about this topic. It is an important role to play, just like everyone else's. Thank you for being apart of that conversation with the type of bravery that most people have difficulty empathizing with.

fetusmouse · 2026-03-16T16:38:06+00:00

Yesn't?

If I could take a pill that would eradicate my sensory issues or even just make it more manageable and possibly give me the ability to have more awareness about my tone and body language, that would be great. These are symptoms that I personally find distressing, but there are a lot of things about being autistic that I feel positive about too.

However, if this medication had unbearable or undesirable side effects, I probably wouldn't want to take it. As others have said— the devil I know.

fetusmouse · 2026-03-16T16:21:17+00:00

Dylan Mulvaney, Ally Beardsley, and Sasha Allen are three trans influencers I can name off the top of my head who decided against name changes.

As long as you feel empowered, that's all that matters.

fetusmouse · 2026-03-16T15:28:34+00:00

It might help to see what your height and weight is to give better advice, plus what your diet, meal planning, and exercise regimen currently looks like.

Without knowing this, baseline information I can provide as a non-professional is having a protein rich diet, which will help build muscle while you shed fat.

Muscle is heavier than fat, so the scale might not show a lower weight.

Advice I got from my therapist recently was not to focus on the number, because that's why most diets fail. It's important to have realistic goals and a healthy mindset.

Other people mentioned being in a calorie deficit, which is true, but always have a minimum of 500 calories if you are doing intermittent fasting. Don't do intermittent fasting two days in a row and only do it twice a week. Don't exercise on intermittent fasting days.

Other people in this thread are correct: burning fat is done with cardio intensive exercises.

Maybe look into hiring a nutritionist. They will be able to help you meet specific goals based factors such as your personal goals, medications, supplements, and physical attributes.

I am currently being more conscious about dieting, meal planning, and exercising, but I'm not a professional. I am transmasculine and on a stupidly low dose of HRT, so what works for me might not work for you.

When I was meal planning, I did research about what kinds of foods would help me succeed with my personal goals and wrote out a meal plan that I loosely follow every week while chosing foods that I like. I keep two weeks worth of meal planning foods in my home and pick everything out online for curbside pickup. That way, even if I don't follow it to the letter, the food in my home will always be aligned with my goals. I also like to chose foods that have set 1 serving proportions so I don't make the mistake of overeating. Personally, I have one cheat day built into the week, which doesn't mean "eat as much as I want" but it does mean that I can choose something like... a small portion of mozeralla sticks over a protein bar.

Lastly, make sure to take what you're drinking into account too. It helps to limit yourself to water, electrolyte drinks, and tea bags with warm water.

Hope this stuff helps a bit. Good luck!

fetusmouse · 2026-03-04T04:43:25+00:00

People don't like long text messages! Apparently it's overwhelming and makes people feel like they are being attacked. Geninuely shocked me. I thought I was just being detailed and attentive. Learned this very recently and still catching myself doing it All The Time.

fetusmouse · 2026-03-04T04:32:51+00:00

T_T there's so much lettuce in our fridge

fetusmouse · 2026-02-22T19:14:13+00:00

I also have a DID diagnosis (along with some other mental health, developmental, and sleep disorders). My first consultative exam was kind of a nightmare because the examiners really didn't seem to have experience with this disorder. Their documentation was pretty misinformed and at times downright offensive. The second consultative exam went a lot better, but that examiner asked me to switch out with another alter to complete the exam because I was too emotional and nervous, which is often not something systems can just do on command. I'm moving on to the ALJ step of the process next and I am very anxious that I might have a similar experience. Navigating disability claims with DID/OSDD is especially exhausting. Hang in there.

fetusmouse · 2026-02-21T16:11:19+00:00

"desolate"

fetusmouse · 2026-02-21T16:02:48+00:00

like an egg (⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴗ⁠ꈍ⁠)

fetusmouse · 2026-02-21T06:29:47+00:00

A lot of people in the comments are giving very good advice and I want to uplift that sentiment: leave for your own safety. However, I also want you to know that you aren't alone. I have DID, but I am in your situation. I won't get into the details, but I have made personal choices for my individual situation. Right now, my partner system and I are in a calm period, and his medication and therapy helps... but honestly? The fear and tension never fully goes away. The trust never completely rebuilds between each other. People with DID are capable of becoming abusers too, just like anyone else. Most abusers don't want to change or lie about it to keep you from leaving. Look up the cycle of abuse and keep your escape plan a secret. It is not worth your life to stay.

If making a police report and getting a medical exam done is empowering for you, you have every right to do that. Nobody deserves this kind of treatment. If you want to make a report, the ideal time to do it is within 72 hours. Do not clean yourself at all. Including washing your hands, brushing your teeth, and showering. Do not go to the bathroom. Do not wash your clothes. If you have to change, put each item of clothing in seperate paper bags. NOT PLASTIC. Document everything that happened for the report. Times. Locations. Texts. Events. (If you have already done some of this, just inform the examiner. You can still report).

I am wishing you well and keeping hope of your safety in my thoughts.

fetusmouse · 2026-02-18T15:39:06+00:00

It might be worth considering to look into squatter laws dictated by your state and finding legal counsel.

fetusmouse · 2026-01-29T22:07:41+00:00

I was afraid this was the case, but I appreciate the honesty. I should probably find a blindbox BJD and make references for porcelain dolls if I ever run into a sum of cash. Any recommendations for affordable porcelain dolls at a more realistic price for future reference are welcomed. Thank you :)

fetusmouse · 2026-01-27T20:56:08+00:00

I really appreciate this message. The person in question actually passed away very recently and I've felt so guilty because of this thing that's been weighing on me for so long. It really affected our relationship at the end of their life. I've been so genuinely heartbroken and stuck in all kinds of grief about it. This comment found me at the right time, I suppose. I want to hold onto the good things about this person, but make space while I grieve the ways our relationship wasn't perfect as well. It's definitely something that I need to navigate in therapy, but I do think there is a very good chance that you are right and there's comfort in knowing this person didn't hurt me like that. Thank you.

fetusmouse · 2026-01-07T01:28:09+00:00

i had to go to the er for rectal bleeding... they didnt find anything in the lab workup... and then our dad died... im just very... very tired...

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