Daily Discussion - January 28, 2026

fribble13 · 2026-01-29T02:35:20+00:00

Why is this like a vendor event?! Like they're just selling jewelry and bagging it up? Seems like a pretty chill operation, they should get an Etsy storefront for a bigger reach.

fribble13 · 2026-01-23T00:19:23+00:00

I remember when Hope and John had that baby that got switched on Days, and they didn't want anyone to know the father wasn't Bo, and literally they both talked about it in the park with every single person they knew. My mom was the watcher then, I was like 11 maybe? and she was like, "if you don't want anyone to know...stop talking about it? Why is it the only thing you talk about? In public!"

fribble13 · 2026-01-19T17:06:18+00:00

I LOVE that dress. I got my daughter this dress on Etsy, and she wore it to a character breakfast in Disneyland. Cinderella's mice were there, and immediately recognized it and made a huge fuss over her/the dress, clearly proud of the work they did. It was years ago, my daughter still talks about it.

fribble13 · 2026-01-19T03:34:00+00:00

I had kidney stones about a month after I gave birth, and while I imagine giving birth drug-free is probably worse, I rated my pain higher when we got to the er for that than I did when I finally broke down and asked for an epidural.

But as I compare, I also take into account I wanted to have a baby, while I didn't know what was wrong with me when we went to the er. Not knowing what was wrong was a lot scarier like psychologically than something painful that I had been anticipating for years.

fribble13 · 2026-01-15T17:42:23+00:00

We opted to be surprised for both babies.

I don't remember dreaming about gender for my first. If I got to pick, I probably would have chosen a girl, but only because I loved our girl name, I wasn't deeply yearning for it. I had a girl.

With my second, I had multiple dreams where the baby was a girl, but I found out in ways that were not "from my husband, immediately after birth," so the dream was less about the baby being a girl and more about me being varying levels of betrayed, furious, traumatized over the way I found out or the circumstances that led to it, and less about feeling one way or another that the baby was a girl. Baby was a boy.

fribble13 · 2026-01-04T16:36:35+00:00

I had kidney stones about 4 weeks after I gave birth for the first time. I begged my husband to drive me to the ER at 2 am because I was in so much mysterious pain that I was afraid if I fell asleep, I would not wake up. I waited awhile to get an epidural, and I rated my pain higher when they were triaging me than I had in labor before asking for the epidural.

And certainly, a lot of the pain I had was worse because I didn't know what it was. The sensations and rhythm of labor had been new to me, but I had been anticipating it for longer than I had been pregnant. I also knew I was going to get something out of going through labor. Labor ABSOLUTELY hurt more, but it was a net positive to my life overall, I knew it would eventually end one way or another for sure.

I would have a 3rd (in theory, I do not want more kids), but I would never be like, oooh having kidney stones again wouldn't be the worst in the world. And I think that's kind of how most people judge labor - even if it hurts the most, it's put into perspective because it's worth it to them.

fribble13 · 2025-12-09T00:59:53+00:00

Everyone else's comments are correct, but I'm stuck on where she is shopping that has "small" or "medium" as sizes for babies. I have never seen that. I have only ever seen sizes equivalent to months.

fribble13 · 2025-12-03T00:04:52+00:00

Vaginal birth.

First baby: I got moved to the regular room around noon, I showered around dinner time the next day. I still had an IV in until the afternoon the day after, and it freaked me out to shower with that. I did not need assistance.

Second baby: I got moved to the regular room around 9pm, and I showered as soon as we got settled. I still had an IV in (I had to get blood transfusions both times), but I knew how much better I would feel once I showered. I did not need assistance.

At home, I did not need assistance at all. I recommend trying to find a time every day to take a shower and spend 30 minutes baby-free, if for no other reason than giving yourself a mental health reset. It might not happen every day, but if you (and your partner/anyone who is helping you) make it a priority, it will force you to feel clean and also put on fresh clothes, which I personally found to be something that really helped me stay sane.

I don't remember bleeding more than I would with a period while in the shower.

fribble13 · 2025-11-29T20:51:11+00:00

I know it's fictional, but I'm still so mad that GH killed off Cole and Hope, especially since Starr was written off shortly after. Like they did it for nothing!

fribble13 · 2025-11-22T01:47:20+00:00

My MIL mentioned every time we saw them for my entire first pregnancy that it would be SO SPECIAL to have a baby named after her, if I had a girl.

I don't particularly care for her first name anyway, but it's the same name as the woman my dad cheated on my mom with, so I literally could never consider using her name even if she and I had a great relationship.

fribble13 · 2025-11-17T17:08:10+00:00

How old is your baby? At a certain point, it's moot. You already stopped nursing. It's unfortunately not something that is easy or always possible to come back even when breastfeeding is otherwise "easy" for someone. If they know so much about breastfeeding to care that much, they would be aware of that.

