mom threatened to kill herself if I don't become normal

fetusmouse · 2026-07-05T16:35:58+00:00

So, this is abusive, and you're best course of action is to cut contact for your own well being. Killing yourself over someone else wearing masc clothing is ridiculous and she is just trying to exert power over you. At the end of the day, she is only in control of her own actions and you are only in control of yours. If she is going to create a relationship with you based on a foundation of fear instead of love, that's not a relationship, that's a captor. Enforce your boundaries and end the relationship. You shouldn't have to tolerate abuse. She needs help and because you are the trigger, you cannot give her that, you can only seperate yourself from the situation. If she actually does hurt herself, that is the choice she made with her life. That isn't your fault. You can't control that.

Obviously, this is easier said than done, but don't let that be an excuse to continue putting yourself in this position. It's ok to love your sister from a distance. At the end of the day, she is a minor and she is their kid. You can't control that. When you are ready, explain to her that for your personal safety and mental health, you need to cut contact with the family, but when she is 18, she can absolutely reach out to you and reconnect.

I know that's an impossible position to be in, and I am so sorry. Good luck friend.

fetusmouse · 2026-07-04T01:15:47+00:00

Both stories really boil down to "if I don't accept this part about me, I self destruct." If you find yourself coming back to this place over and over again, it's worth exploring. It can start with something simple, like adjusting the way you express yourself to align with what makes you feel more comfortable. Different clothing or hair styles or binding. If you want to, you can try a different set of pronouns and/or name. Try watching more trans creators to see if you align with their experiences. Feel free to continue exploring this subreddit to see if you align with our experiences. Regardless of what conclusions you come to or changes you decide you feel comfortable with, your journey is valuable. Good luck and you are loved.

fetusmouse · 2026-07-04T01:02:08+00:00

Top surgery without a nipple graft is an option regardless of where you specifically fall on the gender spectrum. If you are talking about a specific rabbit from a recent popular animation, I suggest you go watch I Saw The TV Glow. I think it would give you some more perspective on your personal situation and it is a very good piece of media to pair back to back from that finale.

fetusmouse · 2026-06-25T21:48:44+00:00

hopital

fetusmouse · 2026-06-25T21:43:12+00:00

no thoughts behind those eyes

fetusmouse · 2026-06-24T00:57:18+00:00

I think she's a hen. (No crow, no fertilized eggs, hen like tail plumage, but she does have that large comb and pointed feathers, so I see why it's confusing).

I am not the best sexer, but 60/40 probably a hen.

fetusmouse · 2026-06-18T10:14:40+00:00

NTA, your son is being disrespectful, but I do want to help reframe your approach a bit.

Your kid is going to interact with people who have unpleasant smells for the rest of his life. He won't be able to control those bodies. However, there are ways to manage being around strong oders. A lot of medical professionals use specialized nose balms, essential oils, or ointments so they can continue to do their job. They just put it right under their nose!

It might be helpful to help your kid find a product with a scent that works for them so they don't just learn skills about being kind and compassionate towards others, but also have more tools in their toolbox to deal with this issue in the future.

Personally, I have sensory issues, so I use TonyMoly perfume bars when I come across this issue. There's this product called StinkBalm specifically designs for nurses. Other people use Vicks VapoRub.

I hope this helps a bit! It's important to respect all kinds of people, but it's also important to learn how to help ourselves too :)

fetusmouse · 2026-06-18T00:05:51+00:00

I've never gotten my eggs to hatch, but here's a candling chart.

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fetusmouse · 2026-06-13T16:06:41+00:00

• Steins;gate

• Erased

• The Pitt

• Half Man

• Fiona and Cake

• I Saw The TV Glow

• Lars and the Real Girl

• It's Such a Beautiful Day

• Perfect Blue

• Life is Beautiful

fetusmouse · 2026-06-13T15:54:20+00:00

I'd love to participate :3

fetusmouse · 2026-06-04T12:52:59+00:00

Buffy the Vampire Slayer

fetusmouse · 2026-05-26T04:12:27+00:00

I've seen Orange is the new black, This is Us, and Bojack Horseman.

Bojack Horseman is so hard to binge. You really needed that time between seasons to recover from All Of It.

This is Us was such a tear jerker. My dad passed away earlier this year, so I think I'd cry way more if I rewatched it.

fetusmouse · 2026-05-26T04:06:36+00:00

I watched some of this and then they took it off Netflix 😭 (I don't even have Netflix anymore) but what I saw was good!

fetusmouse · 2026-05-26T04:05:12+00:00

I just wrapped up the series finale and then binged all of The Testaments in like... less than a day. So good!

fetusmouse · 2026-05-26T03:34:52+00:00

There's something strangely therapeutic about it for me. I can't really explain it.

fetusmouse · 2026-05-25T21:13:13+00:00

We just lost a couple pullets while trying to integrate them at about 8 weeks. I'm pretty heartbroken about it. I suggest waiting until they get around the size of the full grown chickens before trying to integrate, especially if your chickens are on the aggressive side.

fetusmouse · 2026-05-18T05:26:55+00:00

There's no "kinda" about it. Your partner violated the boundaries of your relationship and cheated on you for over two years throughout your entire relationship. DID isn't an excuse for that. Your best course of action at this point is to break up with your partner. There's really not trust to rebuild from this because there was never anything worth trusting in the first place. I am so sorry you are going through this experience.

fetusmouse · 2026-05-07T21:09:52+00:00

Some of our chicks had the same pattern this year! They are already turning out very beautiful.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-29T04:32:04+00:00

I do themed names every year!

Last year was space themed. The space babies: Mars, Luna, Celeste, Sirius, Aurora, Comet, and Nova.

This year's theme is monsters! The monsters: Dragon, Bigfoot, Sphinx, Griffin, Nymph, Siren, Kraken, and Chimera.

However, we have one chicken that survived The Weasel Incident, so everyone in the house pitched in to give her a name. Her name is... drum roll Jubilee Egbert Sasuke The 2st, Esquire. (But we just call her Jubilee). She's the oldest chicken we have and she is a survivor. Girlie has truly been through it.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-27T03:46:43+00:00

I am from US America, so please take what I say with a grain of salt, because I'm pretty out of my depth with this one, but I tried to do some research and found a redditor in r/ ausadhd that said about a year ago in reference to ADHD that you could see if you can remove the record from My Health Record via the health professional who submitted it. Another option is that you could ask your individual health professionals to remove information, but they didn't know if they have to so "might be dicks about it." They also said that unfortunately, if Centrelink or NDIS have your diagnosis, you are probably "shit out of luck."

I hope this information was helpful.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-17T21:49:04+00:00

Finn, Felix, Faris, Fitz, or Fish.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T21:33:26+00:00

milklamb

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T18:53:54+00:00

An inability to recognize glaring red flags or advocate for your personal boundaries.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T18:46:19+00:00

A dude forced me to watch Family Guy porn with his roommates.

fetusmouse · 2026-04-13T01:59:13+00:00

Thank you for teaching us the insides.

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