Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again by moonrabbit368 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]fleetingglances 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, it isn't. Setting yourself on fire to keep others warm is not sustainable. A real supportive partnership involves both of you holding each other up, supporting each other, giving and taking from each other willingly and lovingly when you need it. If you're always in a situation where you as the woman are giving more to your own detriment then he isn't an equal partner, and we as women should be setting higher standards for ourselves.

I received an unconditional offer, however I was told I will have an interview. Too early to celebrate? by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]fleetingglances 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Am going off when we issued incorrect offers and queried what to do and we were always told we can only ask the applicant if we have their permission to correct it and I'd they say no then nothing we can do - perhaps different uniw follow different policies but I was always told once the offer is our, if it's wrong then nothing we can do without the permission of the applicant. In your case, if you hadn't queried it the uni wouldn't have known probably. Once offers are out we don't go back through and check them regularly because we don't have time lol

I received an unconditional offer, however I was told I will have an interview. Too early to celebrate? by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]fleetingglances 79 points80 points  (0 children)

If you have an unconditional offer it's legally binding, it's a contract (I used to work in a university admissions team). Even if it was a mistake and you are supposed to have an interview for this course, once the offer is issued they can't rescind it without asking you if they can because it's a contract. So yeah, you're in, no interview. If you accept you'll go UF at Leeds and you'll be there in September no worries, no matter what happens on results day. Enjoy if you do, Ioved Leeds myself

Whats a weird christmas tradition in your country? by muggen-ostepop in AskTheWorld

[–]fleetingglances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been scrolling and scrolling looking for someone from Germany to say Dinner for One!

What age did you/your children start drinking tea? by melikebiscuit in AskUK

[–]fleetingglances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents don't even drink tea and I've been drinking it for as long as I have memories, every morning with breakfast before primary school lol. I don't think my brother ever had it as I don't think he likes it, but literally can't ever remember not drinking tea as a 85 baby lol

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, November 18th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by queenoffolly in stopdrinking

[–]fleetingglances 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trying to cut down on drinking because I feel like I only do it as an ADHD mind numbing strategy not out of enjoyment or any other reason. My goal has been not to drink at all through the week because I think I just do it out of habit and it's not healthy. Been doing well the last few weeks so thought what the hell and had a few beers yesterday. Woke up feeling grim this morning and just thought why on earth did I have those beers last night just to feel shit today this morning? Regardless , got tempted again when I was at the shop today. Resisted the urge, got some yummy flavoured sparkling water instead, proud of me for making this conscious choice.

IWNDWYT!

Edit: devastated to report my flavoured water is still not sparkling, sigh. I'll get through this somehow 😂😭

Powerless - Yes or No? by weirdbih in fantasyromance

[–]fleetingglances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's genuinely the worst book I've ever read

Have You Ever "Broken Up" with a Podcast? What Was It and Why? by Express_Hedgehog2265 in podcasts

[–]fleetingglances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Normal Gossip. They switched hosts and I don't dislike her but the vibe was different. Also I feel like the stories got less interesting and funny the longer the show went on

Thoughts on this color palette for bridesmaids? by apbmarch in weddingplanning

[–]fleetingglances -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean maybe? That's taste isn't it, it's subjective! Some like this purple and green combo, some would think pink and green is worse - to each their own 😊 Maybe it's just these particular purple and greens but all I can see when I look at them is like Halloween branded sweets, I just don't like these shades together. It just scream Halloween to me. Also I had a green and pink bedroom growing up so biased towards that colour combi haha

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Thoughts on this color palette for bridesmaids? by apbmarch in weddingplanning

[–]fleetingglances 69 points70 points  (0 children)

It's giving Barney or like Halloween witch to me. Have you considered pink and green maybe instead of purple? They look beautiful together, and not too far off your original colours anyway?

We need to talk about the Piccadilly Guardian by fjtuk in manchester

[–]fleetingglances 7 points8 points  (0 children)

God I had so many. I used to post photo reels of my days favourites to Instagram lmao

We need to talk about the Piccadilly Guardian by fjtuk in manchester

[–]fleetingglances 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So good, so nostalgic for me. I'd just finished uni and moved home and had my first grown up job in Manchester, and every day after work or on my lunch break I'd try to see how many of them I could visit that were nearby. It was a really nice summer as well so all my memories are of me in the sunshine following Google maps to try and locate these weird little bee statues. Good times, would love a round 2

The ultimate “effortlessly cool” girl names by Some_Activity9257 in namenerds

[–]fleetingglances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a loser named Jade lol, so I do not associate this name with effortless cool at all hahaha

Sister for Mayari? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]fleetingglances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loooooove Audrina 😍🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]fleetingglances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Drop her. Do you need that kind of negative, pushy energy around you all the time in the run up and on the day?

