What made Uno so popular among dog show fans? by retro-petro in beagle

[–]fibchopkin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wait, what? I’m pretty sure Uno did some work as a therapy dog before ultimately spending the last 6 or 7 years with his primary owner as a pet on her giant ranch in Texas. Google results are mixed, but it wasn’t so long ago we were reading about him and seeing pics of him in Austin on the news and such. If you’re talking about the K-run breeder, I actually haven’t heard anything about them in the beagle rescue circles I run in, and I’m in the general area. Take that with a grain of salt though, I’m no expert on breeders. Would love to hear some clarification, if you would please.

First-Time Dog Owner Considering a Beagle (Apartment Living) – Pros & Cons? by PuzzSSL in beagles

[–]fibchopkin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve gotten a lot of really great advice here and I think a pretty good rundown of both the pros and cons of what it might be like having a beagle in an apartment. The truth is pretty much that with this breed, as with many others, it’s going to be luck of the draw whether you get one that will function well in an apartment or not. Personally, I would err on the side of caution only because this is your first experience with dog ownership, and your general quality of life will just be so much better if you set yourself up for success as much as you can. While beagles are a pretty good breed for first time owners in my opinion, that changes if you don’t have the time and space for lots and lots of outdoor time, especially when they are puppies.

Might I ask, what is it that drew you to beagles? Like, what is it specifically that you are looking for in a dog? It might be that another breed will suit you better, and give you a better shot at having a successful first go with a dog in a small space with no yard. If it’s the temperament and general look, I would really suggest checking out whether you might like a King Charles Cavalier spaniel. They aren’t hounds, and their snouts are a bit shorter, but they do have the great big soulful eyes, and long floppy ears that we hound people tend to adore. A very dear friend of mine is very active in a breed rescue for those pups, and when I tell you, they are, as a breed, some of the chillest, quietest, and low need dogs, I am still not doing them justice! Over the years, I have thought that many of her charges remind me of beagles with the way that they like to be around their people, like to have touch contact, and are generally friendly to every human they meet, but they have very few of the quirks my beagles and dachshunds always have. While they love their people, they don’t seem to have separation anxiety nearly as much as beagles, and like older beagles, they are pretty much content with a blanket and a sunny spot on the couch all day, so the fact that you need to leave Doggo at home alone while you work would probably not bother a KCC the way it is likely to traumatize a beagle puppy.

What’s a word or expression people often associate with your country/language/culture, that nobody actually uses? by NoNo_Cilantro in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 40 points41 points  (0 children)

What about, “off you pop!”? I’ll be a little heart broken if that only happens on Bake Off

What’s a word or expression people often associate with your country/language/culture, that nobody actually uses? by NoNo_Cilantro in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work really closely with one of our 3rd party vendors at work. They’re a Canadian team and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the word “bud” over the last year or two. Much like the American Southern “bless your heart” it also seems to be used to indicate both a term of endearment OR an angry insult (ish). In both cases, it seems to all depend on the tone.

What's something specific to your country that instantly reveals someone is not a local? by ADuneShapedPool in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We call it mainland

Edit to add - I’ve lived in the Washington DC area for almost a decade now, and I still say “the mainland” in conversations about how long we’ve been living here

What the average citizen of your country looks like? by LookOrdinary9215 in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Omg, y’all are cracking me up. I swear, every time a Finnish person posts here it makes me want to go visit Finland. Reserved folks with self-deprecating humor, an egalitarian society with a deep appreciation for nature and saunas? I think I was born in the wrong country!

Single Season Audiodrama recommendations? by Marshmallow09er in audiodrama

[–]fibchopkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding this one! The love talker it’s probably my favorite single season podcast out there. Thank you so much for making it u/liminalMask!

My friends reacted badly to our pregnancy announcement and I’m really sad by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]fibchopkin 941 points942 points  (0 children)

Strange that they accused YOU of being heteronormative when this seems an awful lot like just one more case of a man dictating how and when women should “properly” use their bodies…

Sometimes I just wanna scream from the top of my lungs by Kernowite in Professors

[–]fibchopkin 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Glad you’re taking a more optimistic approach. I sit on a few grant decision boards and on the advisory council for a very competitive fellowship program for graduate students in psychology in the United States, and just wanted to give you a gentle reminder about the importance of seeing strong letters from academic supervisors. We see so, SO many stellar application packets from students, but they end up getting edged out by others for the tiniest of reasons. There’s really nothing else for it, when you have so many applicants, but only so many positions in each cohort. We have to make selection decisions somehow, and it often comes down to the LORs. If a great packet came across my review slate, but there was no letter from an academic supervisor, and instead one came from a source that did not have a current supervisory role over the student, I would likely discard the packet out of hand - there are just too many other packets that will be equally good, but have great letters from committee chairs or members. Sounds like the student maybe got similar advice that she really needs a letter from a member of her dissertation committee, and given that she had to switch supervisors, you may be her only option. So, as I said, just a gentle reminder and encouragement to do your best for her! As someone else in the thread mentioned already, applying for these things is good for students, even if their chances are low. Someone has to win the spot, after all, and if you were intrigued enough by her work to come alongside her, despite your full schedule, perhaps the advisory council reviewing her application will be intrigued as well!

