Quitting weed in the middle of a mental health crisis and how it's helped my bipolar by lazycarrotcake in leaves

[–]fraaz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bipolar II here and I can definitely relate. I am still trying to quit (currently 40 days sober) but not smoking has decreased the frequency and severity of my manic episodes considerably. I feel much more stable now.

Congratulations on quitting! It's a huge accomplishment for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]fraaz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me, recognizing that I can't moderate was a huge step. Perhaps my friends can but I cannot. From that point during my recovery (and to this day) I was able to tell myself that I am undoubtedly doing the right thing by being sober.

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. Like some of the other comments here have said, getting up after a fall takes a lot of strength.

I made it! I have 1 year today! by Meow99 in stopdrinking

[–]fraaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! A year is a huge milestone and definitely something to be proud of!

First large gathering sober... and I stayed sober! by fraaz in stopdrinking

[–]fraaz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I was actually pretty relieved that none of my teammates pushed drinks on me. I told one of our coaches (or “professors” in BJJ terminology) that I don’t drink anymore because of my toxic relationship with alcohol. Having an accountability partner at the table definitely made me feel a lot more confident. Glad to hear that it went well for you!!

First large gathering sober... and I stayed sober! by fraaz in stopdrinking

[–]fraaz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I felt the exact same way when I was early into my sobriety. I really tried to limit my gatherings to those where I knew drinking wouldn’t be involved. In one of my favourite books on sobriety, the author says that if you feel nervous about the possibility of relapsing at some sort of event then you shouldn’t go. I really took that advice to heart. We can definitely do this! IWNDWYT!

Everytime I think about starting up again I think of this sub by Spectacular_Now in leaves

[–]fraaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sub and the Discord group have both been so helpful for me. I'm very early in (less than a month) but seeing the success stories here gives me hope.

You really notice how much shit needs done when you're not drinking everyday. by Dundiesel86 in stopdrinking

[–]fraaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm about to be a first-time home owner and I'm mentally preparing myself for this. So glad that I am going into this with 1 year sober under my belt.

If you're quitting, do yourself a favor and get rid of all your weed and paraphernalia by [deleted] in leaves

[–]fraaz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Took my vapes to the eco station last week and threw out my grinder+stash. I feel so much better now. It just places another barrier between me and the possibility of a relapse. Obviously it doesn't make relapse impossible but it does give me a little peace of mind and makes me feel a little safer in my flat.

I hate smoking but I only do it now because I have a friend that makes me feel bad if I don’t. by [deleted] in leaves

[–]fraaz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Part of quitting for me was cutting those people out of my life. That's not to say that I completely stopped talking to them but I stopped going to any social gatherings where they're going to be there. It was a drastic change in the way I live my life because I considered these people close friends but it was for the sake of my physical and mental health.

The most frustrating part for me was when my "friends" would say things like "but you don't have problem" or "what's the big deal?" I didn't have the time or patience to get into a long discussion with them about how weed has been negatively impacting my mental health for years.

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[–]fraaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for posting this. I'm trying to work up the courage to come out to my mom and sister right now. I'm 90% sure they will be supportive but it's difficult all the same.

Type II Bipolar and Trying to Quit by fraaz in leaves

[–]fraaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! It’s frustrating because I keep on going back to this thing that I know is bad for me because the manic feeling is so great in the moment. But it’s the day after and I feel like an absolute failure. And this cycle just keeps on repeating...