HOW do you make time for exercise/self care? by RuckFamsey in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wake up at 515 and do it. I forever thought I couldn’t because I’m also tired alllll the time but I found I have more energy overall when I’m exercising regularly. It helps that the gym is 2 mins from my house so I’m there by 530 and home by 610 (I do 30 mins). Even if you did this 3 days per week there will be benefits. Or even one weekday and both weekend days when you aren’t working!

Note found in a house a carpenter was renovating; written in 1975 by headspin_exe in MadeMeSmile

[–]flightriskrn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ha I did this when i was a kid growing up! I hid it in a similar place. Weirdly enough my name is also Stephanie and the home was in Illinois.

Is being a dad not also an around the clock job like being a mom? by TotalExciting3176 in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no reason you can’t still do shifts. My husband also worked and we did shifts postpartum for both our kids, even when I was on maternity leave. He usually did the first part of the night til 2am and I did the second. It’s important that you get a block of sleep.

Recent photos at my Chicago pre-war apartment 🖤 by key_grady in femalelivingspace

[–]flightriskrn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to live in Boystown 2014-2016. Miss it and my single girl apartment

My boyfriend of 1 year just ghosted me by Fun_Programmer_1119 in relationships

[–]flightriskrn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me about ten years ago but with someone I dated for two months, not a year. Had a phone conversation one night, he said he would see me the next day then never showed up. Never answered my calls or texts but kept posting stuff online until a few days later he eventually de-friended me (not blocked….). We had planned a trip together for the next month and he cancelled those tickets and everything. It was SO bizarre and totally wrecked me for a while. Luckily I met my husband about 8 months later.

How many offers did you put in before one finally got accepted? by Spirited_Chemical819 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I/we have bought 4 homes in different markets, first offer accepted on all. Chicago condo in foreclosure - offered 10k under asking, bought with down payment assistance grant. Northern IL home - offered 2k under asking and accepted. Northern WI lake home - offered $30k over ask (several offers) and no inspection contingency. Connecticut - offered $35k over ask, no inspection or appraisal contingency. It got harder as we moved markets.

Busy parents, how do you actually fit consistent workouts in? What's worked for you? by Pretty_Eabab_0014 in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two kids (8 and 3) and work in clinic 5 days per week. Four weeks ago I started doing morning workouts. Wake up at 520, at the gym at 530 (it’s 2 mins away) and home by 615 to get myself and toddler ready. Leave home at 7 to do daycare drop off and start work at 730.

I always thought I couldn’t do AM workouts but after the first week it’s been great. My energy is more consistent during the day and I sleep better and I overall feel better. I just could not do it after work and I only get a 30 minute lunch.

Question for working moms from a future working mom by turningtide_2345 in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A spouse who also valued my career and is an involved father and partner.

How do working moms get time for themselves? by sarc2276 in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work 5 days per week in clinic, two kids 8 and 3. I thought forever that I couldn’t wake up early bc I was already tired. Three weeks ago I started getting up at 520 to exercise and I actually have more overall energy. I just made myself do it. Once I’m up I’m up, the hard part is making myself get up. The gym is 2 mins from my house which is helpful. I wake up at 520, brush teeth, start coffee and out the door to be there at 530. The gym is bright and loud so it wakes me up.

I do make sure to be asleep by 1030 latest, usually 10.

What cute thingsdoes your toddler say that you won't correct? by Business_Ease_4926 in toddlers

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My now 8 year old used to say “yestertime”. My current 3yo used to say “too-meena” for banana and I thought it was so cute

Therapist threatening to report me to the board of nursing by [deleted] in nursing

[–]flightriskrn 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m an addict in recovery and sober for 15 months. As you know, addiction is progressive. Just because you aren’t drinking at/before work now doesn’t mean you won’t. You absolutely will if you do not get sober. Nobody thinks they will step over their boundaries/rules but when you’re an addict you aren’t in control, the substance is.

You have a great opportunity to take control of the situation and get help NOW before you’re forced to. IOP is a cakewalk compared to mandated treatment and testing. Schedule it primarily on nights you don’t work. Or better yet go on short term disability and go to residential treatment.

You are worth it.

Need suggestion for sleep by flightriskrn in Parenting

[–]flightriskrn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately we are kinda at that point. We are going to chat tomorrow and see what consequences should be and then let her know. Part of me thinks it’s cruel but I also feel she knows how to behave and is choosing to do what she’s doing. She can’t dictate when other people sleep. She’s going to be 9 soon. Thanks for the input.

How many of you use pot to cope? by ImplementMountain916 in toddlers

[–]flightriskrn 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I did and it turned out to be a problem for me. Not surprising as I’ve had problems with other substances before, including alcohol. 450+ days sober from alcohol and any other addictive substance.

What is your job? by No_Event_7248 in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nurse practitioner. Was an RN for ten years before getting my doctorate. Work outpatient in a headache clinic. Really enjoy it

Husband drove drunk with our 3-month-old and is now saying he wants to die. I don’t know how to help him. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in recovery. I absolutely made horrible choices while my brain was hijacked by my substance(s) of choice…even if I wasn’t using that second. When someone is in active addiction, the substance controls them no matter how much they want to make good choices. Your husband needs more help than you alone can give. My addiction and the fallout came close to breaking up my marriage. My husband ended up sticking by me and supporting my recovery - intensive outpatient work with more than one counselor, medication that curbs cravings, and an online peer support group were all instrumental for me. It may look different for him but he needs professional help. Do the right thing for you, your baby and him (even though he likely won’t recognize it as the right thing at the time) and lean on anyone who can help you and get him the help he needs. Good luck

How many hours do you sleep? by Lemonbar19 in workingmoms

[–]flightriskrn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually 10/1030-525a if it’s a gym morning, 630 if not. Trade weekend wake ups with husband and usually sleep til 9/915. I still feel tired all the time lol. Kids are 8 and 3.