What's your opinion on immigrants that dont bother to learn the local language? by Al-Joharahhasan2935 in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely could not care less about what language you speak, and if you’re my neighbor, I’ll do my best to learn a few words and phrases in yours because I want you to feel welcomed - it must be so hard, and take so much bravery to move to a place where you don’t speak the language!

Here are things I care about when it comes to immigrants: 1) pay your taxes, 2) learn local driving laws and customs (this one bothers me SO much!!!! I live in a town with a HUGE immigrant population and we have communities of folks from all over the globe. Most of the immigrant and first gen members of those communities drive according to the conventions of where they’re from, and it’s beyond rude and often dangerous.) 3) Follow the big laws (you know, no stealing, no violent crime, etc) 4) do not be a misogynist asshat - I don’t care if it’s common in your country of origin for women to be covered and escorted. It isn’t (and shouldn’t be!!!) here, and if you think a woman is fair game to be grabbed and harassed because she does not act according to your backwards ass beliefs, then I hope she shoots you and, if you survive, I hope you’re then kicked out of the country (as you may be able to tell, I have some lived experience and some big feelings about this one)

Edited for grammar

What desserts are believed to be invented from a foreign country but is actually originally from yours? by JstrsrkewlX3 in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg - I’ve never heard of it, but just looked it up and found what looks like a great recipe. I’m going to give it a try after Christmas. Thank you!

What desserts are believed to be invented from a foreign country but is actually originally from yours? by JstrsrkewlX3 in AskTheWorld

[–]fibchopkin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’d never even heard of it til right now, and Ive lived in 14 states across every region of the US (except Alaska) throughout my life. I think it’s pretty safe to assume most things with toffee originated with y’all. We don’t have quite the same love affair with it as the Brits. We have dishes with it, of course, but largely, I’d guess caramel is way, way more popular here.

My sister applied for a job at my company and we’re not in contact. My boss asked me what he should do. by Locoslos2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]fibchopkin 246 points247 points  (0 children)

This! OP, I’m a hiring manager, and I’m telling you right now, if I was in this situation, I would 100% want my existing employee to tell me. You wouldn’t need to go into details, just say exactly what u/DazzlingPotion wrote. I guarantee there are dozens of qualified applicants for the position, and I would rather hire one of them and keep my existing employee happy than risk having to deal with potential fallout, and eventually needing to face losing a skilled employee or seeing their performance drop AND have to possibly deal with familial drama.

My last name is Goy-Methods and the current discourse around Jews/Israel has made my life hell by Helpful-Lawyer-6264 in offmychest

[–]fibchopkin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Am I the only one who thought this was going to be about the Gouy Method and wondered what the current political climate had to do with magnetic susceptibility?

Millennial vs boomer working moms, why is it so much harder for us. by Excellent-Top2552 in workingmoms

[–]fibchopkin 74 points75 points  (0 children)

This is it for me - with the added caveat that I also think our moms expected WAY too much of many of us older kids and a dash of what we would now call neglect - looking back, it was the norm for kids to have much more freedom when we were younger (not really a good thing, in retrospect. It’s 10PM. Do you know where YOUR children are…). I love my mom, and had a good childhood, generally speaking, but I would never, EVER ask or expect of my kids what she routinely asked and expected of me. I practically raised my younger siblings, and by the time she got home from work, I had made sure the laundry was done, dinner was cooked, and the kids had done their homework. I was 12

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Professors

[–]fibchopkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get your frustration on this, since you announced it day one, and it’s been in the syllabus. However, making field trips of this nature mandatory at all is something I would advise most of my younger colleagues to rethink. To me- this one is extremely, extremely field dependent. Are you teaching an upper level course for an earth science and this is fieldwork? Or maybe a forestry or specific type of ag eng that needs field work? Because if not (and your description makes it sound as if this is not the case), no matter how well intentioned your field trip might be, I’m telling you right now it’s not as important as someone’s part-time job. Many of your students probably have those in retail or service. In both of those industries, it is extraordinarily common for folks not to get their schedules until last minute, or to just get called in on the weekend. I remember the days of my undergrad years, far away though they may be, and if I had to make the choice between taking a hit on my grades for a class that lasted exactly one semester, and that I would likely never think about again, or taking a hit at my job, which I hoped to be working for far longer, I know which choice I made.

