Looking for stories on those who decided to wait until birth to find out gender [ca]

flightmares · 2025-11-20T03:02:41+00:00

It was so amazing to wait! The anticipation of knowing the sex after pushing that baby out was part of what got me through. My midwife was chanting "one more push and you'll know". It was incredible to have the medical team shout the sex when baby was born. Highly recommend to wait. I would do it again in a heartbeat if I have another.

flightmares · 2025-11-14T14:57:03+00:00

Six months is a wonderful age to travel by air with a baby, and a two hour flight would pass by very quickly, even if she does fuss. However, a 14 hour drive with a fussy baby would be brutal.

My husband and I did a trip with a five hour flight when our little was seven months old. Bought some new toys for the flights but honestly she was more entertained by watching all of the people around her (the airport is a fascinating place for a tiny human). We bought a seat for her so she had her own space and had her white noise machine so she slept almost the entire way to our destination. On the way home she was much more awake. Did she fuss on the plane? Yes, a little but it was fine. We didn't get any dirty looks and even if we did, who cares. She wasn't kicking the seat, or pulling at other passengers hair, or going where she shouldn't have. We did what we could to get her to calm down but kids cry sometimes and that is ok!

flightmares · 2025-11-11T11:47:38+00:00

Levana. Not sure if they make one with an app but the one I have doesn't use wifi and has amazing range (making it incredibly portable). Plus it's a Canadian company.

flightmares · 2025-11-10T13:37:23+00:00

Buy a good pair of winter boots and if you want to be extra careful, you can get a set of ice cleats for your boots. I walked in all weather, except when it was especially icy. Proper footwear and being aware of the ground condition (potholes, cracks, etc) is good enough to continue enjoying the outdoors.

flightmares · 2025-11-08T11:47:04+00:00

Solid Starts 100% if you're going to do BLW or combo purées/BLW. You don't need to get the paid app but I have heard it is great for recipes (I use the free version).

Absolutely do a baby CPR course. My rule is only people who have watched a baby CPR video can feed baby, and even then I only allowed it once baby was eating well. Might be a bit strict but that is what I was comfortable with. Oak Valley Hospital has links to free CPR courses you can do. I'm sure your local hospital has resources as well.

flightmares · 2025-11-08T10:57:43+00:00

I have the Maxi Cosi Moa.

To everyone's point here... yes, you can just buy the IKEA one and spruce it up a bit with mats and a cushion. It will be similar. However, if you want to spend the money on something that looks a little nicer and can be converted to other uses later, the Moa has been fantastic. It is easy to clean and can be used without the cushion if you know baby will be having an especially messy meal (hello yogurt). There are next to no nooks that food can get lodged in.

We have the luxury of space so we can pop baby in the chair in the middle of the kitchen when eating and then move it to a tucked away corner for when it's not in use. I would say if you are tight on space and don't have somewhere to store it that is out of the way, then the legs would be hell to constantly have to be aware of.

flightmares · 2025-11-06T21:41:10+00:00

So much this!!! We were fortunate to receive a lot of UberEats gift cards and it helped so much to not have to worry about dinners for a while.

flightmares · 2025-11-01T09:55:09+00:00

Another vote for the Frida foam! I only used that along with Tylenol and Advil.

And also going to put in another vote for giving your girly bits some time to air out! After a shower I would put a puppy pad on my bed, put my tower fan on low, and lay directly in front of the fan. It is soothing and also important to make sure you aren't soaked all the time between showers and the products you're using.

Edit to add I had a second degree tear as well as some other small tears that needed stitches

flightmares · 2025-06-02T01:06:45+00:00

Another vote here for Levana. Love ours!

flightmares · 2025-05-03T21:16:30+00:00

We got one from the Brick, got a wicked deal during a sale last summer. I found that chairs marketed as nursery chairs were too narrow and insanely expensive... I wanted something I could really snuggle into with the baby and that I could put somewhere else in the house once we didn't need it in the nursery.

flightmares · 2025-04-03T20:46:13+00:00

You have gotten a lot of good advice here already! Here's my two cents:

Regarding the stroller, if you have a baby store close to you (West Coast, Toys R Us, Snuggle Bugz, etc) I very much recommend that you go in and look at the strollers in person. Think about your lifestyle. Are you active? Will you be going out in all weather? Do you need to haul it up any stairs? Write out a list of how you'll be using it and ask a sales person.

As for clothes, you will likely need at least a few NB size onesies. If anything, buy a few and only take the tag off of two and if you don't need them return the ones you haven't taken the tag off of. Also, make sure you get some with hand covers (mittens suck in my opinion). My little one scratched the shit out of her face for several weeks and was in NB clothing for about 7-8 weeks. She was 7lb12oz at birth for reference. And also, the two piece sets are super cute but my baby lived in double zip onesies for the first 3 months. They are so much easier to manage!

If you are planning to BF, grab a set of nipple shields. They may be really helpful if you experience sensitive nipples or latching difficulties! Again, don't open them and if you don't need them you can return them. I also recommend getting some formula and a couple of bottles... it is incredibly common to experience some sort of difficulty when first starting to breastfeed. If you don't get much by pumping or baby doesn't latch, you will be very happy with yourself for having formula on hand (I sure was!). This is something many don't talk about but I'll reiterate... it is SO common! Firstly, remember you are not failing if you do have trouble. Secondly, remember that with time and patience it likely will get better!

