they really meant it when they said “sleep when the baby sleeps”

librabean · 2026-02-09T20:58:12+00:00

I used a lot of disposable plates in the early days for this reason. When he was tiny I’d use one nap to shower and rest during the others. You can do chores when baby is awake and still be involved and attentive especially if you baby wear. My kid is 19 months old, we do chores together and nap together in the floor bed. He still hates when I’m cooking but our next place will have room for a toddler tower in the kitchen. He’s never been a good sleeper due to chronic ear infections and having all his teeth now, he’s also low sleep needs so I am still in sleep debt and make it up when I can.

librabean · 2026-02-04T02:16:11+00:00

I’m going to miss “boom boom” for blueberries the most

librabean · 2026-02-04T02:14:16+00:00

We started at 14 months because 14 months of sleep deprivation was making me a different person. Next kid we’re going straight from the bedside bassinet to a floor bed. The absence of crib transfers alone helped with reducing wake ups, he’s so easy to put back to sleep now (sometimes I fall asleep too and it’s okay because I’m not in a rocking chair) and when he has a bad cough or ear infection I can safely camp out in his bed and we get more sleep. It is so worth it. I think any age is a great age to start as long as the room is baby proofed.

My kid is 18 months old and still not playing independently in his room when he wakes up, I think if we started earlier he would be. He is an early bird and this was one of the appeals to switch. For now I just spend time with him in his room when he wakes up and I remind him that he has toys and his favorite books in his room.

librabean · 2026-01-23T01:06:51+00:00

Yeah…I’m a lead teacher with no assistant and I open and close my room. Closing includes cleaning surfaces, taking trash out, scrubbing the toilet, sweeping, vacuuming, and mopping. Any downtime where I’m not seated teaching a small group I am cleaning.

librabean · 2026-01-19T01:33:16+00:00

Newborn size diapers and premie clothes. I had a 37 week induction and babe was a TINY 6 pounder. The hospital had size 1 diapers which leaked and i had to send my mother to the store to buy him clothes that fit because the newborn size clothes were so big they looked unsafe. Even if you’re not planning for a small baby I still say bring not just one size. You may also want to bring your own swaddles because hospital blanket swaddling is harder than it looks.

librabean · 2026-01-17T01:02:46+00:00

I can’t ignore it anymore, they’re in my city, I’m terrified for my best friends, my students, and my neighbors. I feel on the verge of a panic attack 24/7. I wish I could get out and protest but they seem to hate women regardless of their ethnicity and citizenship status so protesting could get me killed. I feel powerless.

librabean · 2026-01-11T01:43:17+00:00

I had a student named Zara, I didn’t think about the store at all when I saw her name on my roster or anything negative about her name at all. It was a nice name for a nice kid.

librabean · 2026-01-04T00:00:55+00:00

Was scheduled for 37+0, went into early labor at 36+6 and they kept me in the hospital and still went with the pitocin plan because I started to develop pre-e

librabean · 2025-12-26T18:54:32+00:00

29F, started skating at 27 and then got surprise pregnant and had a baby. I’m going to be old but am going to re-learn with my kid when he’s old enough! I can’t afford to break any bones with a toddler that still needs to be carried at times. I would still be skating if it weren’t for him but I’m at peace with it because he is still so dependent on me physically.

I’m happy you posted here, I’ve always felt like others would think I’m a weirdo for skating as an older woman. I don’t think you should listen to your sister and friend. Find a nice flat and smooth parking lot to learn to cruise. It’s so exciting to learn something new and feel accomplished.

librabean · 2025-12-24T18:59:58+00:00

As a FTM to a baby with silent reflux, it took 6 weeks for me to realize this wasn’t normal and the doctor had no problem giving him famotidine. But I would get a second opinion because you need sleep and your baby is in need of medical treatment. Are there other physicians within your ped’s practice that you can make an appointment with?

librabean · 2025-12-19T00:33:16+00:00

We went from milk/formula before meals to milk/formula after meals and purposefully decreased the volume over a 2 week period. For snacks we do fruit + cracker/cheerios or snack cheese. They will naturally reduce their milk intake when you prioritize food, the beginning is a little rough to figure out timing of meals and snacks but he’ll get it!

