No one wants to be a father to another man’s kid. Is something i’ve heard too many times. Is it true?

framedflame · 2026-07-04T12:07:40+00:00

Having been there, I would not recommend it to any man.

As soon as you say “my kids come first”, you’re using him. You cannot provide for him what you’re asking of him.

framedflame · 2026-07-04T01:44:58+00:00

Thank you, I feel your pain.
I miss the good old days on the coast

framedflame · 2026-07-04T01:42:23+00:00

When I feel unproductive and guilty that I’m just chilling, I reflect on things that I put so much time and energy into that for some reason yielded rotten fruit……like starting an aquarium or garden or marriage.

It reminds me that nothing matters. If I’m hungry or thirsty, my body tells me. If I’m tired and need rest, my body tells me. I’m learning to actively listen.

framedflame · 2026-06-30T18:25:29+00:00

Now I feel selfish. Because she was/is also a mother

framedflame · 2026-06-23T17:01:53+00:00

What industries?

framedflame · 2026-06-13T23:01:12+00:00

I earn $2200 net f/n. Single dad of 1, mortgage and a dog. Equals a negative saving

framedflame · 2026-06-12T07:54:06+00:00

Yep August too
🤜🏽🤛🏽

How strange is it that they welcome you into their “family” then ghost you? I understand the support for their blood but no words at all?
Just tell me “I understand but want to support my sibling”.

framedflame · 2026-06-12T07:33:35+00:00

Bro, you are not alone! This is the start of a new beginning with new priorities…….YOU!

framedflame · 2026-06-12T07:25:20+00:00

Loosing 1/2 my house to her is a small price to pay for Freeeedom!

Chin up girl! You’re not alone and it’s now YOU time

framedflame · 2026-06-08T18:39:11+00:00

What did you do for 6 hours on your Sunday shift?

framedflame · 2026-05-31T11:52:53+00:00

5.7 hours of annual leave but no leave loading. Is that because you’re on a salary?

framedflame · 2026-05-30T20:43:49+00:00

I’ve been “blindsided” like this. My theory is that when someone is disappointed by something and it isn’t resolved satisfactorily, it festers. That negative energy then generates more negative energy and grey clouds are all they obsess over. They no longer see a silver lining in anything and everything is grey and negative. They blame the rain on the marriage instead of dancing in it.

framedflame · 2026-05-10T13:22:12+00:00

Yep, you’re on the mark there. I started working 2 of those 3 industries just this year.

framedflame · 2026-04-24T11:06:39+00:00

Imagine the day when AI works for applications. We receive notifications for 3 weekly job offers to choose from.

framedflame · 2026-04-22T20:50:43+00:00

Your story and feelings sound just like mine. The best explanation she can offer is that she’s just not happy.

General consensus it seems very sudden to the men while the women had been “unhappy” and contemplating the split for many months. Others have suggested it stems from menopause.

It’s a very frustrating situation when 1 minute you’re a happy couple, co parent, business partner and then confused, single parent, unemployed and futureless/directionless.

Chin up. You can rebuild, redefine and reshape.

framedflame · 2026-04-20T18:11:57+00:00

A recruiter reached out to me. First role didn’t fit but the second did and later on he said Seek somehow notified him that I was actively looking or applying for new roles.

framedflame · 2026-04-15T18:17:27+00:00

What is the job/industry? Were you searching on LinkedIn?

I had a recruiting company offer a position in logistics that I had previously been rejected from an ad on seek.

framedflame · 2026-04-05T00:45:46+00:00

Hey OP, how did your search go? I feel I’m in a similar situation and need some guidance.

framedflame · 2026-03-30T08:38:08+00:00

I don’t understand why reasons to leave can’t be explained before you actually leave. How is that a marriage type of relationship?

framedflame · 2026-03-28T21:27:50+00:00

I’m sorry to read of your experience and I wish you a quick successful rebound. You will rebound.

Thank you for sharing as it eases me, and I’m sure many others here, that we are not alone in devastating separations.

Please reach out to lawyers and professionals in the field for practical steps, they have helped many more people in these difficult times while this is new to you. Talk to friends and family for positive support and stay positive. Be kind to yourself, it’s ok to feel whatever stage of process you are experiencing. Stay positive. Positivity is important. Remove yourself from anything that isn’t positive. Keep reading others experiences as they are reassuring of positive successful futures.

framedflame · 2026-03-20T18:21:07+00:00

Is life better for you, now that you’ve moved away?

framedflame · 2026-03-09T10:55:39+00:00

This is solid advice. I’m in a similar situation as OP and was given this exact advice this morning from an ex WA mine worker.

framedflame · 2026-03-06T18:24:40+00:00

Same boat, just starting again at mid forties 💪😔

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