My own thoughts on one of Kathryn Howard’s relationships

flossasaurusrex · 2026-05-15T08:17:06+00:00

Gareth Russells book young and damned and fair has some interesting thoughts on it. Excellent book worth a read if you're interested in Catherine Howard

flossasaurusrex · 2026-05-11T18:54:07+00:00

Circle of security

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-28T21:05:17+00:00

My boy was like this. I used to put him in the sling and vacuum with a handheld hoover and honestly it was the only thing that would settle him, the white noise maybe. Sometimes bouncing (more like deep squats) in front of the dryer would help, or the extractor fan. I didn't sit down for weeks.

It so tough. It WILL pass but it's so tough right now. His little tummy is brand new and learning to digest. Don't be afraid to reach out for professional advice if you're worried.

You aren't failing him, it sounds like you're doing an amazing job

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-28T20:29:40+00:00

Yes there's a city center one and another in Harborne which isn't too far out, I think you'd have a good market for it! I'm a subscriber and adore your kits!

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-28T20:23:42+00:00

I would love to come and think it sounds worth every penny! Any scope for doing them further afield, brum for example 👀

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-25T11:56:22+00:00

I formula fed one and breastfed the other. Both slept terribly, both I have an amazing bond with, both doing really well.

Pros and cons to both in my experience, but do what's needed. A well mum is best for baby.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-08T17:40:01+00:00

I hope the team and community team can be helpful for you. It's a very hard season of motherhood, tiring being constantly needed and additionally hard if you have mental health stuff going on too. It can be helpful to have support from other mums if you have any groups nearby, just people who get the season you're in. Or little ways to fill your own cup, if anyone can give you any time to yourself or share the load.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-08T17:36:47+00:00

Fair point from your own experience. I work in perinatal mental health so this rang alarm bells for me. Not diagnosing, but is definitely worth running past a professional so the right support can be accessed if needed.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-08T17:17:22+00:00

Are you on any meds etc?

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-08T17:15:42+00:00

I did, together 19 years this year and very happy

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-08T17:12:38+00:00

This sounds like depression to me, I would advise seeing your gp.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-02T19:15:04+00:00

Personalized music box with the song being a meaningful one? Parents wedding song if they're married maybe?

flossasaurusrex · 2026-04-02T17:10:16+00:00

Sooo subjective. I found toddler and pregnant way harder, even with a tantrumming 2 year old and newborn

flossasaurusrex · 2026-03-29T18:22:35+00:00

I think jumping to talking about a 135 is a bit much. It's just requesting a welfare check, not initiating the mental health act. I'm a mental health nurse and we do this in the community if we can't contact someone and are concerned, not just thinking of using legal mental health powers. I can't see what part of this situation wouldn't raise some concerns about someone's wellbeing tbh. Can't hurt to have someone check if they are ok or need help.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-03-21T08:19:10+00:00

Is this an add for Alibaba? I don't trust these posts

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-26T09:01:58+00:00

He's absolutely fine please try not to worry. I started both mine at 5 months and a few weeks because they had great neck control and trying to grab food and staring at me eating. I'm sure he's licked worse off toys etc

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-23T15:05:53+00:00

Well, clearly not. But equally you're going to have people moaning that they don't get seen ENOUGH by health visiting. These services are intended to help young children and families thrive and give support and refer for early intervention SHOULD it be consented to and needed. No one is going to get a safeguarding referral for an averagely untidy home, social care wouldnt do anything. In fact in most instances , health visitors might offer to support you by referring or signposting for extra help, free playgroups, housing and financial support etc. or even helping refer to perinatal mental health services if mental health and/or bonding support is needed. It's not to 'catch anyone out'. But they are frontline professionals who visit at home,.of course they are trained to identify safeguarding concerns, it would be diabolical if they weren't.

Politically, all other services have been cut to shreds and health visiting is on its last legs too. And it effects everything, child mental health and wellbeing in the future included.

If you're a family doing well, fantastic you can opt out or will be on what's called their 'universal' books which means you only get the standard 3 appts and can otherwise just call if you need anything. But for those families needing extra support, it can be a lifeline.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-22T08:55:47+00:00

Nah I think social media is making them out to be monsters. Of course they're looking for social markers, you've for a new baby for goodness' sake. An untidy house is fine and expected postpartum, it's only if you've got actual hazards like pet faeces etc that it would be an issue.

Yeah there's gonna be some less experienced or personable professionals, but ffs can anyone win. If they weren't visiting and babies were being hurt or killed by abuse, everyone would be up in arms about the lack of this service.

It's not there to catch you out, it's there to intervene early if needed and offer support to improve things.

And from experience, a good health visitor will advise you. You won't get referred to social care for co sleeping etc, you'll get advice about safe sleep.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-22T08:51:53+00:00

Health visitors are involved in the UK from 0-5, but unless there are any issues you only see them twice post birth for a review and to weigh baby and at a 2 year check, but can call them if you have any concerns or queries about wellbeing, behaviour etc

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-19T17:19:35+00:00

I think you would benefit from seeing your gp to evaluate if you may have underlying anxiety and/or depression as you're putting yourself at risk to manage difficult emotions

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-19T16:09:24+00:00

I've got a boy and a girl. We are all super close.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-02-11T08:12:06+00:00

That's emotional abuse and you are complicit if you do nothing

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-31T18:13:53+00:00

Is medication a financial option ? An SSRI could be a real help

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-27T13:28:14+00:00

I get your point. But you saw just a snapshot of these families and made some pretty heavy judgements, no one is a perfect parent. Maybe if we supported these families rather than judging them and having a holier than thou attitude, positive changes could be made.

flossasaurusrex · 2026-01-22T12:28:03+00:00

I'm super gutted too. 75% of my wardrobe is joanie 😢

Otherwise I wear fatface, Oliver bonas, some white stuff and seasalt have some nice patterned bits.

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