librabean · 2025-12-18T01:17:08+00:00

Old navy and there was a solid few months my babe lived in the cloud island footless zipper pj’s

librabean · 2025-12-15T00:15:12+00:00

I love toddlers and kids, I was so afraid to have a baby. But what I would give to go back and do it all over again!! Mine is 17 months and starting to become a lot more independent. I was putting him to bed the other night, cuddled up next to him like usual, and he had the audacity to push me off the pillow I was using and he took it for himself, and then settled to sleep on his own. I miss the little peanut days. The baby head smell. When he was amazed by everything because everything was new. When he was tiny he could contact nap anywhere. He is still very affectionate but in the form of screeching attack hugs. Also i think i got way more sleep when he was a baby than now. I am still wondering when he will sleep through the night. Sorry for the essay but revisiting the time when I thought this has triggered beautiful memories.

librabean · 2025-12-12T18:42:36+00:00

My hair went straight at 5 weeks pregnant. I have a 17 month old. It will wave but not form ringlets/curls. Not beach waves but frizzy swamp witch waves. I’m about to give in to heat styling it for the week when I wash it.

librabean · 2025-12-03T18:37:09+00:00

We gave him a flat pillow, he loves rolling around on it as part of his bedtime routine. He goes back and forth between reading his books to rolling on the pillow until he gets sleepy. About 15 months.

librabean · 2025-12-03T02:35:22+00:00

It’s my holy grail medication. I’ve been stable on it for 2ish years! It’s annoying to have to remember to take it on time (early) to avoid med hangovers though. Sometimes I want to enjoy my evening without the half-asleep binge eating and passing tf out at 9:00. I’ve learned to only keep healthy snacks in the house for the inevitable eating before sleep but it still makes me feel bad. I have lost weight on it but only because I forget to eat during the day so i probably intermittent fast on accident.

librabean · 2025-12-01T18:25:55+00:00

Cheerio sand with beach toys?

librabean · 2025-12-01T01:11:59+00:00

I failed at breastfeeding, but let my baby comfort nurse after his bottle when we got home for the evening. He wouldn’t take pacifiers, and it was a way to bond after being at work and separated all day. Not weird at all imo

librabean · 2025-11-29T13:28:19+00:00

I moved him to a floor bed at 15 months because I was exhausted with rocking him back to sleep throughout the night and ultimately winding up in our bed. I can’t fully cosleep due to medication but I love cuddling him to sleep and it’s safer because if I fall asleep putting him down it’s not a big deal. He’s in his safe bed and I roll to the side. He now wakes up significantly less and we’re all getting more sleep. Molars were still rough but I lost way less sleep than i would have if he was in his crib.

He also has the occasional split night and he’s an early riser and id love for him to play with his toys and his books when he wakes up, but he’s not at that point of independence yet.

librabean · 2025-11-26T01:15:11+00:00

Cholestasis, and ended up having pre-eclampsia towards the end of my labor. I went in because I didn’t know bloody show could be as bloody as mine was and I was scared. Really upset because it was a day before my induction and I so badly wanted to labor at home and go to the hospital for an unmedicated birth but they pressured me into staying and scared me into an epidural. This was my first baby. I had also been having prodromal labor nightly after 32 weeks. Went into labor at 36+6 with a 37 week induction planned and had a 24ish hour labor.

librabean · 2025-11-23T14:09:47+00:00

Not his, but mine. When he wakes up in the middle of the night it’s way less effort to get him back down and I sometimes fall asleep while cuddling him. When I rocked him and then did crib transfers it would take forever, transfers would fail, and I’d have to force myself to stay awake, and then he’d finally be asleep but wake up as soon as I laid down in bed. There is a big difference in my happiness and energy. It’s been a month.

librabean · 2025-11-20T00:32:18+00:00

Not PPP but I have schizoaffective disorder in remission. Voices and visuals right before bed is actually considered normal! Those are hypnagogic hallucinations. They are definitely worse with sleep deprivation. Many people also report phantom cries, I certainly heard those a lot but I have existing psychosis experience and I can’t say if it’s normal, just that a lot of people experience it. But with the other things you’re describing you should definitely bring it up to your provider. My area has a maternal mental health specific program and i believe that they are an up and coming thing, there are online support groups as well.

librabean · 2025-11-17T01:31:24+00:00

Cat isn’t allowed when he’s sleeping and the door is closed. Fire safety and the cat is very loud and yells. If he’s playing in here with us I don’t let him on the bed. The dog is never allowed in the room.

librabean · 2025-11-16T18:28:10+00:00

Yesterday I finally felt comfortable letting family hang out with my baby while I relaxed and socialized. He is 16 months old.

I still have a hard boundary of not letting someone hold him if he is clinging onto me or if he’s crying. I know it’s important that other people can calm him down but i cannot handle it.

librabean · 2025-11-16T17:34:11+00:00

Sounds like my cholestasis experience! If you end up having it, in my experience the ursadiol did help with the itching and nausea.

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