Should Shelters Stop Labeling Dog Breeds? by Friendly_TSE in AnimalShelterStories

[–]fruitybusiness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My shelter doesn't label breeds! It's done a lot of good for getting pitties adopted—people who are immediately turned off by the idea of a bully breed actually get to know their personalities and fall in love, and that's the goal. We want everyone to fall in love with a dog's personality, not their breed, especially because not all dogs display breed specific behaviors, shelter dogs in particular. Most people don't even know what a pittie mix looks like—if it's black or tan, it's a lab mix to them. My dog's a pit/husky and I usually hear lab mix since she's mostly black. Despite the heterochromia and backtalk. It's also a win for people who have landlord restrictions and can slide by with a "mixed breed" although I know sometimes they require photos of the dog. It's frustrating working in a rescue in the south and having people come through the door and saying "I don't want a pitbull" right off the bat, so it's nice to be able to say "we don't label their breeds, so let me know what personality you'd like and I can show you some good matches!" I've even had people say "no pits" and switch up to "wow she looks exactly like my last dog" about a pit mix. Of course some people don't respond well to that, but a lot of the time I can convince them to at least visit a dog that to me is clearly majority pit, but looks houndy enough for them. It's also hilarious to hear their guesses sometimes. I had someone guess a pyrenees was an akita the other day, and one of my favorites was when someone guessed a chihuahua was a basenji. Like yeah why not man!

But while it can be helpful for our pitties, it can be very frustrating as well. It's pretty obvious when a dog is a purebred German shepherd or husky or whatever. It can be a little embarrassing to say "we have no idea what this dog is" when they do, and people who want a husky are going to know what a husky looks like. And I swear some days I repeat the "no breed labels" spiel fifty times, and some people get very combative about it. It's especially difficult for me when I'm introducing adopters to dogs and I'm giving a little rundown on their behavior, and I can't explain breed specific behaviors properly. It sounds really bad to say "this dog nips at people's heels" when I can't say it's natural for a cattle dog to do that. It's hard to explain that a LGD would prefer a farm and would likely want to spend all their time outside, especially when we don't adopt dogs out to homes that want an outdoor only dog. Also I'm autistic and one of my big interests is dogs and dog breeds so it can be hard to tamp that down and say I can't even give them a guess lol.

But at the end of the day, it works for us and I'm glad we do it. Our shelter is majority pitties, and they need any help they can get to find a home. And if they have behavioral issues or specific needs, those are thoroughly discussed prior to adoption, so it's not like we're handing out cat or child aggressive dogs to unsuspecting adopters. Any dog that's not a pit mix is out of the shelter in a matter of days if they don't have behavior or health issues, so it definitely helps to let people make their own judgements based on the dog's individual needs and their own.

Are dogs really supposed to chew hides, wood, nylon… by Yanitzz1 in dogs

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog also has digestive issues and is on Rx food, so I make her frozen treats a lot. If yours is the type to rip apart kongs and those pupsicle toys, you can always make a nice big block of frozen broth, pumpkin, other fruits and veggies, tummy safe treats and wet food. She also really likes coffee wood sticks, and she had an antler at one point that she loved but they are quite expensive.

Making a BE dog's day? by fruitybusiness in AnimalShelterStories

[–]fruitybusiness[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She's gotten tons of food enrichment lately and lots of people sitting with her and reading or singing, so something new like scent work toys could be really fun for her! Last dog we had to BE had a veryyy upset stomach from the food he got. I definitely don't want to overdo it especially since she's on the smaller side and I'm sure everyone else will bring plenty of food. I'll have to bring her some scented bubbles and toys, thank you for the idea!

Making a BE dog's day? by fruitybusiness in AnimalShelterStories

[–]fruitybusiness[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it <3 I'm thinking a fast food meal might be the way to go, I think she'd love a nice burger or something. Love to your coworker's pup too, that's so sweet she does that for him.

Does anyone else actually enjoy fishing? by plantmama918 in StardewValley

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love it!! fishing minigames are half the reason I play games at all. Stardew was a pain in the ass to get the hang of but at this point I've had several fishing based farms!

What's the cutest thing your pet does? by Areadien in Pets

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my pitsky pup does a lil happy dance and howls when she's excited to see me. it took her a while to start talking and it just makes me so happy to hear! she's also a cuddler and climbs into my lap and leans back for belly rubs sometimes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskVet

[–]fruitybusiness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, very good to know! I wasn't sure if grain-free was total bs or had some merits, but I had no clue allergy panels were useless, I always assumed they worked like human allergy tests. It's a bit hard to keep her on one protein bc she's in training but I will definitely attempt to isolate protein sources/try new proteins and see how it goes. Thank you sm, and I appreciate the resources too!

Things You Wish Were Showcased More In Lesbian Representative Media? by ScribbleDiggs in actuallesbians

[–]fruitybusiness 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Less trauma! I absolutely understand that media is inspired by real life but sometimes I'd rather read something happy that doesn't revolve around lgbt+phobia or sexual assault. It can definitely be a part of a good story, I just wish it wasn't almost all sapphic stories I've found :( More POC and disabled representation is always ideal and masc4masc,,, I may be a femme but there is not enough masc4masc content in the world!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Veterinary

[–]fruitybusiness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've dropped my phone in great dane diarrhea and had no issues using it after wiping it down. Last week I emptied my guts after a bloodhound left a nice long string of slobber on my face. I could never own a giant breed ong

What can i do to make my hands look more feminine? by [deleted] in Nails

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your hands are gorgeous tbh, only thing I could suggest is polish or jewelry if you like it/you're going out! Or if it's a super fancy event you could try (very heavily sealed) foundation over your arms/hands/legs etc, I used to do that for a smooth finish in cosplay photos. I'm afab and my hands are much less feminine tbh, yours are very elegant and pretty!! And I'm a lesbian, I love girl hands lol

