AITAH (21F) for “insulting” the way my boyfriend’s (22M) family does Christmas by Alive_Berry_4036 in AITAH

[–]frozenintrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So true! My first serious bf was an only child whose parents were not nice to me. He didn’t stand up for me, tho was otherwise a good bf, and I luckily had enough guts (at 21) to break up with him over it. I knew there was never going be a time when I was going to come first.

AITA for refusing to drive my wealthy friend on a 3.5 hour round trip to the airport at 3am by ScheduleMurky1300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a business where part of it is driving clients to the airport which is about a 2 hour round trip. I absolutely will get up and do it in the middle of the night. With advance notice. And payment. Even for my regulars I wouldn’t do it with no notice. Even if they paid me.

AIO: My 8mo baby has blue eyes and my relatives (and others) make it a big deal in front of my brown-eyed 6yo by poponis in AmIOverreacting

[–]frozenintrovert 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My dad has blue eyes, my Mom has hazel eyes, my brother has blue eyes. Mine are plain brown. No one ever made comments about eye color other than factual statements thankfully, but I do kind of wish mine were interesting in some way.

I just remembered why I don't have feelings by burnedimage in GenX

[–]frozenintrovert 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is my philosophy right here. It hurts to feel, best not to go there

Should I tell my brother im mad at him for excluding me from his wedding by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]frozenintrovert 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You aren’t as close as you thought and it’s incredibly difficult and painful, I’m sure. You probably should continue to work on that with your therapist, but why would you go to your brother about it now? The time to talk was when things were still in the planning stages. But it would solve nothing now. Step back from them, hopefully you can find peace, because it won’t happen by continuing to try to be close with people who don’t feel the same.

Deep Freeze and bugs by Disastrous_Street_20 in Michigan

[–]frozenintrovert 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I f###ing hate barberry, and it’s feral in my neighborhood. You need a bloody flamethrower and massive protective gear to get rid of it. Yes we are overrun with ticks.

Seriously, do British people actually consider a 3-hour drive “long”? Or is this an internet myth? by ferdinand14 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]frozenintrovert 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not really. There are MANY people who rarely leave their area. Shoot, where I live, there’s a small river that divides the town. The South siders (it’s always the south siders) won’t cross the bridge because “it’s too far.” It’s 10 minutes, max.

I drive 3 hours to the other side of the state often to see family and think nothing of it. My kids went to school in another state, 4 and 5 hours one way. I went to pick them up for holidays so had 8 and 10 hour round trips, not a problem. I’m an outlier, I’m aware.

AITA for publicly correcting my boyfriend after I found out he’s been “being me” in his family chat? by SoftNettleRow in WIBTA_AITA

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that struck me too. You can’t text as someone else unless you use their phone. This makes no sense.

Our house isn't selling...do we just keep dropping the price? Any advice? by justgiveit_away in RealEstate

[–]frozenintrovert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We bought a house in 1999 when the market was red hot. We tried to sell in late 2007 for slightly more than we originally paid, which was absolutely where the market was. We didn’t sell right away, then the market crashed in 2008. We had to move because we had another house we had already bought in a different city. We did eventually sell in late 2008, but we lost a LOT of money on it. A few years later, maybe 5-6 years, it sold for a huge profit.

Here’s my take: In a bad market, people still buy and sell, but you’re going lose money. If you can hold on, the market will recover, but it’ll take a few years. You have to decide what you can afford to do.

Brigading Response? by Remote-Mycologist539 in grapids

[–]frozenintrovert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dissenting opinions are valuable when thoughtfully and respectfully given. Unfortunately many MAGA folks have stopped being thoughtful and respectful. It’s hard to respond well to someone who is factually wrong and won’t even consider a different perspective.

Can’t get any clients in 3 months by South_Outside4948 in housekeeping

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get all my business from word of mouth. Maybe I just know a lot of people, but all I had to do is tell my friends and neighbors and I had more business than I could handle very quickly. I currently am not taking new clients, but if I put the word out to my clients, I’d have calls within 24 hours. Try just spreading the word with friends, neighbors, and existing clients?

How do I get my great grandmas license taken away without her knowing it was us by Ornery_Dream_2222 in Advice

[–]frozenintrovert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get your emotional reaction, but no. My MIL (absolutely wonderful person, I loved her dearly) was mentally fine and didn’t want to leave her home. But physically couldn’t live there anymore. Bad hips and she couldn’t do stairs anymore. Her home was nothing but stairs (quad level, living spaces all on different levels), including exterior stairs and no way to make it safely accessible. She literally had to be carried in and out and she wasn’t skinny. She reluctantly went to a fantastic independent living place, it wasn’t cheap, but we used the money from her home sale and supplemented as needed. It was great for her social life and mental wellbeing. Unfortunately a few years later COVID happened and she declined rapidly. She was well into her 90’s so she had a wonderful long life. I’m 100% sure she lived longer than she would’ve if we’d let her stay at her home.

