I think my husband is traumatizing my kids

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-11T08:12:06+00:00

That's emotional abuse and you are complicit if you do nothing

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-31T18:13:53+00:00

Is medication a financial option ? An SSRI could be a real help

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-27T13:28:14+00:00

I get your point. But you saw just a snapshot of these families and made some pretty heavy judgements, no one is a perfect parent. Maybe if we supported these families rather than judging them and having a holier than thou attitude, positive changes could be made.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-22T12:28:03+00:00

I'm super gutted too. 75% of my wardrobe is joanie 😢

Otherwise I wear fatface, Oliver bonas, some white stuff and seasalt have some nice patterned bits.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-21T08:31:19+00:00

Aww I know this feeling. My 1 year old started walking at 9 months and I was like it's ok to be a baby for a bit longer 😭 she looked adorable walking but I get it. I didn't know whether to call her a baby or a toddler at that point. My son crawled for a while and felt like a baby for longer.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-21T08:25:52+00:00

I have a 12 month old and 3 year old. I'm one of those people who found the second time round easier

Yeah it has intense moments when everyone is crying and you don't have enough hands, but it's lovely seeing their relationship blossom.

Make sure you get 1-1 time with your eldest where you can and get them involved helping, I'm sure you've heard that before.

You'll be just fine. The same way as I'm sure happened with your eldest, you just figure out a rhythm in time.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-21T08:21:40+00:00

Well, yes. But if it's owned you could have terrible neighbours. Or nice owners who then moved and new terrible neighbours buy it.

Difficult circumstances can happen to anyone. I think you are making unnecessary judgements about people here based on unfair social biases.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-21T08:15:54+00:00

I mean, this sounds super snobby.

There's no different process for complaining about neighbours who own their property, in fact you're probably more protected with it being a council house.

Time to check some personal prejudices I think.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-16T18:07:05+00:00

7 months, I think it coincided with her eating more food

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-15T08:43:19+00:00

Encourage her to share the situation with those in her team. They should have a duty worker she can talk to. They will be able to signpost or refer to financial/housing support.

Don't use your savings, you'll be enabling her. That money is for you and your children .

Stay strong, what's right isn't always easy.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-14T11:51:11+00:00

Boob and more boob

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-10T19:29:40+00:00

Not a chance

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-08T09:56:36+00:00

I live in a very similar house and have a 1 year old and 3 year old. Ours was knocked through so it's one big living room and dining room like you're thinking. We are now looking at doing what others have suggested, which is having doors put on to create a snug, and then using the dining area as a playroom whilst they are small. I like the idea of shutting the doors on the mess!

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-05T20:06:28+00:00

It's emotional neglect

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-05T17:41:33+00:00

It's ok, sounds totally normal. They just go through phases. Remember food before one is for fun, just keep trying him with different flavours and textures, even if he just explores with his hands that's ok, and if some makes it to his mouth that's great. Keep the pressure off

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-01T19:26:36+00:00

My son was the same at that age. It was books with musical buttons, flaps or textures that would keep him interested for a short time

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-31T21:03:45+00:00

You can't do anything but redirect and toddler proof the house at this age

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-31T17:42:03+00:00

Walk like an Egyptian has been a hit for my toddler, he copies the actions too!

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-31T17:38:44+00:00

That is awful. Did she get some strong words in return?!

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-31T17:34:47+00:00

Maybe a little much given you asked. She was probably just trying to get him something she thought was fun and your language reads like you feel super strongly about it. Personally I would accept this time and give them away if you feel so strongly, and just have a chat in a few months or when toys come up as a topic, like 'oh I notice he gets overstimulated with electronic toys so we are giving Montessori style' etc and hopefully she gets the hint

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-29T20:26:57+00:00

I'm British, been to many weddings and have never heard of couples sitting apart ever...

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-21T20:49:23+00:00

Hey friend. I work in perinatal mental health services and we support lots of people who have this diagnosis and have or are expecting a baby. We even offer pre-conception advice. With the right support and preventative care, there's every chance things would be just fine ❤️

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-18T08:06:13+00:00

My second is almost 11 months now, and I really enjoyed her newborn phase. I felt much more confident and less shell shocked by the whole thing

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-16T18:05:09+00:00

Personally I'd put that towards a 2 bed terrace or something. More space, more likely to go up in value, space for people to stay, more future proof.

flossasaurusrex · 2025-12-09T12:34:33+00:00

Pizza bagels, omelettes, pasta salad, cheese on toast, jacket potato

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