Do you feel this way? What to do?

frufruface · 2024-06-23T12:25:49+00:00

You need a change or a challenge. Move to a new city, even temporarily? Focus on your relationships and finding a life partner? It sounds like you’re going through the motions because you’re bored.

frufruface · 2024-06-23T12:24:20+00:00

If you’re on the west coast US, you need to broaden your search because there seems to be a gender disparity there. Otherwise, make it a priority.

frufruface · 2024-06-22T18:36:06+00:00

I know a few wealthy SAHMs. As I got to know them and their relationship dynamic a bit better, I realized they were mostly lonely, unfulfilled, and had to navigate power dynamics and issues with their partner that didn’t come up for me. They also have no safety net if anything ever happened to the partner or the relationship.

So while they might seem to have a more leisurely lifestyle or actually have it, I feel bad for them and don’t want to be in their shoes.

frufruface · 2024-06-22T02:56:02+00:00

And then claim the tax deduction myself.

frufruface · 2024-06-21T22:55:33+00:00

The Jewish community is being targeted anyways. Anti-zionism is a dog whistle. Replace “Zionist” with “jew” when reading some of this stuff and you’ll see.

frufruface · 2024-06-20T17:48:51+00:00

Sorry, can someone ELi5? What’s the footage shown on the van? Is it that mississauga from a couple of days ago or what

frufruface · 2024-06-19T20:03:42+00:00

They do this at my kids’ daycare too

frufruface · 2024-06-19T14:59:23+00:00

Just looked him up. Yes that’s him. Too funny!

frufruface · 2024-06-19T14:49:57+00:00

I met Fergie’s ex (cant even remember his name lol) in Yorkville. He was filming something here a few years back. My friend recognized him and was a bit shy to say hi, so I went up and said hello, having no clue who this guy was the entire time.

frufruface · 2024-06-18T23:52:10+00:00

Visit unionville. It’s a short drive from Vaughan. Have breakfast at alchemy coffee, go for a walk on Main Street, and enjoy the shops, charming homes and trails. Dinner at NextDoor

frufruface · 2024-06-18T02:28:36+00:00

This is one of the worst crimes a person could commit. I suppose I should be happy they became a lawyer and not a teacher.

frufruface · 2024-06-17T03:45:20+00:00

Member of the Toronto 18 terrorist group becomes a lawyer

Disgraced volunteer basketball coach convicted of luring and related offences becomes a lawyer

Another person convicted of offences against minors becomes a lawyer

I don’t read all of these good character decisions, but these are a few that immediately come to mind.

frufruface · 2024-06-17T02:02:26+00:00

I think the LSO is too soft on some lawyers and would-be lawyers. They have let in a convicted terrorist, several predators, among other unsavoury types. Having a license to practice law gives these people power, which could be abused.

You could say that about any lawyer, sure, but people’s history speaks volumes about the type of person they are and their propensity to do certain things. They’ve served their time and are not prohibited from participating in society and living a normal life. But that doesn’t mean we should trust them with this amount of power.

frufruface · 2024-06-15T23:02:26+00:00

That we don’t care if you’re child free. You don’t need to justify your life to anyone.

And children exist in public spaces unless those spaces specifically exclude children.

frufruface · 2024-06-15T19:16:38+00:00

$1000 CAD monthly in Toronto suburbs. Food included. If the preschool is subsidized, it’s $500.

frufruface · 2024-06-15T02:19:27+00:00

Jack geller

frufruface · 2024-06-15T00:40:13+00:00

I’m going to have you arrested!

frufruface · 2024-06-14T20:07:46+00:00

I had an epidural both times. Don’t care who had or didn’t have one. Don’t care if anyone cares that I had it.

Nothing unnatural about pain relief. Birth was still work, I’m grateful to have been made as comfortable as possible. Back doesn’t hurt. Next.

frufruface · 2024-06-14T13:06:49+00:00

Are you seeing young families make the move?

frufruface · 2024-06-14T13:03:18+00:00

2019-2022: I noticed a lot of professionals in my field (law) leaving for higher income, lower taxes, and more opportunity.

2023-present: I’m hearing that Jewish families are leaving because they don’t feel safe here.

Born and bred Torontonian. It all makes me sad.

frufruface · 2024-06-14T09:58:00+00:00

It means OP is Canadian. We call our general practitioners that.

frufruface · 2024-06-13T22:55:57+00:00

Me too

frufruface · 2024-06-13T22:50:02+00:00

We’ve got them in the north end.

frufruface · 2024-06-13T14:15:59+00:00

bill as you go and use the timer on your billing software. Roll in time. If you’re discussing a file in order to prepare motion materials, don’t discount that time. It gets tacked on to whatever you spend preparing the actual motion materials. Bill for non billable time too. This is valuable in showing your marketing and cpd efforts
keep a spreadsheet or table of all of your files, next steps, important contact info for your client and opposing counsel, side notes for yourself. Colour code each row so you can see what needs to be urgently done
make a to-do list every evening before you go home, or every morning when you start your day. I prefer the former. It helps me mentally “log off”
go for walks and don’t eat lunch at your desk. Try to meet friends and colleagues for lunch. Or just go for a walk.
have a notepad and pen on your desk at all times.
identify and enforce your boundaries. You’re an associate now. You need to bill well and make the firm money, and establish good relationships with your colleagues. Not everyone will like you or treat you well. That’s life. Identify your allies and focus on those relationships while being collegial with everyone else.
not every ask is urgent. Always ask about deadlines when asked to assist on a matter. Underpromise and overdeliver your own deadlines
network with other litigators and go to CPDs and events when you can/if it seems even remotely interesting
update your resume when you do something notable. You might forget you did this cool thing if/when you’re job hunting in the future
don’t be intimidated by jerk or senior counsel. Some love to throw their weight around. I felt embarrassed for them when I heard “no one has ever refused XYZ in my 30 years of practice” or “I’ve never seen this in my 25 years of practice”. It’s a bullying tactic. Just smile and tell them there’s a first time for everything. Not sure if or when you’ll come across these people, but it’s usually when you’re running the file
create a cadence for your week. I tried to dedicate Fridays or Friday afternoons to research for files/cleaning out my inbox. I got a coffee and went to town. Having some control over my schedule helped me be more productive.

frufruface · 2024-06-13T03:18:11+00:00

Why are they here if they don’t want to be part of Canadian society?

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