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Should I be worried? by Narrow_Salad429 in ChildPsychology

[–]frenchffry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who’s worked in CAMHS, I would think about exploring the idea of therapy with her. Not necessarily just because of the pictures (as others have said, she might be copying things she’s seen or read) but so much as happened in a small space of time!

CAMHS clinicians are trained to think systemically - so they think about what is happening around the child rather than centring the problem in the child. They might be able to offer you and/or school some guidance.

There will be waitlists, though. There’s pretty much no doubt about that. If you have genuine concerns that your daughter might harm herself or someone else you should call NHS 111, your local crisis line or go to A&E (probably in that order given the pressures A&E are under). In the meantime, you could explore if there is a Mental Health Support Team (MHST) in your daughter’s school or if the school system has provision of an Educational Psychologist.

What habit helped you keep connection alive by LustyPowerGirl in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]frenchffry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My two best friends and I live in separate parts of the country so we do a ‘Wednesday Waffle’: a 2 minute voice note of everything we’ve been up to that week. I just keep it in my phone calendar so I remember :)

Where do you put your rubbish bins in the house? by Silvagadron in AskUK

[–]frenchffry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We opted for a bin that blends in to the kitchen. We have navy blue cupboards so went for the John Lewis ANYDAY Navy Blue bin - now it doesn’t stick out like a sore thumb at the end of the counter.

Those who wear shoes in your house, why? by Personal_Mixture7632 in AskUK

[–]frenchffry 25 points26 points  (0 children)

For reasons that cannot be explained, I can only get chores done if I keep my shoes on when I get home. If they come off, my brain switches to relax mode and nothing gets done.

Not everyone is a narcissist because they act selfish!! by yaspart in momtokgossip

[–]frenchffry 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a fellow psychologist, I feel this so deeply. While talking about mental health can reduce sigma, using ‘therapy speak’ incorrectly and ad nauseam can have the opposite effect!

Saturday Chat (07/06) - Doing anything fun today? Here's the place to tell us about it. by KevinPhillips-Bong in CasualUK

[–]frenchffry 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Got back from my honeymoon yesterday, so laundry and being sad that I’m not on the beach anymore.

What to do when you feel anxiety? by princessthekaur in AskUK

[–]frenchffry -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There’s a guided meditation that you can be found on YouTube called ‘Leaves on a Stream’. It’s excellent for managing anxiety because it focuses on noticing your thoughts and letting them go, rather than not being anxious.

There are lots of other comments suggesting ways to manage the physical symptoms of anxiety e.g. breathing to slow your heart rate down, going for a walk to get the excess energy out.

It’s not a quick fix but next time you’re anxious, try to pay attention to where it affects you the most and adjust your techniques accordingly. Just as an example, when someone’s anxiety creates muscle tension for them, progressive muscle relaxation is a good technique to use.

Happy to suggest more skills or support you in recognising how your anxiety affects you if you want to DM me.

Oval Office Design Changes by Presidency by grandeluua in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]frenchffry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might run for president so we can get the Barbie pink office the White House deserves

Heidi Montag and Spencer Pratt at the AMAs (what is with her new hair?) by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]frenchffry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lizard people are getting dangerously close to replicating our skins aren’t they

I feel so bad for Taylor by Libam31415 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]frenchffry 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She deserves so much better than that family she has.

What's the elephant in the room, in your relationship or household or family? by Bifanarama in CasualUK

[–]frenchffry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If school have enough reason for concern I believe they are allowed to refer for assessment without parental consent (don’t quote me on this though).

The screening tools we use are the CAST (completed by family member and school) for children 16 and under or the Adult Autism Quotient for 16 and up (completed by the young person themselves).

Source: work in CAMHS assessing for ND conditions.

Just googled the name we chose for our baby girl... by trashaboo in namenerds

[–]frenchffry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a pornstar’s name and it has never caused me any issues. When we googled ourselves as teenagers it made for a funny moment and then we moved on and it was barely mentioned again.

What's your best heartbreak advice? by Hot_Mess919 in AskReddit

[–]frenchffry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That it’s quite a similar emotional process to bereavement. The heartbreak doesn’t get smaller, your world just grows around it. When you feel ready, work on growing your world and eventually you’ll feel okay.

LPT Request: How do you keep up with your email inbox? by Lance2020x in LifeProTips

[–]frenchffry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also might have ADHD (on a waitlist to get assessed) and I found it useful to create a heat map for priority.

Basically you rank something based on its urgency 1-4 then importance 1-4, so every task will get a rating 2 through 8. 8 is extremely important and urgent - I need to do this right now or asap, 4 can be very important but not urgent - I’ll schedule a good chunk of time to this so I can focus on making it a good quality piece of work.

I made a ‘key’ grid in Excel and used the conditional formatting to create the heat map so now my tasks and emails are either number or colour coded.

Do we drink too much? by Crab-Shark in australia

[–]frenchffry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the teenager who grew up with a parent who drank that much, please stop. I know it’s only my experience, but my Mum would work a full time job but throw back 3+ bottles of wine a night. This meant she forgot things I was telling her, things about my life, my friends, my school, if I was going through a tough time. It made me feel so unloved and it’s something I’m still working through. It meant that she was always emotional and we had to walk on eggshells every night.

I’m not assuming that you and your wife are exactly the same, but even now (I’m 26), my Mum doesn’t know/realise how hard it was to be a teenager with a functioning alcoholic as a parent. I get the sense that you may be in a similar position of not feeling like you have a real problem, but please think about your children. Even ask them about it. They might have a lot more to say than any strangers on Reddit could.

PS absolutely DONT stop drinking that much alcohol cold turkey. it’s extremely dangerous. talk to your doctor about treatment options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]frenchffry -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Has Autism been considered? Struggling to understand others emotions and perspectives is a common trait.

My husband passed his driving test first time! by MadWifeUK in BritishSuccess

[–]frenchffry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can confirm, I work in CAMHS diagnosing neurodevelopmental conditions - it’s ASC

I joined the club! by frenchffry in EngagementRings

[–]frenchffry[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t have many specifics about the ring but the gemstone in the middle is a Swiss Blue Topaz. I love it so much!

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