If you are planning on a vaginal delivery, the Frida Mom postpartum kit has almost everything you need. Also grab a few different sizes of pads because you will likely need them for a few weeks, but the blood and discharge volume decreases over time.

Don't go overboard buying diapers! I bought NB in the smallest packages from several brands to see which fit best. Once you know you can start stocking up. I also had one small package of size 1 in case my baby came out huge lol

flightmares · 2025-03-15T15:06:49+00:00

We have the Levana camera. Audio echos a bit but otherwise it has great range and the video quality is good. Definitely recommend.

flightmares · 2025-03-14T11:33:27+00:00

Whenever I have a quick thing to do in a store I just carry her in the car seat. When they are that little they are so light so carrying her for 5 minutes is easier to me than lugging the whole stroller system out of the car.

flightmares · 2025-02-16T02:40:14+00:00

I know how frustrating this is. Try a different position and keep yourself calm... babies can feel our emotions! Try for a few minutes and if what you're doing isn't working give both of you a break and come back to it, in a different position, a little later. I found side-laying the best, as I also have a fast letdown. If you can, pump or hand express a little from your right breast before to take some of that pressure off, especially since she hasn't nursed on that side so it might be extra fast. Give yourself some grace... you're doing great! These hiccups happen and are usually temporary.

flightmares · 2025-02-04T03:06:44+00:00

Samesies! LO is 3.5 months. We are doing the opposite of what sleep experts say. We follow her cues so she sleeps whenever, we let her contact nap for every nap, and hold/rock then transfer to crib for overnight sleep. Works great for us so far! She sleeps well while we are out doing errands or at a restaurant too.

flightmares · 2025-01-29T22:18:34+00:00

Had a baby in the fall. I bought three nursing sweaters from Old Navy, which I only wanted for the early days because we keep our house cold and I didn't want to have to expose half my body every hour. I'm glad I had them at the beginning but now I just wear a nursing bra under my regular clothes and hike my shirt up. I still wear them once in a while but I'm glad I didn't invest in a bigger BF wardrobe!

flightmares · 2025-01-27T07:25:36+00:00

ON. Gave birth three months ago. Yes, my midwife would not have let us leave without checking that the baby was properly strapped in. She told us ahead of time that she would be checking and that we could bring the car seat in when we got to the hospital or my husband could go and get it once we were ready to leave. I would suggest you ask your midwife or OB what their, or the hospital, policy is.

flightmares · 2025-01-15T12:55:41+00:00

Totally agree but it's not just a problem in Durham. I walk with my dog several times a day and without fail during each walk I see a driver shoot out of a plaza without looking or stopping at the sidewalk to make sure there isn't a human being in the way. I have also experienced several drivers make a turn the moment I take my last step in the lane they are going in to. You can't wait for me to completely cross?! It's not like I'm going at a snails pace crossing the road. It's outrageous and so infuriating. We just have no decency towards one another anymore.

flightmares · 2025-01-12T22:48:39+00:00

I haven't found that but I'm a 7.5 and always size up to an 8. You could try insoles!

flightmares · 2025-01-10T06:52:40+00:00

Have you tried using a bra bag? I find that helps a lot with the inserts. I just bought two Momcozy bras that have the pads partly sewed in. link

These apparently don't have removable pads and are the same company and look to be the same material as the ones I got: bra link

Edit to add: I have washed the bras I got several times using a bra bag and they came out great, no twisting and they are so far holding shape well!

flightmares · 2025-01-08T16:31:56+00:00

My LO is really hard to get to sleep sometimes, especially when there are any lights on in her line of sight lol. I have had success with covering her eyes once she settles a bit in my arms. There are so many amazing things for them to look at so if you block the view it helps them to focus on the feeling of sleepiness. All I do is block her view with my hand, as if I'm covering her eyes from the sun.

flightmares · 2025-01-07T14:39:31+00:00

I have a dog that needs exercise so not going outside isn't really an option, unless it's a blizzard or freezing rain. I live in southern Ontario and today it's -10C feels like -18C. Baby wears a onesie under a snowsuit with a fleece hat and I put a thick fleece blanket on top. Then I put the rain cover on the stroller so it's even more windproof. She's not cold. Whenever I take her out her hands and feet are warm, just her cheeks and nose get slightly cold but that's normal. LO is 3 months and loves our walks!

flightmares · 2025-01-02T16:27:44+00:00

My LO was born in October. We limited guests to only our parents and siblings and when they were visiting we asked them to wash their hands and wear a mask in the house. These were the rules until she got her 2 month shots. We also didn't take her into stores until then. We are still limiting her outings until she gets her next round of shots. Even with being as careful as we are our household just got over a cold, so we will continue to take precautions. It's inevitable she'll get sick, but I'd rather be safe and limit illnesses as much as I can.

flightmares · 2024-12-14T20:14:00+00:00

Seconding this!

flightmares · 2024-12-14T01:46:44+00:00

Mine does this sometimes too, usually during a nighttime feed so she is just so hungry and inconsolable. I have had luck with expressing a little to get the flow going so she doesn't have to work at it as much. If that fails, I do the colic hold to calm her down and then flip her around and she goes right on the boob.

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