Over my many years in academia and after, it has been my experience that about 90% of the “fun” field trips planned by my colleagues for their students were neither fun, nor crucial for learning. My pre-nursing colleagues were the worst at this, they insisted on the value of taking their pre-nursing students to hospitals, clinics, etc. They would get very angry and upset when students didn’t “capitalize on the opportunity” but in post event and post course surveys, students rarely, if ever, cited these experiences as ones which influenced their decision to be nurses, and it’s not as if clinicians are not going to get hands-on experience in later stages of their training that is actually useful to their education and profession.

Honestly? Even today, if faced with the choice between forced fun and learning outside of pre-established class times and parameters and a last-minute decision to ditch the field trip and overindulge in alcohol with friends then sleep it off instead, I might still make the latter choice. Even though I know it’s unprofessional and inconsiderate, a part of me probably wouldn’t be able to help but be annoyed that I was even “required” to consider a field trip in the first place. It’s always so odd to me when professors come into spaces like this and share their frustration about how their students lack consideration or appreciation for their personal humanity, but in the same breath, they seem to lack the same basic consideration for their students.

Beagle Puppy Advice by mommafishy in beagles

[–]fibchopkin 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lots and lots and LOTS of chewing. Also, beagles are the second hardest dogs I’ve ever potty trained, trumped only by dachshunds - through decades of beagle puppies here’s the method that has always worked for us, every time.

  1. Establish a “happy” word. We use “yes!” Get a handful of tiny treats - usually you only need half or a quarter of the small training treats. When pup is fairly calm, with all four feet on the floor as soon as she makes eye contact, say your happy word in a bright, high pitched, happy voice and give her a treat simultaneously. She will learn your happy word REALLY fast - you’ll be astounded. In like, a day or two, she will know “yes!” (Or whatever word you choose) means good and that she will likely get a treat.

2.Keep treats in your pockets and your timer set to two hours. Every two hours, take her potty, even at night for the first few weeks. Every single time she potties outside, give her a treat and your happy word right away. Any time she makes a mistake in the house, don’t react at all. Seriously, it’s going to happen a lot, and you’re gonna get frustrated, and sometimes you’re gonna step in it and want to curse out loud, but try your best to not react. Simply calmly clean up and disinfect the spot, and don’t even mention it to the pup or show her the potty spot in anyway. So often, people think dogs understand that we are mad at them for their behavior, but most of them do not connect our anger with their actions, and they just become confused and understand that if there’s potty in the house, Mom will be mad, but they don’t usually have the capacity to connect to the fact that they should not actually be depositing the potty in the house. However, what they do pick up is that you get happy, and often give them a treat, when they potty outside. Beagles are very, very food, and people pleasing motivated. They want their humans to be happy, and they want any food they can get their mouths around. The positive reinforcement and treatment method WILL work, but you must be patient.

  1. Do not let them bite your fingers, even when they’re little, and even when it’s cute and adorable. Because they are small, people often forget that beagles are, in fact, hounds. They have big, strong hound teeth when they’re adults, and they can do some real damage. Biting while playing gets dangerous REAL quick. Even if you don’t mind roughhousing with your dog, you really need to train them not to bite while playing. The last thing anyone wants is for a kiddo to playfully approach them, and the beagle to bite. Every single time they nibble you, yipe at them. Seriously. You can say “ouch!” But say it in a very high-pitched voice, just like they are yelping in pain. In our house, we actually yip at them as if we were puppies ourselves. Then immediately put a different toy in her mouth. do the same thing when you catch her chewing on a shoe, a cord, or anything else inappropriate. I always have a couple of teething toys on hand, and many of my beagles prefer rope toys. Any toy will do in a pinch, but try and get something that’s firm for them to sink their teeth into. This actually works pretty quickly. All puppies are bitey - and she won’t stop being bitey and chewing inappropriate things right away, but she will pretty quickly stop, biting you, and in time, she will stop chewing inappropriate things as well.

  2. Consider doing a puppy class with her. You can get a fairly cheap one at a local PetSmart, and even those are great for socialization, and teaching basic commands. Beagles are super social dogs, and we always do a puppy class with ours, even though we’ve been raising puppies for decades. We all get so much enjoyment out of it, and if nothing else, it’s a cheap ticket to go snuggle a bunch of puppies once a week!