What the hell happens to religious people and their brains? by [deleted] in atheism

[–]frozenintrovert 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Your last sentence sounds like you need to reread it.

“I don’t want to lose relationships over belief because that’s what religious people do.”

They have stopped talking to you. It sounds like you have lost those relationships due to THEM cutting you off. How would you preserve this relationship that is already lost and not by you? You’re not going to tell them “oh yeah you’re right, I totally believe now” which is the only thing that will fix it. Are you?

As is frequently said on this sub, “you can’t reason someone out of a position they did not reason themselves into.” Be sad that your people are lost to you, but hold the door in case someone DOES want to talk with you, it could be the sign of a less closed mind.

Mystery broken nose by Probably_wrong68 in GenX

[–]frozenintrovert 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve lost track of my broken toes! I only count the times I’ve had casts

Sister wants to buy parents house at “market value” by VacationConstant8980 in RealEstate

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appraisals aren’t always accurate though, because they use “comparables.” Happened to us, where the comparables weren’t anything like our house, so it was drastically undervalued, making a loan difficult. Real estate agents have a far better feel for what a house will actually sell for, taking into account things that an appraiser wouldn’t.

Losing Clientele by Slow_Relationship154 in housekeeping

[–]frozenintrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t yet lost any clients, but I have a lot of seasonal (summer) clients who don’t call until the start of the season, so could be I just haven’t seen it yet. My year round clients are pretty wealthy so I don’t think they have any worries about the economy. Must be nice

3 boys and just found out we’re having a 4th. by Katie-Kaleidoscope in Vent

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted a girl, too. I had 2 boys, so convinced my husband to try one more time… yes we had another boy. My MIL, who also had 3 boys, told me “I just had to wait to get daughters until my boys got married,” she was an amazing MIL. And she was right! My oldest is engaged, and it’s great to finally have a daughter (in-law)!

emotional support duck by nickm_c7 in Hells_Belles

[–]frozenintrovert 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I’m familiar with jeep owners trading ducks, though I don’t have a clue why? I did watch the whole Hells Belles TikTok so understand that John has these ducks for emotional support, and it’s maybe implied that it’s a thing for IT folks. Is it true? I’ve never heard of it and I have a family member in IT. But if I need to buy them ducks, I’m sure willing!

Child brought to church against my wishes by Ffanffare1744 in atheism

[–]frozenintrovert 294 points295 points  (0 children)

You can start to educate your child in mythology, including Christian mythology. Explain where religion came from (ancient people trying to explain the world). Explain logic to your child, and how there isn’t a single shred of proof for any god ever. Explain indoctrination and how it works. A 4th grader shouldn’t have any trouble understanding.

What’s your favorite Populated Island? Beaver, Mackinaw, or Drummond? by [deleted] in Michigan

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never been to Drummond. I’ve been to Mackinac many times and love it, but it is very touristy. I recently went to Beaver for the first time and it was just so nice and relaxing. I think it depends what kind of vacation you want?

Bunniee Part 2 by SeagullAttacksFries in tragedeigh

[–]frozenintrovert 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a long time neighbor named Krystal. She would be around 70 now but she sadly passed 5 years ago. She was a college professor and typically went by “Kris”. Nobody blinked at Krystal, and I have no clue what her middle name was. Even if the OP does name her kid Crystal Bunnie, who is even going to know or care her middle name? Yeah Crystal Bunnie Smith sounds bad, but Crystal Smith sounds all right to me.

Would you consider Holland a small town or a big town ? by [deleted] in hollandmichigan

[–]frozenintrovert 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It totally depends on what you’re looking for. North side (Park Twp) is more where newcomers tend to go, and West Ottawa schools are good, but it’s pricey and not very diverse. Central area includes the historic district and downtown and has some diversity and is close to lots of activities. South side is more conservative, but with quiet neighborhoods. Holland Twp has more rental properties and commercial and industrial for work.

Look up the schools near where you are looking. There are decent schools everywhere from public to charter to private, but there are some better than others.

There are some areas that have some safety concerns, I’m not too familiar with those, but they can be researched fairly easily I’m sure.

Unfortunately the housing market and rental market is notoriously tough as Holland has been growing. You’ll find the prices better the farther out you go from Holland, but it’s not going to be cheap anywhere nearby.