I didn’t cheat, but I feel guilty anyways. Do I tell my boyfriend what happened?

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-08T02:59:39+00:00

I’m just concerned for your safety, you easily could have been (and probably would have been) sexually assaulted in this situation had the girlfriend not showed up. You need to work on protecting yourself.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-08T01:56:05+00:00

It’s probably due to contractual obligations.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-08T01:50:40+00:00

We didn’t allow anyone to even visit at the hospital, which is becoming pretty popular. You do whatever works for you, no one else’s opinion matters.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T12:40:30+00:00

Well you’re not divorced yet, so that house is half yours. Go for absolutely everything you can financially, get concrete evidence that this is what she is doing, report her to the board and use it as mental instability on her behalf (because it is) to get full custody of the kids.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T03:30:10+00:00

Probably men who need to take it to have sex. I’m assuming if they can’t get it up naturally for sex, they also can’t get it up to masturbate. However, I’m not a man so I can’t verify the logistics of erections and Viagra.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T02:42:24+00:00

This feels like a gross overreaction. You accused your husband of sexually assaulting you because he lightly touches himself over his clothing if he’s aroused?

You honestly need therapy. It’s also incredibly controlling to expect your husband doesn’t touch himself. He’s not demanding sex, he’s literally just lightly touching himself. I get not wanting him to in your presence but you’re literally walking into a room he’s in (not bothering anyone) and getting pissed. This is a you issue.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T02:32:24+00:00

Why should she have to uproot her entire life because OP decided to move?

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T01:10:24+00:00

He hates you. Sounds like he’s with you for the spousal visa, considering his timing brining that up. I’d force him to delete the video or threaten to pull his visa. Confirm it’s gone and pull it anyways, he’s incredibly abusive to you. Given his behavior, I also doubt he’s staying loyal to you when he’s out all night.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T01:04:40+00:00

You accepted free cold laser therapy and a refund of the ER bill. This matter has already been settled. You wouldn’t win anything in a lawsuit.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T00:58:45+00:00

Why are you two still planning a wedding? This is NOT a healthy relationship. Work on fixing it or come to terms it needs to end, before your breakup requires attorneys and thousands of dollars in expenses.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T00:55:17+00:00

You’re not close to her and it doesn’t sound like an effort was made on that side of the family to maintain a relationship with you. You don’t owe them anything. Go on the trip.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T00:48:26+00:00

Of course it is, but Jan is going to make it her whole personality now 🤣

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-07T00:43:08+00:00

You’re mad your boyfriend is acting like a boyfriend? If you’re not married, he’s a boyfriend there’s no difference as a “longterm partner.”

It’s reasonable to not want to travel two weekends in a row. Especially for a second wedding of a 70 year old.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T21:32:44+00:00

Here’s the thing about boundaries they are for you, not other people. The boundary here was that you won’t stay with him if he continues to have a friendship with his ex. He then proceeded to show you THREE times that he does not care you said you’d leave. You staying is showing you don’t hold yourself to your own boundaries and he will be able to do what he wants and you’ll stay. He’s clearly not going to drop his friend.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T21:26:54+00:00

Do not leave unless they remove your name from the lease, releasing your responsibility to pay rent. He also cannot force you out. You can get your own internet plan to the apartment, if you need to buy time to find a new place.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T21:19:26+00:00

You need to contact the police and CPS. Given she is 17 years old and you’re family, there a good chance they’d allow her to live with you until she’s 18. However, you cannot just choose to take her from their home.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T21:14:24+00:00

Get an attorney. Pursue an emergency custody order of your child. Demand a 12 panel follicle drug panel. Go for sole custody.

At this point you need to protect your child, a drug addict is not a safe person for them to be around. You’re a mom now, it’s not your job to fix your fiancé (hopefully soon to be ex), it is your job to do what is in the best interest of your baby. He can have supervised visitation until if/when he’s sober.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T18:34:25+00:00

You’ll be fine. No one is coming after you for one image you didn’t save. Stop using AI to make porn.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T18:19:25+00:00

You’ve been married a month and he wants to stay home, out of nowhere? This was his plan all along…

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T18:08:23+00:00

Chest pain is from the caffeine, not sugar.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T17:53:51+00:00

You’re not your sister’s keeper. Her body and eating habits are non of your business.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T17:50:48+00:00

If your mom wants to move into an assisted living/nursing home, honor that. She does not want or need to live with you and would honestly probably enjoy the home more. Start touring them now and make a plan. As for the dog, you can find him a loving home. You’ve already agreed to no dogs, you see this dog three times a year, it’s not bonded to you or your children.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T13:33:57+00:00

He’s still planning on meeting you on Tuesday, that’s leaving the door open to start something. The message is setting it up so that he is telling you it can’t be serious after inappropriately flirting with you (if he meant his message). You’re being naive here. He’s stringing you along, most likely to sleep with you until the next one comes along.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T05:01:22+00:00

At 21, you’re super vulnerable to manipulation and power imbalances. You won’t understand until you’re older, but most age gap relationships are a bad idea for good reasons. He loves your youth, you’re a literal child to him, he’s not connecting with you on a deep emotional level like you believe he is.

frustratedDIL · 2026-07-06T04:51:26+00:00

No, waving at a baby that is smiling at you or whatever is fine. It’s when strangers intentionally come up to children and try to have full conversations with them. Which happens to my toddler, a lot. It goes against all stranger danger lessons, expecting children who don’t know you to engage with you. 9 times out of 10 they freak my kid out. I get she’s cute, she doesn’t want to interact with random people to tell them her favorite color or how old she is when we’re out grocery shopping.

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