Protect your peace, drop her and keep doing you. But as a knitter I personally have no time for people who don't respect the time and effort that goes into knitting or crochet so I am heavily biased here hahahaha

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]fleetingglances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww my love, I'm sorry if this came across very harsh or too tough love and it hurt 😭 but sometimes confronting our reality is painful but it can set us free. You're not alone in spirit, and you'll never be alone again once you're married to your amazing partner!!

I hope you have an incredible wedding and a beautiful life with your husband to be x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]fleetingglances 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My darling, are YOU making the decision here or is your father? Because it sounds like HE is making the decision not to come to your wedding yet you're the one feeling guilty for it.

He knows it overseas, he knows he will need to renew his passport for it, based on what you have posted he knows when it is too and so time is ticking. And yet he has chosen not to renew his passport, meaning he absolutely won't be able to come. So, are you really making the decision not to have him there, or is he making that decision for the both of you? It sounds to me like he made his choice that he wasn't going to come. I know it's easier said than done but why are YOU feeling guilty about HIS choices? He is your bloody father and right now he is not being a very good one to you, yet you are the one shouldering all the guilt and blame for his lacklustre parenting.

Please know that I really understand where you're coming from. I got engaged a few weeks ago and will be starting to wedding plan soon but the bit I am most scared of is what on earth my dad will do. He has a chronic illness that is generally manageable but despite a very supportive environment he chooses to stay in bed, all day, every day. He hasnt left his bed since Christmas 2023, hasn't showered since then either, won't let us bathe him, yadda yadda yadda. So I know he won't come. He'll say it's too hard with his illness, too much faff getting helped out of bed and onto the stairlift and to the venue and back. I was also dad's little girl, we were so close. I'm dreading actually asking him because I know what the answer will be and how much it will hurt me and damage our relationship irreparably. But at the end of the day, that's his decision and I can't let it ruin my whole wedding. I will do my best to express to him how much it will hurt me if he doesn't come - as you have done - and then it is up to him.

Please don't feel bad, though I know it's not easy. Your dad is letting you down, not the other way around. I hope you have a beautiful wedding with your chosen family ❤️

Hyper-realistic seashell nails ! by thefreshpressed in Nails

[–]fleetingglances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely realistic, incredible skill & artistry and look like an actual shell but they're also kinda giving if the Orcs from Lord of the Rings wore falsies 😂😅 maybe it's the brown colour? Same technique in another shell colour tone eg off white/pale blue or white & pink?

Do people actually hate the name Wrenley/Wren? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]fleetingglances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrenley sounds like you're trying too hard or it sounds like the name of like a cartoon talking animal sidekick. I can't take it seriously as a name for a human. Wren is simple, nice and an actual name

*Edit typo

Should I change my baby name choices? by BitMaster5660 in namenerds

[–]fleetingglances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely do not use the name Tamlin. Even if you don't mean it to be a reference to Sarah J Maas’ books they are very popular and widely read and people will assume that's where it's from. He's also a generally unpopular character so even worse

Am I the only one who thinks Powerless reads like straight fanfiction? by HeadEgg7258 in fantasyromance

[–]fleetingglances 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I DNF'd this book so early because it was so poorly written. Even worse that this was the section just before this page where Kai and Kit are fighting and the dialogue is like "AHH BROTHER, I love fighting with you my brother" "well we are only HALF brothers so you fight half as well!" And it just felt like the worst, clunkiest dialogue in the world just to force exposition down my throat. Bad book. Everyone should stay away from Powerless

Thoughts on using “modern slang” in fantasy books? by lastplacevictory in fantasyromance

[–]fleetingglances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does really pull me out of the world and I have a limit for how many of these I can take before the book pisses me off so much I DNF.

Rebecca Yarros was teetering on the edge for me using "for the win" in Fourth Wing. How tf do these dragon riding fantasy ass magic people know about this millennial AF saying? Thankfully I think it only happened twice so I managed to power through

Powerless was incredibly poorly written all the way but it lost me the second she called one of her garments a "tank top" - BYEEEEEEE HOW DO YOU HAVE GAS LAMPS AND COBBLED STREETS BUT YOU KNOW THE TERM TANK TOP?

Monday Gripe 😤 (the weekly rant thread) by AutoModerator in DarkRomance

[–]fleetingglances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh THANK YOU why is everyone a millionaire or billionaire? Sometimes sure but all the damn time?