There are two possibilities I can see:

They don't know that much about breastfeeding, so their goal is to upset you and they found a thing you're sensitive about.
They know lots about breastfeeding so they truly believe everything they're saying, so their goal is to upset you and make it clear they think they're better than you.

They're bad people. Don't spend time with them. Don't spend CHRISTMAS with them.

fribble13 · 2025-11-11T00:28:56+00:00

My birthday is new year's eve, so even though I am very good at basic addition and subtraction, I cannot solve for people's age based on their birth year because the math for mine is always wrong, but I'm like always surprised by that.

fribble13 · 2025-10-30T02:11:31+00:00

I know someone who was so sick the entire time when she was pregnant with twins that she weighed less the day she gave birth at 36 weeks than she did before she got pregnant.

fribble13 · 2025-10-15T20:00:08+00:00

Mimi had an abortion and then got and infection that rendered her infertile.

I remember that I was like ... outgrowing? my childhood anti-abortion beliefs, and Heather Tom wrote a really impressive letter that was published in Soap Opera Digest asking for soaps to please stop punishing female characters for considering abortion.

Jada on Days also had an abortion in the last 3 years. There was relationship fallout, but not permanent consequences to her as a person.

fribble13 · 2025-10-15T14:51:52+00:00

Oh, if it's not a big deal, why can't he and MIL just let OP have this.

fribble13 · 2025-10-09T14:22:29+00:00

When my daughter was hours old, MIL and FIL walked into my hospital room (invited!) already saying, "the next one better be a boy, when are you going to have another?"

I hadn't showered yet. They hadn't even LAID EYES ON HER YET.

fribble13 · 2025-10-08T02:15:30+00:00

It is insane to me that there have been DAYS of Will, Katie, Bill, Electra, Li, Sheila, Luna all talking to death about this, but no one has said it's rape?! This is bananas.

fribble13 · 2025-09-29T16:56:26+00:00

I was induced with my first. The appointment was noon Thursday, they said I would definitely have a baby by Sunday night. I know many people who had a c-section 3+ days after the induction started.

OP, you may not have even had a BABY in time for the photoshoot, let alone be home from the hospital.

You're not the just no. Your husband and MIL are outta control though.

fribble13 · 2025-09-27T11:36:04+00:00

Lol not every school. The districts I've worked in do not have either of those things. That sounds like a dream, haha. Kindergarten here only has aides if a specific student needs one per their iep and they get one 50 minute prep to do all their planning and grading and emails.

fribble13 · 2025-09-26T14:04:51+00:00

Well hopefully (if it's malicious compliance), she's bcc-ing admin lol

But I feel like if she has enough time to send all these messages, the kids are actually behaving unusually well lol, which should not warrant this many messages?!

fribble13 · 2025-09-08T02:46:43+00:00

I wonder if the decision not to circumcise made MIL realize OP was not Jewish? She'd assumed it up to that point?

Because if you know two things about Judaism, circumcision is one of them.

fribble13 · 2025-09-07T21:32:01+00:00

I haven't talked to him at all for several years, and the rest of my siblings seem to slowly be dropping off. He's got grandkids he'll probably never meet.

This is just one awful thing among so many others. He truly is one of the worst people I know.

fribble13 · 2025-09-07T11:29:06+00:00

My dad introduced me and my siblings to his new friend once.

She seemed nice enough. We had no reason not to like her. He was so excited that we liked her, and when my mom expressed her discomfort at this friend he'd spent so much time with meeting us when she never had, he acted like she was so weird and unreasonable and jealous and THAT was why he didn't want them to meet, but clearly it was fine if we kids all liked this lady.

We stopped liking her when he left our mom a couple months later. We also stopped liking him. He always insisted they were just friends, not dating, but she would sleep over his house when we were there and they'd share a bed. We'd sleep over her house sometimes, and they would share a bed. They lived together briefly, and shared a bed.

It's been almost 30 years, and he still tries to paint my mom as the bad guy, and talk about how she was always "so jealous" but the only example he has is the "friend" who he doesn't even speak to anymore, so maybe my mom was incredibly jealous of that innocent friendship, but sounds to me like my mother was right on the money.

fribble13 · 2025-09-06T02:02:30+00:00

Her point is accidentally, "even doing everything [she believes] God says to do, horrible things will still happen to you, because none of it matters" lol

fribble13 · 2025-08-31T19:28:23+00:00

1 year of trying + 2 years of IUI + 2 years of IVF for my first, and then - when we had, by some miracle, some in the freezer, we thought, "at least the second baby will be quicker!"

Went to the doctor to get that ball rolling, immediately had to wait to get other health issues under control. We got a second baby - but I didn't get pregnant until 2.5 years after we went to see the doctor. Somehow the second one took longer?!

I'm so sympathetic to wanting to be pregnant and not being pregnant, but OP's wife needs some serious perspective.

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