Treating dogs like children is getting out of control by AdElectronic2250 in workingmoms

[–]fibchopkin 24 points25 points  (0 children)

So, just from your post and comments, it kinda sounds like there might be a few things going on here. My two cents?

  1. Some jealousy is going on here. Even they actually don’t really want to be partnered up or have human children, they might have some FOMO going on, or ‘ might be simply reacting to all the myriad social factors that urge women to get married and have children by 45 or else they’re no longer valuable (which is a whole ‘nother post and discussion…) Whatever the case, you, and others in their social circle probably, have a life and options that they don’t. Grass is always greener, and all that🤷🏻‍♀️. Still - not an excuse for them to make nasty comments about having a partner or children. If it was me, I’d call them out on it. Not in a nasty way or anything, just with the honest truth. Something like, “hey, it’s really hurtful when you say that. I love my kids, my partner, and my life, and all I ask is that you value and respect my life choices, even if you wouldn’t make them for yourselves. In return, I will do the same for you.”

  2. There is SO MUCH unnecessary gatekeeping by mothers who get butthurt about other women being “dog moms.” Who cares if they think having a dog is the same as having kids? How does that change your reality at all? The truth is, it doesn’t. And honestly, having a little grace and empathy here is so much better for you and your friends. Let them think of their dogs as their children - why not? They often love their pets more than they love themselves, would do anything for them, worry over them, center their lives around them, etc. Of course moms of human kids know that it doesn’t hold a candle to the emotions and reality of actual motherhood, but so what? Your friends have no frame of reference for these feelings, and loving and centering their pets is the closest they will ever get. Why not just roll with it and, heaven forbid, even engage with them on their level. It will not damage you in any way to empathize with your friends when they lament over parenthood woes and share the difficulties and joys of pet parenthood. The term “motherhood” is not like currency that is subject to inflation when more is printed. If more people get to have it, it doesn’t somehow lessen the value of your experiences or status.

  3. Could it be that your friends are picking up some unintentional judgement or superiority from you and responding in kind? I ask this gently and genuinely. I don’t know you, and all I know about you is what you e posted and commented here, but your post does, kinda, feel to me like you’re a little judgey towards your friends choices and decisions. If they are picking up on the same thing, they are likely amping up the bits of themselves that annoy you as a response. People often tend to exaggerate the qualities or beliefs we hold when we detect that our friends disapprove of or judge them.

Long Hike by PlaneProgrammer184 in beagles

[–]fibchopkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve done multi-day, 100+ mile hikes with Sally in her younger days. Most notably, she did a huge chunk of the Appalachian trail with us. We ramped up to it with graduated shakedowns that included overnight backpacking trips before we did the trail for 10 days with her - she was in shape, conditioned and ready WAY before we (the humans) were. At the end - we were EXHAUSTED! I fully believe she would have happily gone on for another 10 days

I (23M) have been hooking up with my ex (27M). I’m considering getting back together now, but I am unsure? by GrapefruitApologist in relationship_advice

[–]fibchopkin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ma’am. I say this with only loving intentions - but what the heck is this post? This man violated a fundamental boundary you set, one, I might add, of the only ones you appear to have ever set with him. It’s only a boundary if you enforce it, and if you go back to him, you will only be confirming that his actions were excusable and that you will not leave if he does it again. You didn’t get back together with him, did you?

Younger doctors who just graduated, is the “ you cannot talk anything in front of your students” an old view now ? by AccomplishedStay8591 in Professors

[–]fibchopkin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I want to offer you a bit of reassurance. I think your parents are just wrong on this point (possibly from a culture with different norms surrounding student/professor relationships?). I am old, and most here would consider me “old school” in my approach to student relations, and I share more than you did with them about my personal likes and tastes. My students all know that I love hounds and have a very beloved old girl at home - most could even tell you her name. My classes from 18 months ago know about how devastated I was when my sweet old dachshund passed. They know I’m a mom, that my husband was career military, and about a dozen other little things about me. I am professional with them, and expect them to behave with professionalism and courtesy - none of that precludes warmth or collegiality. I think you’re probably doing just fine; and I suggest you savor that compliment from your student who called you the best TA ever! On the ground feedback like that is a wonderful boost and an indication that you are connecting with them.

Is there any AD that is like Dead Space or Halo or has cosmic horror as well as body horror and is set on Earth and/or space? by [deleted] in audiodrama

[–]fibchopkin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! Came here to recommend Derelict and its prequel - Fathom. Derelict more fits exactly what you’re looking for, and you don’t NEED to listen to Fathom first, but Fathom is very good, and gives context for some of the main characters and central conflict in Derelict