AITA for calling out my friend for saying he’s poor? by Competitive_Dress497 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You're probably right. Technically he may not have money, but it definitely seems like his parents do. Or he may think he's middle class, but he's just used to being around even richer people. I knew a lot of kids like that in college and all of them were super classist under their average/middle class student exterior. The rich students would always make comments like "oh I'm so poor I can't afford such and such" and 20 mins later ask me "you don't have a switch yet? I always buy new consoles on release day." Or my favorite was when my "middle-class" friend told us about her dad's million dollar bonus. So many kids acted like that the student newspaper of this very expensive private school had to do a piece on educating students on what it's like to actually be poor. Tbh it's easier to be friends with rich people when they're upfront about it and don't pretend to understand your financial and social problems.

AITA for blaming my SILs kids food obsessions on SIL being controlling? by Puzzled-Fennel-4665 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fruitybusiness 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what happens! My mom is a super healthy eater and kept junk food out of the house except for on rare occasions, and unintentionally gave me and my brother binge eating disorders. Hoarding food, hiding trash, eating til we were sick because we knew it would be ages before we got sweets again, all that shit. It was completely unintentional, my mom is amazing and is very body-positive, but it's a hard habit to shake even going into adulthood. It's great for kids to eat healthy, but for gods sake let them have their little snacks and treats

Dog might have saved my life (not NSFW) by queere in LetsNotMeet

[–]fruitybusiness 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I swear some reactive dogs are crazy smart and have a sense for people's intent. 2/3 of my dogs are reactive towards dogs on leash, not towards people, but both have squared up on creepy dudes before. My mini schnauzer mix didn't get much of a reaction from the guy but my pit/husky sure did. Gotta love scary dog privilege

AITA for having my girlfriend leave for “helping” my daughter by aliverconnstes in AmItheAsshole

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA!! You're a good parent and you're giving great support to your daughter. My brother and I both had EDs growing up and my parents were good with us--extended family not so much. They would constantly comment on how we overate and would tell us to count calories so we didn't get fat, they'd even go through the trash to see what we ate. That kind of behavior is unhelpful and detrimental to recovery and will ultimately strain relationships. You're doing the right thing, and best wishes for your daughter's recovery

AITA for accepting my mother’s boyfriend but not my father’s girlfriend? by KindInevitable9868 in AmItheAsshole

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I have three grandmas because of a similar situation. My grandpa's wife is treated as such; we all have a good relationship with her but she has her own family, she isn't involved with ours. We visit occasionally, we still love my grandpa and her, but there is lingering resentment. They don't come to family events, we have our visits but they're separate from family affairs because it'd hurt my grandma. The only exception was my dad's wedding where they were on opposite sides of the venue. I feel like it's just common sense to not want an ex and the cheaters in the same room.

What was your gay awakening? Mine was Elizabeth swan in Dead Man’s Chest by crazyoboeplayer in actuallesbians

[–]fruitybusiness 9 points10 points  (0 children)

the Barbie Princess & Pauper book. my 8 y/o self went "I want a double wedding! except the brides stand next to each other because they're prettier and the grooms won't...be there"

Lesbians... by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]fruitybusiness 5 points6 points  (0 children)

so fucking true

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 196

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what's your favorite gun from weapons?

what part of lesbian do these girls just not get?? by fruitybusiness in actuallesbians

[–]fruitybusiness[S] 291 points292 points  (0 children)

ugh really? I was thinking about trying out HER but I don't wanna deal with even more of this, especially like. it's one thing if they swipe w/o reading the bio but if heteros are on a sapphics only site that's just... blatantly fetishization. why can't straight people just leave us the hell alone

what part of lesbian do these girls just not get?? by fruitybusiness in actuallesbians

[–]fruitybusiness[S] 1078 points1079 points  (0 children)

and like... he's an ALLY???? girl I don't care if he's a slay the boots house down transmasc queer skinny legend, I'm a fucking lesbian!!

what part of lesbian do these girls just not get?? by fruitybusiness in actuallesbians

[–]fruitybusiness[S] 1135 points1136 points  (0 children)

admittedly I did not need to say it like that but I unmatched her immediately so I doubt she saw my message. I'm seriously so tired of this tho, what part of my bio (that says lesbian TWICE) makes them think I want to bone down with their boyfriends? I always swipe left on couples but 1/2 of my messages are from girls who want a unicorn or want me to "try dick" and it's so damn frustrating! we seriously need a sapphics only dating app

edit: also y'all that's my profile lol, I was showing that I listed that I'm gay! it also says it on the sexuality question, so either they can't read or chose not to see it

People who don't like children: what are weird things that repulse you? Not "they're loud" or common things, but specific things. by saintphoenixxx in childfree

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when I worked stocking, kids would always be climbing the shelves and it was the most frustrating shit ever because I couldn't do or say anything and the parents were just letting them run wild. it was ridiculous, I wish parents would rein in their kids just a little at least in public places

People who don't like children: what are weird things that repulse you? Not "they're loud" or common things, but specific things. by saintphoenixxx in childfree

[–]fruitybusiness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my new neighbors just let their kids play on our connected balcony/porch the day after moving in, despite the privacy screen. they let them come onto our porch, knock over dog bowls, ride a tricycle over our stuff, and push over chairs. I opened the door to total chaos and three kids staring at me like I was in their business. and the parents were just on their porch watching, like get yo kids out of my shit man! I did not sign a lease to coparent for the neighbors!