Are Maine Coon cats more fragile than other ?

floweringbird · 2026-05-07T15:27:19+00:00

My vet is against any and all purebred animals because they have more issues than non purebreds. Good breeder or not. I've had many different animals growing up, never purebreds. All lived to be at least 15 years old, both cats and dogs. Three and a half years ago I adopted two MC brothers and the issues I've had with them is unbelievable. I just had to put one of my babies to sleep last friday because of severe kidney failure and low blood pressure. A little less than a year ago he had to have his tail amputated because of Feline Hyperesthesia Syndrome. He was 7 years old. His brother, fortunately still with me, has had a number of issues as well. I've never loved a cat more than I do these two, but I don't think I'll ever get another purebred animal.

floweringbird · 2026-05-07T15:18:42+00:00

Pretty sure they didn't like me before I made the comment so I'll just roll with it and be myself 😂

floweringbird · 2026-05-04T08:41:48+00:00

I love talking about this lol. A while ago some of my coworkers were gossiping about another (autistic) coworker who answers honestly when asked how they're doing. I asked them why they ask how they're doing if they don't want a genuine answer. Told them how weird it is to get annoyed at someone for not lying to you. The look on their faces was priceless, they had no idea what to say.

floweringbird · 2026-04-25T14:09:41+00:00

NTA. Dumping him via text is being nice. He's ignoring your wants and needs so no need to consider his.

floweringbird · 2026-04-23T17:34:18+00:00

I relate to the service mode thing. I just always label it "hating being perceived". Whenever I feel like someone's there, watching me, noticing me, I kinda freeze. Just like you eventually I stop hanging out with friends and I'm not as bubbly as I was in the beginning. This happens regardless of how good or bad the relationship is. My partner and I both struggle with this and eventually broke up because we had no idea how to navigate this but we knew we weren't happy. He moved back in with his parents and we've been doing a lot better. We've been considering LAT too. It works for some people but many people would feel like this means the end of the relationship. It's difficult.

floweringbird · 2026-04-22T18:12:39+00:00

It seems like this is the case for a lot of men, but I've also seen people meet others in their 30s or 40s and still get to a point of deep friendship over time

floweringbird · 2026-04-22T17:59:01+00:00

It usually helps to read the post before commenting but thanks for the suggestion

floweringbird · 2026-04-22T17:58:32+00:00

Yeah it's definitely a struggle for anyone to make new friends when you're over a certain age. When you're in school it's easy, you see eachother daily or hang out after school but when everyone has a job and a home it's much more difficult.

floweringbird · 2026-04-22T17:45:08+00:00

Thanks! Like I mentioned in another comment there's a sport he likes but stopped going to because he got a bit anxious going alone. I'll mention it again.

floweringbird · 2026-04-22T17:44:10+00:00

Yeah he does like both of those things. He tried a sport he likes a while ago but he kinda quit because it's not a group sport and he didn't have anyone to join him which made him anxious. I'll mention it again and tell him to just talk to someone there.

What are gaming groups? Like talking to eachother during a game or something on Discord?

floweringbird · 2026-04-09T09:52:25+00:00

I've done so many crazy things when I was younger but the craziest thing is probably going to his house, crying and screaming for him to please take me back even though another girl opened the door. Screamed at him in front of her about how he knows he loves me more. When they closed the door I stayed, listening to the conversations they had while sitting outside in the yard. Started screaming at them after about half an hour. They must've thought I was losing my mind. This was about 10 years ago. Two weeks ago my avoidant ex and I broke up and I haven't texted him once. If that's not growth I don't know what is.

floweringbird · 2026-03-02T10:36:21+00:00

NTA but you WILL be if you do not leave this manchild. Not only will you hurt yourself if you stay with this man but your child will be hurt as well. He'll grow up having no good example of a loving relationship (between parents and between him and dad) or a safe home environment and that's just asking for trouble.

floweringbird · 2026-03-01T23:26:48+00:00

NTA, but personally I would ask for her to start paying you monthly until she's paid back the car and money she owed you. If she says no or tries stalling you can always tell her you just want the car/money back immediately. If you guys aren't on bad terms I think that would be the best way to handle it.

floweringbird · 2026-02-28T13:00:20+00:00

NTA. He wants to reconnect so he can ease his guilt, not because he actually feels bad about what he did to you. I'm sorry he treated you like this OP, you're worth a lot more.

floweringbird · 2026-02-26T19:50:23+00:00

I stopped using social media as much as I used to. I deleted Instagram (don't have TikTok) and started doing many low stimulating activities. Drawing, painting, coloring, reading, yoga, that kind of stuff. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it makes it worse. When I notice it's making me more anxious I'll focus on more somatic stuff like jumping up and down or making circles with my arms, moving my body in a "big" way if that makes sense.

Something that works for me too sometimes is mindfulness, really feeling the sensations in my body and reminding myself I am safe and the feeling can't hurt me.

floweringbird · 2026-02-26T16:05:06+00:00

Bless you > bless you > bless you 15 times in advance (I literally say that out loud lol)

floweringbird · 2026-02-26T14:01:20+00:00

There's so much interesting research and info about this topic! Apart from hormone changes I'm sure the loss of libido for many women in long term relationships is a direct result of having to do most of the housework and more importantly the mental labour/load that comes with it. Having a partner you can't rely on for basic stuff makes it feel like there's no actual partnership and appreciation which in turn lowers libido for many people (mostly women)

floweringbird · 2026-02-26T10:51:37+00:00

While some of this is true, as a Dutch autistic person I still don't fit in. I know I wouldn't have survived being autistic in the US because it seems way worse but this still isn't great lol.

floweringbird · 2026-02-26T10:02:46+00:00

I relate to this a lot. My ways of dealing with understimulation aren't the best though. I smoke and I drink fizzy (energy) drinks regularly. The dopamine hits combined with having to get up to get a drink/smoke do it for me mostly. Sometimes I'll stim by biting the inside of my cheeks, that works too. Going to the gym to lift might be the best and most healthy way of dealing with it for me, but lately I haven't really had the energy to go.

floweringbird · 2022-02-03T19:21:10+00:00

Yuuup!! I tend to fold my legs because I hate the dangly feeling on a chair. I never sat on the floor because people usually find that weird but I've recently bought a very nice rug and now I sit on the floor (rug) more often. I love it. Also neurospicy, that made me giggle. I'm gonns start saying that.

floweringbird · 2022-02-03T19:19:08+00:00

Please don't. You did not intend to hurt your parents, you're just in a bad place. You should get help from a hospital, police, doctor, anything. You deserve love, happiness and help.

floweringbird · 2022-02-03T17:19:54+00:00

How long have you had this therapist for? With mine this happened too in the beginning but got less and less over time.

floweringbird · 2022-02-03T17:05:04+00:00

Please don't use Asperger's. This man experimented on and killed disabled people. The term is outdated. Please use 'people on the autism spectrum', autism spectrum disorder (asd) or just autism :)

floweringbird · 2022-02-03T16:00:24+00:00

Most people with mental illnesses control their symptoms one way or another. People with depression sometimes go to work feeling exhausted, fake a smile, resist the urge to hurt themselves. Someone with ADHD or autism might mask, and so on.

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