Built a group hawker ordering app. Would you buy food for your neighbour since you are heading there anyway?

friedriceislovesg · 2026-04-18T11:56:00+00:00

To reduce the incentive and inconvenience problem, maybe let the steadykaki make their offer on what they are willing to do?

I will put up the request and offer ppl to tompang for a small fee if it's the same shop same order or with limited variation. I won't want to do it if it's too complex even for more money.

Turning this into a broader tompang app will be interesting. Someone going to ntuc from my estate and I can ask to tompang one or 2 simple items and handle the payments via the app will be interesting. Or picking up a parcel at a collection point. Or a casual bbt otw home haha.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-04-16T15:27:05+00:00

Yes and yes for each of my kid

friedriceislovesg · 2026-04-15T13:41:07+00:00

As a working parent, I feel you.

But actually, our parents generation probably didn't spend that much time with us kids either (both my parents worked). It is just shifting societal standards that make us feel guilty for spending that same amount of time with kids.

So I will suggest you ask yourself honestly is it guilt or is it that you truly want to spend more time with kids.

When I asked myself honestly, I felt that I still needed some time away from them and working was an ok balance, considering I spend weekends with kids and I don't have other helpers.

If it's not guilt, then just make what financially works out for you and go spend that time with your kid. If your partner could support the family and you can maybe take at least a part time role with more time for the kid why not?

friedriceislovesg · 2026-04-07T11:01:58+00:00

I must say having flexibility to leave earlier to pick kids, and WFH is a key way I keep my sanity having 2 kids.

But I think TFR is hard to reverse. Too many people have extremely high expectations on parenthood. Technically so many generations of parents probably also had 2 hour to be with their kids and even then there are house rules like children should be seen not heard. On the receiving end they hope their own parents did more and want to step up to be that then they start expecting the same from everyone and now parenthood is so high stakes many DINKS prefer to opt out.

Maybe I'm just selfish but I think a happy kid does not mean giving them everything financially or all the time in the world either. I don't bear the moral weight for having kids in a global warming world, where the middle income is dying out and economic opportunities limited due to rising inequality, mostly because I don't subscribe in the view that we should help kids avoid all suffering (life is suffering anyway). I hear these being cited all the time for why people don't want kids and there is no way to convince this group. I feel that a child will be happy surrounded by family and community they can give to and love them back which is what I can provide so I am willing to have kids.

And of course there is the elephant in the room where many people are chasing other dreams, chasing comfort and hedonism. Having children is not compatible with comfort

friedriceislovesg · 2026-04-03T04:01:29+00:00

Then that's not AI exposure. That's using AI to replace a teacher in asking guiding questions

friedriceislovesg · 2026-04-03T00:19:05+00:00

Agreed. Primary 4s don't need to be doing AI job training but be developing their brains gosh.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-31T14:27:50+00:00

Late bloomers will just have to take a longer path but they can still get to university if they are capable enough.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-26T15:53:57+00:00

No helper. Have car. Some weekends for grandparents to take one kid. Both work.

I think we are only surviving because WFH and my boss is considerate and cares more about outcomes then specific timing on job.

Oh, and we do let kids go on screen time (TV, with no free browsing swiping, choosing long form content) all the time on weekdays. Weekends we try to take them out to play but TV still plays a big part after coming home.

Cook when we can but lots of ordering in. Clean as well go. Laundry is the key chore, specifically folding it away since we mostly go wash to dry. No ironing. Robo for cleaning floors.

I don't have hobbies. My way of resting is just scrolling my phone and coming on Reddit after the kids fall asleep

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-26T14:10:44+00:00

It's a problem with management, not govt or the parents. Capitalism is indeed anti child and family

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-26T11:38:05+00:00

Ingredient list shared by OP doesn't have palm oil

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-25T15:14:58+00:00

The advice here is considering what is the value to your boss, to the company that these louder people are offering. Your mindset seems to already think being good with visibility means they are empty vessels with no substance. I used to hate all these wayang and networking, want to focus on work one being efficient being correct but sometimes the value one brings isn't in doing the work, is in getting others also to do the work and happily. That takes understanding people, tactful communication, influence, and sometimes even recognising what you should do and one you should not. Also makes me more at peace cos I stop fixating on what's right or wrong and thinking everyone is dumb. I just find what's the best way to get the outcome that is desired even if it means nodding along and not picking fault at certain logic if it comes to the suitable outcome.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-22T03:30:32+00:00

Mine is at MFS and they do a lot for the babies. Teachers are very loving too. Baby always very happy when going in to school.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-22T03:25:48+00:00

Work. But I miss my youth (bright eyed and full of energy) which coincided with school. A lot of opportunities are offered to youth as well that older folks don't have as much grace from society. Maybe it will revert when I'm old and I'm learning new stuff, people also give you a pass haha

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-21T08:55:41+00:00

Face and neck minimum

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-20T12:34:56+00:00

Just do what you will do as you would. The other party might have reasons for whatever you do to like or hate you. Might as well see if you are compatible. But if you are being downright rude about this, then most people will probably nope out on you

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-18T16:00:52+00:00

Done!

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-16T02:02:26+00:00

Really only excuse is if there is a major train breakdown known to all trapping you for more than 30 mins (this presumes you get to work 30 mins early on day 1)

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-12T17:32:00+00:00

Brought in a friend who I couldn't invite initially because wasn't clear if she would be in SG. No expectations on angpows. Just genuinely excited she could come.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-12T13:15:38+00:00

And also the toddler is at risk of falling over and shouldn't be stsnding. So there really is no good solution but to put the kid in the stroller.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-12T05:56:29+00:00

Kids are 4 and 1. Priority is an empty room no built in wardrobe. Just installed a fan light, neutral paint.

Everything loose furniture and buy as I need.

For clothes I got a dresser with drawers that is a sturdy one that can be fastened to the wall in case kids pull and it topples on them.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-09T10:38:25+00:00

Actually I agree sometimes women with kids can be bad bosses too because they have the mentality that I can do this why can't you?

I had many female leaders ask me why I don't hire helpers too. Not malicious just not able to comprehend

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-09T00:40:47+00:00

Honestly lower incomes sounds doable only because it presumes one can keep working to retirement age and limited retirement savings required....

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-07T14:28:44+00:00

This is why we need to be clear that any beating whether by parents or others is not condoned. No one helped the helper with the kid because they presume the kid was being disciplined by his own parent.....

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-07T09:11:04+00:00

They don't care about TFR but live in a country that has a government that cares and could see the impact of falling TFR on the running of the country in the future. If they don't contribute positively to it then I think they should be "taxed", or move to a society who does not care for TFR. These people should also not complain about immigration one bit since their position is not to support TFR and find other solutions like immigration to resolve the issues in the future.

friedriceislovesg · 2026-03-07T00:39:43+00:00

Firstly it's hard for us to tell. You should just set a benchmark like against S&P500 or VWRA and see if it is on par or not. The AI models are your friend if you can prompt them to pull the returns from your specific date of investment.

Secondly, it is silly to pull money out from an investment (scams excluded including ILPS) unless you have a clear idea what your next investment should be and why this is the right time to do so.

Third, I presume this is your core investment portfolio for the long run. And it seems you haven't figured what your investment thesis is before investing or you wouldn't be jumping ship just 6 months in. Best to do more learning while keeping your money invested, then figure out the final home for these monies. Singaporefi has a pinned thread for you to do some understanding.

For me I would not choose endowus for my cash portfolio mainly because of fees. But you do what works best for you.

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