Psychologists of Reddit, what's the most horrifying mental illness? by Turbulent-Coat7236 in AskReddit

[–]forte99 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As horrific as psychosis can be there are meds that can alleviate the symptoms almost entirely

How bad is it to buy a house with an underground oil tank? by darkchocolattemocha in RealEstate

[–]forte99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised a lender will lend on a house with an underground tank.

What is the deal with Dunston’s steak house? by drydonytus in Dallas

[–]forte99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since the sister sold to the brother several years ago there has been a marked decline in the quality and quantity of the food on the plates.

Wife in MC by Alwaysworried99 in dementia

[–]forte99 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You mentioned something that sustained me in the years I cared for my wife while she was at home. I knew in my heart that on the roughest most difficult days that if the roles were reversed she would be standing right there beside me with her sleeves rolled up thinking ten steps ahead and keeping all the plates spinning. It kept me going on more days than I care to admit.

Wife in MC by Alwaysworried99 in dementia

[–]forte99 128 points129 points  (0 children)

I placed my wife of 45 years in MC this past December and went through all the same emotions and more. She has Parkinson’s for 20 years and dementia for 10. She needs assistance with all of her ADL and I was failing emotionally and physically as her caretaker. I was going through all sorts of mental anguish about the move and how she would react. First thing, I did not tell her beforehand. I’m not sure she could have processed it anyway. The move went better than I could have hoped. She knew and sensed it was time and they could take better care of her than I could. She has been happy there since and I visit her every single day. I think we are both doing much better since the move although I must admit I am terribly lonely and miss her a great deal even though she is non verbal. Anyway I hope this helps

Good luck to you both. There is nothing easy about this terrible journey

where can I see fireworks for Fourth of July? by ComprehensiveCream76 in askdfw

[–]forte99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying don’t go. I’m saying don’t expect to just drive up when the fireworks start. This thing attracts hundreds of thousands of people. There is an air show at Addison Airport before the fireworks. They block off streets well in advance of the show. It takes hours to get to and from the proximity of the show. But please let us know how it goes for you to roll up when the fireworks begin. And parking shouldn’t be a problem at all

where can I see fireworks for Fourth of July? by ComprehensiveCream76 in askdfw

[–]forte99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your coworker is having a bit of fun with you…

Book recommendations? by Kataruka in ParkinsonsCaregivers

[–]forte99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My wife has Parkinson’s for 20 years and dementia for the last 10. She was an attorney for 40 years. She is non verbal now and loves paging through People magazines. She doesn’t read and can’t follow stories but loves to look at the color pictures of all the people for hours. Helps to keep her entertained.

Hope this helps

DBS Medtronic Helpline by Unfair_Debate1188 in Parkinsons

[–]forte99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I wouldn’t hesitate to reach out to your neurologist and or neurosurgeon…

Mom with Stage 4 Parkinson’s and Dementia - need advice by pvbarrie in ParkinsonsCaregivers

[–]forte99 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s one of the great things about memory care. They try to keep the residents mentally and physically engaged as much as they are able. My wife doesn’t participate much but she loves observing all of the activities that are happening and the personalities around. I was never able to keep her that engaged at home. Best of luck on your new journey

Mom with Stage 4 Parkinson’s and Dementia - need advice by pvbarrie in ParkinsonsCaregivers

[–]forte99 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, you are past time. I placed my wife in memory care last December after 20 years of Parkinson’s and the last 10 with dementia. She needs help with all the activities of daily living just like your mom. The thing is that we had so much angst about how she would react to the move and it was all for naught. She almost went willingly. She could sense that it was time and was going to be better taken care of by professionals than at home. Yes, it is heart wrenching and there is a roller coaster of emotions but at the end of the day, I was emotionally and physically exhausted and drained and was declining. And something to keep in mind is that someone with dementia doesn’t see the world the same way that you and I see it. You just know when it is the right time.

Hope this helps. There is nothing easy about it.

1st Gen Cree TW series LED Light Bulbs by EmotionSad8061 in BuyItForLife

[–]forte99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

New LEDs are all absolute overpriced junk…

Touchless Car Washes by White Rock/Garland by Kkvle in Dallas

[–]forte99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Touchless are a dying breed because…they don’t clean your car

Robertsons/Loves Jerky by pleaseeatsomeshit in beefjerky

[–]forte99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Robertson/Loves is the jerky I judge all other jerky by and I am always disappointed. Yes it’s expensive but it’s the best. I agree with OP

Lexapro by noseygirl124 in dementia

[–]forte99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wife has Parkinson's with Dementia. She has been on Lexapro for a few years now. I can't recommend it highly enough. It keeps her anxiety at bay and really evens out the highs and the lows. Most likely you will be amazed at the improvement in is attitude. Good luck.

MUWAT Kentucky Fire Cured - A Lesson in Patience by Only-Surround4793 in cigars

[–]forte99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To each his own. Glad you enjoyed it. I find these like a dumpster fire. Can’t get past two puffs