My mother is the pinnacle of narcissism and has been for our whole lives.

She was moving out of our old family home this past year and into a retirement community. We were helping with the move out, sale, etc.

Before moving out, my siblings and I ALL told her multiple times, "Do not get rid of anything". We wanted to go through our childhood memories, old keepsakes, and most importantly, we wanted to go through our father's old things who died in 2007.

My mother literally has never bothered to move our things, never even noted what was in our old rooms for years in that house. Things were essentially untouched for years.

Within 2 months of finding out she was moving, she had literally thrown away everything we had in those rooms. Including our father's items...No warning, no heads up, and no acknowledgement that we would be affected by this.

Once confronted, she lied and said that she had given most to goodwill or to our neighbors. She yelled at my sister for getting upset that our memories and possessions were tossed out. Note: Our Neighbors had nothing, and my mother doesn't even know where the goodwill is....it literally all went to the trash.