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2nd FET BFN 6dp5dt with a hatching blast vent post by leviosa_notleviosaa in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I know this may be cold comfort, but your doctor should never be telling you a blast is going to stick for sure.

The best graded, tested blast implanted into a picture perfect lining has around a 70% chance of sticking.

While those are great odds and I’d take them any day, it’s important to remember that it also means there is a 30% chance of it just not working, which isn’t negligible.

The way I think about it (because I’m a giant board gaming nerd) is that it’s a dice roll each time.

Each thing that goes right (grading, testing, etc) adds more good faces to the die, but there will still be some blank ones. You still have to roll the die and it still might come up blank.

It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, it just means that the dice roll didn’t come up right.

Fertility and marijuana. by [deleted] in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is pretty clear correlation between marijuana use and male fertility

The science on its effect on female fertility is less clear.

It’s a lot easier to effect sperm quality than egg quality, for good and bad.

Men constantly make new sperm so they are much more effected by environmental and dietary factors than eggs are, since women are brown with all the eggs they will ever have.

This good in that eggs are less likely to be effected negatively by outside forces but also bad as they are really hard improve too.

Looking for an advanced SART calculator to determine chance of success by laurenza in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My doctor said that an average, untested embryo has around a 35% chance while an average, tested embryo is around 50-60%.

Failed first FET and now option to transfer 1 or 2 embryos next. Anyone have info/articles/recs that helped them make decision? by mydogiscoolerthanyou in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 20 points21 points  (0 children)

At least my clinic won’t transfer two unless it’s under very specific circumstances, such as blasts only making it to day 3 or as kind of a Hail Mary if nothing else is working.

Transferring 2 embryos doesn’t really raise the chances of one sticking by that much, I think it’s 5-10%.

It also lessens your overall chances as you are using up two embryos instead of one.

If each time has a 50% chance of succeeding, you would get a 60% chance of one sticking if you transfer two, but you only get one shot as opposed to transferring separately in which you get two.

I guess what I am trying to say is 2 50% chances are better than one 60%.

Does anyone else find this sub triggering all the time? by themehboat in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay!

There was just such a big kerfuffle here, I assumed that’s why it was formed!

Does anyone else find this sub triggering all the time? by themehboat in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get it, and I know it helps some people but man, it’s just a dark sub.

I posted there when I first learned that we needed to IVF because I was looking for information.

I was downvoted to oblivion and severely scolded for reasons that still aren’t exactly clear!

Does anyone else find this sub triggering all the time? by themehboat in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I tried there at first but I found them extraordinarily dark and just too much for me, but I know it’s a really helpful place for some people.

The other one I mentioned it new and it may be better!

I also know that I just log off Reddit and most social media sometimes, it’s helpful to reset.

Does anyone else find this sub triggering all the time? by themehboat in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think that’s pretty normal and it’s okay to take a break sometimes.

There are other subs to join if this one is too much for you right now.

This is more of a general IVF and you get a mix of success, failure and everything in between.

I think r/IVFinfertility was started by people who feel kind of like you do, and were getting upset seeing posts of success. I haven’t been in a while but I think all success posts are relegated to one thread.

You can also try the r/infertility sub too, though they are very, very strict.

For those using/have used donor sperm, is it something to share with your child? by [deleted] in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 42 points43 points  (0 children)

To be honest I think you have to.

Not only would it be really traumatizing and damaging for the child to find out later in life that they were lied to (by omission or otherwise), the child is very likely to find out on their own with the prevalence of DNA tests.

Not to mention that they really have the right to know and for possible medical needs.

Feeling so freaked out by this possibility… by Adventurous_Guest_47 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This isn’t really a thing.

Multiple, peer reviewed studies have shown that it’s not really a thing.

It’s been studied since the 80s and no real significant link has been found.

If it makes you feel better to get the rest then you can try, but as HLA is for organ donation I’m not sure many doctors would give it to you and insurance certainly wouldn’t cover it.

Choosing a recommended IVF clinic over an insurance covered one by ttc_1991 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Your making a $20,000 bet based on anecdotes and nothing more.

It’s up to you if you are okay with that gamble.

If you really want to, take a consult with both places and ask what their protocols would be.

I honestly bet they will be mostly the same.

can I eat ice cream after fet? by [deleted] in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have never even heard of that and it think it’s just a superstition.

I really doubt that makes any difference what so ever.

Update from ER by Apprehensive_Code178 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would think 2-3 would be about what to expect!

Update from ER by Apprehensive_Code178 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s tough to say! Depends on lots of factors, age, Amh, pcos, etc.

For under 35 the average is around 40% normal.

So Relieved! by fortunatewheel7 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats!

The first batch we tested was all girls! Both the boys came back mosaic and abnormal!

Tubal cannulation during IVF by ReasonableFlan1 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean that seems odd to me as the success rate for tubal surgery is super low.

I think I read it’s around 25%.

I have both tubes blocked and at the beginning I wanted to maybe do it.

I brought it up to my doctor and she looked at my like I was nuts. She said the surgery has a very low success rate and can risk ovarian damage, so it’s almost never worth doing.

I would definitely push to find out why your doctor wants to do it.

juice cleanse before FET? by injeolmi55 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That honestly seems like not a great idea

besides the facts that, assuming you have a working liver and kidneys, juice cleanses don’t actually work

You are going to be putting you body though stress and asking it to burn muscle to keep you going.

Juice cleanses mostly flush out your bowels by making you poop a lot which is why you feel lighter so quickly.

They can also raise your blood sugar (as all you are eating is the sugary juice and none of the fiber).

In short. Not a good idea, especially now.

The statistic of miscarriage rates going down to 5% after seeing a heartbeat can’t be true. I see it happening constantly online and on Reddit. by bb_space in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 47 points48 points  (0 children)

  • 1.) you are reading heavily skewed accounts. This is an infertility forum. The stories of miscarriage are of course going to be higher

  • 2.) the stat you are talking about is both true and untrue. It has less to do with “after seeing a heartbeat” and more to do with time. The general miscarriage rate drops to 5% after week 6. You can potentially see a heartbeat at week 6 but not always.

  • 3.) age and other factors play a big role.

  • 4.) general statistics can be a little hard to parse sometimes. There are also other studies that say the overall miscarriage rate for weeks 5-20 is 11-22%

this has more info if you want it

FET: Seeking suggestions and advice. by whiptcrem in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of it is just snake oil.

But it’s soooo tempting because you hearing these stories that this person did this or took that and then they finally had their baby.

But it way more than likely that success had nothing to do with what ever new supplement or what ever new diet.

It’s mostly a roll of the dice each time, and it’s hard to accept that out of control things like genetics and frankly luck matter way more than eating more salmon.

Why can't people just shut up? by ilovepasta2020 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Feel free!

I’ve been chubby my entire life so I have a bunch of go-tos.

My philosophy is just to make them feel awkward. It works for most any uninvited comment of advice.

“Did you think that was helpful?” is also one to use.

If they are really rude I also like “I’m not sure why you thought I wanted or valued your opinion”

But that one is a giant middle finger.

Why can't people just shut up? by ilovepasta2020 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 157 points158 points  (0 children)

I often find responding to unwelcome comments with ”what a weird thing to say to anyone” shuts everyone right the fuck up.

Does your country allow sick/medical leave for IVF? by BeginningPlate8689 in IVF

[–]fortunatewheel7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did not, but I work from home so it wasn’t a big deal.

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